Convincing my girl

[Pinapple]

Hey guys, an unorthodox question here.Went 2 weeks without a single cigarette to vaping, however my girl says I'm trading my addiction for another and wants me to quit vaping too! I'm at the stage where if i quit vaping, I'll probably just go back to the stinkies again. Anybody have any tips for this?

 

[Bob Chill]

I went through this with my wife at the early stages. I leveled with her and said I'm simply trading my delivery mechanism to a safer one. And that I wasn't using it to ween in any way shape or form. Luckily, she's smoked as long as I had so she quickly latched on to vaping and now adores it. She has no intention of quitting anytime soon either.

If your girl doesn't smoke then there is more explaining to do. If quitting becomes near impossible (it proved to be for me) then you are just choosing a safer path. Educate her on nicotine in its pure form. It's not nearly the devil it's made out to be once you remove combustion and smoke inhalation from the mix.

 

[Jp20]

My dad was somewhat like that when I started, But after stealing mine at the bar a couple of times he realized it was the bees knees. It was different for me because he smoked already. but giving him a confident well informed answer made him a little more curious about it. Maybe just research the studies done get a few print outs and show her its a better alternative.
Everyone has addictions, weather it be coffee, cigarettes, junk food or even something unusual such as video games. an addictions only bad when it changes your entire personality for the worse. I think Im a much more bearable person since I started vaping, Im a socially awkward person that usually has problems holding a conversation, but this has given me a common interest with people or an opportunity to teach them.

 

[cags]

why do people want to control each other????

husband whined for years about my smoking. I didn't care. (I smoked when he met me he didn't have to marry me)
if he were to tell me to quit vaping, I'd just laugh and laugh! I don't tell him what to do and I expect the same consideration!

 

[BlueMoods]

All you can do is try to get her to understand that you don't have the will power or desire to break your nicotine addiction but, you do have the smarts to choose a non cancer causing, no home stinking, less costly in the long run means of getting your fix.

My partner does not and never has smoked or vaped, it took a while but, he finally got it that I had no desire nor intentions on quitting nicotine, I just choose to get rid of the carcinogens, mess and stink that goes with analogs.

Makes a big difference when you point out some of the common foods that have nicotine in them - everyone gets some nicotine, most get it daily in something. Just some of us need more than others, so we vape.

Among the common ones are eggplant, potatoes, tomatoes (especially green ones) and, peppers. Yep they all have some nicotine in them and, most people eat them almost daily. Some studies are even showing that eating them reduces the risk of Parkinson's disease.

Nicotine is hardly the bad boy so many want to make it out to be, it might even be beneficial in some ways and it certainly far more commonly ingested than most seem to think - I'd bet she like her share of it too, just in food instead of vapor is all.

 

[ameissba]

Let me know what works for you! I'm in the same boat. I wish someone would make a YouTube video explaining to all non-smoking girls that vaping isn't bad.

Maybe if we got Channing Tatum or some other douche actor who women go all "googly-eyed" for to star in it they'd watch it.

Anyone have an ideas...haha?

 

[hvac999]

Just tell her have to step down to stop. The only way you can do that is with e-cigs.

 

[Bill's Magic Vapor]

Do you really love her?

No, seriously now. Ok, vaping is an excellent way to quit smoking. You are now on a much healthier path. Reducing your dependence on nicotine is much easier with vaping because of the mechanism of action in the nicotine absorption, and because there are 600 fewer chemicals, of which more than 100 of them increase nicotine absorption, that are not in our nic juice. As your body adjusts to the lower nic levels and different delivery mechanism, you can reduce the nic level fairly easily over time. Much easier than the patch. The patch is not even considered addictive by science at this point, for example. Eventually, if you like, you can get down to 0 nic, as many others have, and just vape, or not vape at all if that is your preference. The hard part is over....quitting smoking is beating perhaps the most addictive substance on Earth, made ever much so by the additives. Those additives combust to create over 4,000 hydrocarbons and more than 100 known carcinogens. You are on the right path. There are whole Forums on here about this topic, plus check out CASAA, they have tons of information as well. She needs to get educated about your addiction, and hopefully, she will become your biggest supporter. Good luck to you and thank you for posting such a relevant question. Power up and Vape on!

 

[Bob Chill]

The thing that non-smokers don't understand is how nic and habit become "part of a person". It's not just the nic part. It's everything. The narrow minded "just quit because your too smart" or whatever I've heard over the years grates on my nerves like nobody's business.

I was at the point during my last struggle (smoking 1-2 days a week and popping lozenges all other days for 2 years) that I was rationalizing that I was simply better off mentally if I smoked. I tried it all. Cold turkey 5 years, wellbutrin, lozenges, gum, whatever. I kept going back. It was part of my sense of general well being. As I matured into my 40's it became blatantly obvious that I was hard wired for it. My only chance would have been to not have started when I was 16.

