Convincing my girl

[glowplug]

I have gotten the same thing from some family members. I admit that indeed, I am still addicted to nicotine and yes, vaping is a replacement for cigarettes. I further explain that it is healthier, smells good and I really enjoy it. To end the discussion, I tell whoever will listen that I have no intention of stopping. If and when I want to stop vaping, I will probably do so. I have decreased my nicotine because I enjoy the practice of vaping but do not like headaches etc. from too much nicotine. That said, it just doesn't look like vaping is going to go in the foreseeable future.

People didn't like when I smoked. I felt guilty for stinking and always looking for an opportunity to smoke a cigarette. People had to wait on me when we left a restaurant because I was going to smoke a cigarette before getting in the car no matter what they said. I never enjoyed those cigarettes. Smoking while other people are standing around waiting is just not conducive to enjoyment. Now I don't feel guilty!! What a relief. I just won't let anyone take that from me. Thank God my husband is totally behind this and I never get any guff from him!!!!!

 

[Smokombs]

Keep pushing. Search the forums for some good information. And check out this infographic that was posted a few days ago..
E-Cigarette Forum - E-Cigarette Infographic

 

[SASmith]

It would be wonderful, if all it took was for a friend or loved one to issue us an ultimatum and poof........were non-smokers. Unfortunately in the real world .......it just doesn't work that way. The only thing I can suggest is education, here are a few useful articles.

Could e-cigarettes save smokers

http://www.foxnews.com/health/2013/...-seem-to-work-psychologically-and-physically/

Do Electronic Cigarettes Really Help Smokers Quit?: Scientific American

http://www.femalefirst.co.uk/health...witching-to-electronic-cigarettes-291719.html

Propylene glycol in e cigarettes might keep us healthy, says researchers

E-cigarette study hints at quit-aid potential | Reuters

E-cigarettes may help some smokers quit - Local - Sun Journal

 

[SASmith]

It would be wonderful, if all it took was for a friend or loved one to issue us an ultimatum and poof........were non-smokers. Unfortunately in the real world .......it just doesn't work that way. The only thing I can suggest is education, here are a few useful articles.

Could e-cigarettes save smokers

Electronic cigarettes seem to work, psychologically and physically | Fox News

Do Electronic Cigarettes Really Help Smokers Quit?: Scientific American

http://www.femalefirst.co.uk/health...witching-to-electronic-cigarettes-291719.html

Propylene glycol in e cigarettes might keep us healthy, says researchers

E-cigarette study hints at quit-aid potential | Reuters

E-cigarettes may help some smokers quit - Local - Sun Journal

 

[SASmith]

Many apologies.....I'm not quite sure why it posted twice, but it did.....sorry!

 

[AronDelight]

Many apologies.....I'm not quite sure why it posted twice, but it did.....sorry!

Have to emphasize that post! Tons of good info. Wouldn't want people to miss it

 

[Nexusv8por]

My GF says I have to many mods and too many flavor bottles around. Then, she walks out for a smoke lol. I ignore her.....

 

[Shoogie]

What's wrong with replacing something bad for something better?
If someone replaces 1-2 hours a day of sitting on a couch eating potato chips with 1-2 hours at a gym, it's a good thing.
If I replace a gas guzzler with a more efficient car, it's a good thing.
If you replace smoking cigarettes with vaping, it's a good thing.
Change is replacing something: a tire, a habit, underwear...As long as the change is a good one, then you shouldn't worry.

 

[PDXBLK]

It always seemed to me that being a smoker wasn't just being addicted to nicotine. It was being addicted to:
1. Nicotine.
2. Countless other chemicals in the cigarette.
3. The sweet release and sense of calm that comes with lighting up.
4. The weight of the cigarette in your hand.
5. The ritual of taking a break, sitting down, lighting up.
6. Looking hella cool!

E-cigs are a great way to break every habit on that list except 1 & 6.
When my friends first chided me for not trying hard enough to quit smoking I told them, "I not trying to quit smoking. I'm trying to quit tobacco."

 

[Pinapple]

How old is this girl? Does she throw a tizzy fit when she says it? Does she make you do things her way? Are you married, or how much are you invested in this relationship? Have you ever been able to convince her to see things your way before (even things not related to ecigs)? Do you think you'll "lose" her if you stand your ground? How objective is she on things/issues?

These are just a few questions that popped up in my head.

If she's a reasonable human being and has an open mind (and is not opinionated), then by all means, do the leg work and get her info on ecigs. If not, I wish you luck and a fruitful and healthy life!

I'm 19 and so is she. I've tried convincing her that vaping's good cos when I first started vaping while still smoking, I couldn't taste the juices fully but now, I taste them so much better

 

[Pinapple]

One question to the Op, when she met you did you smoke? From your post it appears you did, now you are trying your best to quit or at least go to a safer route, and she still complaining?. Wow that is something to think about.

Yup, I was a smoker for 3 years when she met me. She wanted to me to quit so I went towards vaping, but she isn't convinced that it's safe and wants me off the nicotine.

 

[Snicks]

I would just tell her to deal with it. (but in the nicest way possible)

My Wife hates smoking and she is against vaping. I told her I was not asking permission to vape. She deals with it. She has a few rules for me to follow in the house and public and I do as she wishes to keep the peace.


