Converting the significant other

[Cycles Gladiator]

So over two months ago, I made the switch - both me and my SO were going to vape, but....well I got pretty obsessed with it. My constant talking about it made her not want to try it at all. She would try it ever so often, usually when she didn't have a pack, but never liked it too much. Last time though (also now that I don't talk about it constantly, or much at all) she admitted it isn't so bad after all. And tonight, I was trying out a cherry limeade - which went quite nice with some cocktails we made - and she asked me what flavor I had. She was hesitant to try it (she is very picky, and so far I've only gotten her to try a champagne flavor, and one tiny puff of a 555) but I told her it would go well with her drink. She tried it, and said it was actually really good. As I start to puff on it, she asks for it again. I take it back to my desk to do some work, and she looks over, then looks back, I ask if she wanted my PV again, and she said yup. She's had it for about the last hour now - while I like my mod, I'm happy to use my ego in attempts to convert her. She did go out to smoke, but only smoked half a cigarette in the last few hours (woot). No paycheck for her till Monday, and only one pack left - maybe this will do some good toward switching toward vaping. Letting her take her own course, and it's working pretty well.

Sorry, I know this isn't a terribly exciting post, but if you knew her like I do, it's a huge step.

 

[Topdogie01]

letting her go on her own speed is probally more effective than any other way to try it. my girlfriend wants to try mine but keeps choking on any ammount of vapor, still trying to work on getting her to like it. she likes some of the flavors i have but doesnt like the choking/coughing she end up doing.

 

[jfango]

At least you're having some luck at converting your SO, mine has only gone so far as trying two very short pulls on one of mine.....and hasn't touched or asked about it since....and I've been at this for almost 3 months! Good Luck!

 

[Equus5O]

I've been vaping just about a month now. He said he would see how I did, and then he would start. I don't bug him and ask him when he's going to start, but I do bust his chops about being stinky and blow vapor at him. We went to a get-together at a friends over the weekend, and he was walking around tooting on my second Spinner, saying to everyone "Yeah, it's pretty good. I'm going to get my own and start soon." Uh huh. Sure you are......

 

[SissySpike]

She dose not want to quit smoking. Your new found obsession is making her mad at your success and her failure. Its just how people seem to react. She probably dose not even know why your vaping makes her so irritated it just dose. Just be ready to pounce at any sign of desire to stop smoking.

Edit: Knowing why she is a grouch about your vaping will not stop her people are who they are but knowing where she is coming from might help you accept her negativity a little better.

 

[Commie]

What worked for me (or rather for my wife) is me showing her that thread about "show us your girlified pretty pink PVs". She started with some decorated egos, and recently graduated to a pink L-Rider Robust with some dangly charms hanging off it. Now she wants a bedazzled IBTanked and trippy tips.

Interestingly, she cares about flavor and delivery mechanism much less than how well it matches her purse To each their own, but you can try showing her that thread...

 

[Myk]

I've been vaping just about a month now. He said he would see how I did, and then he would start. I don't bug him and ask him when he's going to start, but I do bust his chops about being stinky and blow vapor at him. We went to a get-together at a friends over the weekend, and he was walking around tooting on my second Spinner, saying to everyone "Yeah, it's pretty good. I'm going to get my own and start soon." Uh huh. Sure you are......

My roommate did/does the same thing. I had him taste flavors to figure out what would work. Figured out a simple carto set up would be best for him. Now we have 4 batteries for cartos here that he won't touch (and I almost can't stand cartos), just keeps on buying more cigarettes. He even told the doctor he was switching when he obviously had no plans to even try beyond the one cigarette's worth he had already tried at that point.

I think he wants to but he's afraid to go without cigarettes and afraid to fail at not smoking if he tries.

 

[Kopfstimmen]

Let her vape your juice, and smoke when she wants to. Some people quit immediately (as my friend did), and some take their time (as I did). Try not to pressure your SO. I probably wouldn't have quit, had I been pressured, but after 6 months, I eventually did on my own. I'm pretty sure it will "stick" better, too. I was super proud of myself for leaping off that cliff, but I would have just been resentful, had I felt that I was "forced" to do it. I would add "my two cents" to this post, but I'm 95% sure that I'm right.
Good luck!
*edit* PS: Let her pick flavors she might like when you order new juice (if you don't already). The power of choice helps, too.

 

[mare ze dotes]

What worked for me (or rather for my wife) is me showing her that thread about "show us your girlified pretty pink PVs". She started with some decorated egos, and recently graduated to a pink L-Rider Robust with some dangly charms hanging off it. Now she wants a bedazzled IBTanked and trippy tips.

Interestingly, she cares about flavor and delivery mechanism much less than how well it matches her purse To each their own, but you can try showing her that thread...

I was about to suggest this. Im a girl and I want the pretty ones. I covet some of those shown in that thread. As it is, I like the lighter (as in weight of device) ones in girly colors. Another idea is to get some fruity flavours. I have noticed that when out with my friends the gals tend to go for the fruity drinks that rather than the whisky sour. (Just an observation, no offence to our whisky drink'in gal members)

 

[Butters78]

Stock up on that flavor vato and maybe order some that are similar so she won't be bored. Is she a girly girl? Maybe you can order her a pink type mod or something as a gift. You can get a jwrap custom made of new kids on the block, I keed. Her favorite singer or band may work though.