My wife (thankfully and not thankfully) was wired the same way. We've shared so many struggles. So many relapses. The pleasure of being bad again and then the trials and tribulations of fighting who we were inside to stay away.

And now we vape together. And we love it. No guilt. Pure satisfaction. I'm absolutely in a better place now on so many levels. Nobody should try to take that away from me. If my wife was on me about quitting vaping it would be a big big problem. Some things just have to be accepted and not taken away.

I can totally understand the no smoking thing. That's a long, slow, and ugly early death. Anyone who struggled like me and so many others on this forum like me should be met with open arms about their vaping habit. Especially with their loved ones and significant others.

 

[nerojrnde]

I agree with a lot of what has been said here. I myself wonder if I should stop, seeing it as replacing my cigarette addiction with something else. However, I have realized I would rather do something that is much safer and that I truly enjoy. That is what it comes down to, if you enjoy what are you are doing. If YOU agree with her and think you should give it all up then go for it. I would try reasoning that the transition takes time and that you will need to do it longer..who knows how long you can stretch that one!

 

[Myk]

The next time she nags say OK, put down the ecig and light up a cigarette right then and there.

People need to understand the option is either/or.
If she can't get it by telling her demonstrate.

 

[RosaJ]

How old is this girl? Does she throw a tizzy fit when she says it? Does she make you do things her way? Are you married, or how much are you invested in this relationship? Have you ever been able to convince her to see things your way before (even things not related to ecigs)? Do you think you'll "lose" her if you stand your ground? How objective is she on things/issues?

These are just a few questions that popped up in my head.

If she's a reasonable human being and has an open mind (and is not opinionated), then by all means, do the leg work and get her info on ecigs. If not, I wish you luck and a fruitful and healthy life!

 

[Bob Chill]

I agree with a lot of what has been said here. I myself wonder if I should stop, seeing it as replacing my cigarette addiction with something else. However, I have realized I would rather do something that is much safer and that I truly enjoy. That is what it comes down to, if you enjoy what are you are doing.

Exactly. I think it goes even deeper than just doing something that you enjoy. At least in my case. For me it's satisfying a part of me that apparently is necessary for me to be whole. I'm not proud of it or embarrassed by it. It's simply a core part of my day to day psyche and has been for the last 28 years. I fought it for so many years and it's exhausting. I won the fight this time.

 

[digitals]

My wife wasn't too crazy when I dropped my first amount of $$ on a solid device, but seeing me off of analogs stopped all that. I've even got her taking over my Vision Spinners so she can quit as well.

One will kill you and one will not. Simple( seems so anyway )

 

[FloydianSlip]

I guess I am lucky in that my girlfriend got me into vaping and off the tar sticks.

 

[Dgephri]

does she drink coffee? Tell her you will work to stop the Nic when she is prepared to go cold turkey on Starbu--'s!

 

[Damij]

My girlfriend makes comments asking when I plan to cut down my nic levels. She seems to get a little frustrated when I tell her that I didn't start vaping to quit smoking.

Truth be told, I love smoking but I hate not being able to breathe as well as the flavor of burning tobacco. Vaping is a fantastic alternative for me!

 

[pinthetail90]

for a long time i kept my smoking habit hidden from the S.O. because she couldn't stand smokers, and asked me to quit. I tried, i really diid but i couldn't drop those stinkers and frequent arguing wasn't worth it so i continued to smoke when i was home alone/at work.

I am sure she knew because once or twice my stash disappeared, but since I picked up my first vape and talked straight up to her about how quitting cold turkey isn't for everyone and vaping is far healthier than smoking cigarettes things are far better, i don't feel guilty like i used to after every smoke and we're at a far better place in our relationship.

 

[Damij]

for a long time i kept my smoking habit hidden from the S.O. because she couldn't stand smokers, and asked me to quit. I tried, i really diid but i couldn't drop those stinkers and frequent arguing wasn't worth it so i continued to smoke when i was home alone/at work.

I am sure she knew because once or twice my stash disappeared, but since I picked up my first vape and talked straight up to her about how quitting cold turkey isn't for everyone and vaping is far healthier than smoking cigarettes things are far better, i don't feel guilty like i used to after every smoke and we're at a far better place in our relationship.

That's awesome!

Another way to insure she remains ok with it is to only get juices that smell amazing. If it smells like pine trees or pee steer clear!

 

[Mario87]

One question to the Op, when she met you did you smoke? From your post it appears you did, now you are trying your best to quit or at least go to a safer route, and she still complaining?. Wow that is something to think about.