The truth is if she loves you she will deal with it. Who falls out of love because someone vapes? If my Wife refused to make my favorite dinner I wouldnt stop loving her...or if she keeps making Fish which she knows I hate but refuses to take 'no' for an answer and makes me eat it anyway;....I still love her...gahhh I hate fish. Why does she do this to me? Thats another thread though....

 

[Fyreffect]

If she's aware of the benefits of vaping over tobacco smokes, I don't see why she would be anything but happy for you. It's a big move, and a healthier one. Everyone has an addiction or compulsion of some kind... now yours is much healthier and won't bother anyone. I'd say that's the right direction to head in.

You're used to the "hand to mouth" habit, drawing on something, the throat hit, the feeling. That cant be replaced with a patch or gum, but it can be with vaping. Hopefully she can appreciate the direction you're going rather than be disappointed that you haven't completed the path yet.

 

[seahawkin]

Ya not sure, hoping there is a lot more going on with her reasoning. Perhaps she has a history with health in the family?

Really loved ones should accept us for who we are unless we are damaging ourselves, other wise it is hard for me to see it as anything else but control. Try and talk to her, find out why she is so resistant, help her through it if it is some past thing. If it isn't well and she wants you to quit 'if you love her' well...

 

[Myk]

I would just tell her to deal with it. (but in the nicest way possible)

My Wife hates smoking and she is against vaping. I told her I was not asking permission to vape. She deals with it. She has a few rules for me to follow in the house and public and I do as she wishes to keep the peace.


The truth is if she loves you she will deal with it. Who falls out of love because someone vapes? If my Wife refused to make my favorite dinner I wouldnt stop loving her...or if she keeps making Fish which she knows I hate but refuses to take 'no' for an answer and makes me eat it anyway;....I still love her...gahhh I hate fish. Why does she do this to me? Thats another thread though....

What rules?
My sister can smell tobacco so much that she wouldn't let me smoke in her garage after she got my brother-in-law to quit. She claimed she could smell smoke pulling into my driveway with my house shut up (more of a mental issue if you ask me, but that's how bad she is).
With ecigs I vape at her table after eating. She either can't smell it or can smell something but it's not bad.
I can't imagine a need for rules unless someone is hyper allergic to the flavoring or PG/VG. (My niece and I have rules about my sister's air fresheners and it's known that we are allowed to unplug them at our discretion.)

I understand keeping the peace and compromise, like I'd be willing to go into a different room to vape (and have at my brother's when I needed to produce clouds) but I won't go outside in the dead of winter. I almost liked that but I need to know what the rules are first.

I should keep some fish on hand for those times when my roommate cooks broccoli.

 

[onion456]

i am really lucky- my wife used to smoke but quit about 11 years ago... she understands addictions in general. she hated the fact that i smoked, hated the smell, and just cares about me and wants me to live to see my children get married and have families of thier own. when i switched to vaping, she was very supportive, congratulates me all the time, doesnt mind one bit that i vape in the house and sitting in the same room as her (believe me, if she did mind, she'd tell me). sometimes if ive been sitting in one spot vaping for a while and she walks in the room, she says 'whoa' and its 'overpowering', but that its not an unpleasant smell, just walking into a cloud of butterscotch =D she loves that i dont stink like cigs anymore.

 

[RosaJ]

I'm 19 and so is she. I've tried convincing her that vaping's good cos when I first started vaping while still smoking, I couldn't taste the juices fully but now, I taste them so much better

Oh my goodness! 19!!! You are sooo fortunate to have found vaping while you still have the rest of your life ahead of you. That's a lot of years. I smoked for more than 40 years, I'm 65 now and just went to the doctor and got a clean bill of health for my lungs. I've been vaping for 1 1/2 years now.

I have a strong gut feeling that the issue is not about the vaping but a much serious one of needing to fix you. Something to keep an eye on. At 19 you definitely will have plenty of time to make mistakes and fix them yourself on your own terms. Romantic relationships are hopefully long term relationships that need to be considered by asking yourself "Can I live with this person for the rest of my life?"

I'm not trying to talk you out of the relationship, it's just a word of caution. Definitely do not mean to minimize you or your choices because you're 19, I respect you as an adult and thereby you're responsible for your actions/decisions.

 

[Claudia P]

I'm 19 and so is she. I've tried convincing her that vaping's good cos when I first started vaping while still smoking, I couldn't taste the juices fully but now, I taste them so much better

I'm old and have been around a LONG time, I've learned a few good lessons and the most important one is that you can't change someone. The only way anyone is going to change is if they want to for themselves.
I would simply and calmly tell her something to the effect of, this is what I do, I enjoy it, it doesn't hurt anyone. If you can live with this fine, if not then this relationship isn't going to work. Of course it is very important that you accept her for who she is and not try to change her either.

This is a very hard thing for young people to learn, but it is so important because if you don't come to this kind of agreement you will never have a truly happy relationship.

 

[cags]

Yup, I was a smoker for 3 years when she met me. She wanted to me to quit so I went towards vaping, but she isn't convinced that it's safe and wants me off the nicotine.

something I've learned during my life is it is probably better to end up with someone who loves and accepts you the way you are rather than having to try to "fix" yourself to make the other person happy................
although in a way it might have been nice to end up with a spouse I could boss around LOL

ps I should have finished reading before posting, so my post is just an agreement with others who have said the same thing

 

[Pinapple]

I'm getting more life advice here then from anywhere else! Main point still is that I enjoy vaping, I get my nicotine fix in a much safer way, and I save money!