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Life is good and my fellow man/woman is good!
My dad had a quadruple bypass and stints in 2007 and was put on several medications. By summer of 2008 his Dr. felt that his condition had improved to the point that his medication dose could be lowered and he could snorkle, not scuba dive but snorkling was better then nothing. So in August of 2008 they took their annual trip to Kona, HI and they were able to snorkle at their favorite spot, Two Steps. Once my Dad got in the water he got a weird cramp and was very concerned, he told my Mom he was scared. It passed and he said he was ok but then he immediately went limp. My Mom screamed for help and a boat with a couple of retired Navy Men came to her aid. They helped her pull Dad out of the water and they quickly got him to shore and were performing CPR and Chest Compressions the entire time. The paramedics came and took him to the hopital. The Navy Men insisted on following my Mom to the hospital. Once at the hospital a local minister and his wife came to the hospital to sit with my Mom. The Dr. told her that my Dad had suffered a massive heart attack and that his brain had been without oxygen for so long he would be brain dead. There was a very small chance he would live when taken off of life support and if he did he would be brain dead. My Mom was in Hawaii alone with her dying husband. Thankfully the Navy Men and Minister and his Wife stayed with her. She had us fax over Dad's DNR - Do Not Recessitate order. My older sister left immediately to join my Mom in Hawaii and we tried to convince Mom to wait until someone was there with her to unplug my Dad from life support but she did not want him to be kept alive against his wishes when he was brain dead and she found the strength and support through caring strangers to have him unplugged. The Minister and his wife drove my Mom to the place Dad and her had been staying, she collected her stuff and they paid for her to stay at another hotel for the remainder of her stay as it was too painful to return to there room. I did not have the money to get to Hawaii but my older sister could only stay for one day and I wanted to be with my Mom. Not only did my work give me one week of bereavement, all my co-workers got together and gave me enough cash for a round trip ticket to Hawaii, food and expenses. I was able to be there with my Mom, to comfort her, to wait for my Dad's ashes and to bring him home. Although the loss of my Dad was and still is extremely painful, the compassion shown, the comfort given and the giving of time and money by strangers, loved ones and co-workers in this awful time was and always will be extremely moving.