 

[Iktinos]

I started vaping about a week ago. Our roommate picked up a Blu, and was enjoying it. I let the wife try mine, as she normally only smokes cloves once in a while. I had told her about how a fairly local vape place had clove flavor, with 0, 6, 12, and I believe 18 mg of nicotine. She didn't mind mine much, I am running Chilly Peach currently. Then today, she tells me that she is probably going to get a Blu, as she tried the roommate's and liked it. I know that she only smokes when she drinks, and that isn't often at all (Maybe once every other month at best), so I mentioned that the Blu may not be the best way to go ($10 at the local smoke shop) as it is a disposable, and there is no telling how long a battery will last (She might smoke the equivalent to three cigarettes in a night, then what happens if she doesn't use it again for two or even up to four months?), and that the fairly local vape shop has an e-Go model for $30. Probably better, so if she doesn't smoke that much, and she is only going to vape every two to four months, she can always make sure that it has a fresh charge before heading out. And she can try different flavors instead of being locked into tobacco and menthol.

 

[alisa1970]

My BF is a no-go. When I first started, he was curious and wanted to try the flavors. He didn't like any of the 15 or so that I had. After about 2 weeks, I would offer him to try something new and he would but would always make a bad face and shake his head "no".

The last straw for him was that I was vaping Kringle's Curse (peppermint) and he asked what flavor I was vaping. I told him peppermint and I knew he wouldn't want it because he hates mint. But because he was curious, I offered. He took. Absolutely hated it--I asked why he wanted to try it, and he says it smelled kind of nice.

Ever since then he refuses to try anything and says the vapor makes his lungs feel funny, and he always "jokes" about how in 5 years we'll see vaping on those "bad drug" commercials.

He claims he's gonna quit cold turkey soon--yeah, right, after 30 years smoking. Oh well, he might change his mind down the road.

 

[Fizzpop]

My SO and I converted at the same time. She was skeptical, but willing to try. Three days in, she was hooked. We will never go back to analogs. Good luck with the ongoing conversion!

 

[Commie]

Alisa, you could try to find juice that matches his favorite food or drink, and vape it around him

 

[Fizzpop]

And Cinnamon Bun. We have 10 juices in the house and my wife only vapes her Cinnamon Bun.

 

[Hippieangst]

Let her vape your juice, and smoke when she wants to. Some people quit immediately (as my friend did), and some take their time (as I did). Try not to pressure your SO. I probably wouldn't have quit, had I been pressured, but after 6 months, I eventually did on my own. I'm pretty sure it will "stick" better, too. I was super proud of myself for leaping off that cliff, but I would have just been resentful, had I felt that I was "forced" to do it. I would add "my two cents" to this post, but I'm 95% sure that I'm right.
Good luck!
*edit* PS: Let her pick flavors she might like when you order new juice (if you don't already). The power of choice helps, too.

Couldn't agree more. When I was in transition, I had a real hard time letting go of the stinkies and bounced between part time vaping and smoking for about 2 weeks. My SO and I went out of town for the weekend, and that's when I took the plunge with vape only. So, maybe let her choose some flavors and plan a vape-cation.

 

[MartiP]

Ever since then he refuses to try anything and says the vapor makes his lungs feel funny

I'm curious as to what PG/VG ratio you use, because I have a big problem with higher VG juices making my lungs feel awful and heavy and clogged. It also makes my tongue and throat feel coated in slime. I just can't vape anything higher than 30% VG, max. If the first thing I had vaped had been, say, 50% VG, I'd have been turned off entirely. If he's ever curious again, it may be worth your while to just happen to have some different ratio juices lying around just for him, so he can try it. Stuff you wouldn't vape, but he might like.

Vaping is so personal, and the sweet spot for one person is BLECH! for the next.

 

[Pazazu]

Yeah I'm in the same boat as you here. Trying to convert my wife away from the stinky analogs. Much like you I talk about vaping to her a lot too and annoy the heck out of her lol. I finally got her talked into getting a mod though. Hope all works well for you and the wifey, and for me and mine too

 

[JR 137]

I'm trying to get my wife to switch. The truth is if someone doesn't want to switch (or quit, for that matter), they won't. The harder you push, the harder they'll push back.

Knowing my wife like I do, I haven't pushed. I've offered, and she's politely declined. I've been vaping for about a month now, and I don't kiss smoking one bit. I've told her that. When I was doing my research, I told her the reasons why - cheaper (smokes are $11 a pack here in NYS), I was sick of smelling like smoke, I was sick of constantly washing my hands and face, and I was sick of spraying my clothes with Febreeze. She's sick of all those things too, and doesn't enjoy smoking at all.

Yet she still won't try vaping. She's yet to take a single drag.

She was having a cigarette while I was having a vape a few minutes ago. I brought the subject up again, after not mentioning it for a week...

Me - "Why don't you want to try it?"
Mrs - "They're too new. I don't want to switch and find out next year that there's something in them that's a lot worse."

She's a very intelligent person. She (and I) won't believe the research until something gets published in an independent and peer reviewed medical journal like New England Journal of Medicine, AMA, etc. Big tobacco and their so-called medical research ruined anyone associated with nicotine's credibility.

Please don't point to studies done, how it's safer, etc. That's not the point of this post. The point is a lot of people feel this way, and she won't be convinced until someone like the Surgeon General says it's a safe(er) alternative.

 

[alisa1970]

Me - "Why don't you want to try it?"
Mrs - "They're too new. I don't want to switch and find out next year that there's something in them that's a lot worse."



Please don't point to studies done, how it's safer, etc. That's not the point of this post. The point is a lot of people feel this way, and she won't be convinced until someone like the Surgeon General says it's a safe(er) alternative.

Yep, this is my SO--better the devil you know than the one you don't, I guess. I DO know that I feel 100% better than I did and I'm quite happy with my decision. We'll see if that happens with him but it may never. While it's disappointing, it's still his choice.