You go Girl here is my pat on the back for you my ex gf use to pull that crap notice the ex part that wasnt are only problem but it didnt help so good luck and happy vapeing.
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You go Girl here is my pat on the back for you my ex gf use to pull that crap notice the ex part that wasnt are only problem but it didnt help so good luck and happy vapeing.
DH earlier walked into my little office/room and said "You know what the problem with the e-cigs is?'
I said "No, what is the problem?"
Answer was "You can do it in here."
Good thing I love him or I would have taken more than a newspaper to him ... frying pan comes into mind.
WTH is "it" Gosh maybe I should have been smoking crack. I don't do needles so herion is out of the question.
Done venting.
The cat is named Jack and the pic was taken when he was about 6 months old (now 9 months) the swilling motion/sound of the water just fasinates him. We keep the lids (mostly) down but he will jump up and stare at the seat.. this time I just had to get the camera out and left the lid open. Well we love him anyway.
I said "No, what is the problem?"
Answer was "You can do it in here."
Good thing I love him or I would have taken more than a newspaper to him ... frying pan comes into mind.
WTH is "it" Gosh maybe I should have been smoking crack. I don't do needles so herion is out of the question.
Done venting.
The cat is named Jack and the pic was taken when he was about 6 months old (now 9 months) the swilling motion/sound of the water just fasinates him. We keep the lids (mostly) down but he will jump up and stare at the seat.. this time I just had to get the camera out and left the lid open. Well we love him anyway.
It's really quite simple. The next time he rolls the eyes or gives you grief, just ask him, "What's more important to you... my health, or your being sanctimonious?" Better yet... sit him at a table with a pack of analogs, your PV, and yourself, and tell him that one has to go. "Pick the two you want to keep, and then just stop with the smarminess".
Honestly, cold turkey belongs on a roll with lettuce and mayo.
Honestly, cold turkey belongs on a roll with lettuce and mayo.
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"You can do it in here" What the heck does that mean? Is he jealous of the time you spend with your PV?
I agree with hiram, cold turkey does belong on a roll with lettuce and mayo!
I agree with hiram, cold turkey does belong on a roll with lettuce and mayo!
You got it just right ... I will and then he will realize what an idiot he is being and that will be done with.
"You can do it in here but I couldnt. That's pretty much what it means. If this "man" went through the hell of quitting, and gets all pissy because his wife has a less painful and stressful alternative... well, what does that say about him? About how much he loves her? I mean, I'd be ecstatic if I'd had a horrible experience and my wife would be spared it....
Again, "what's more important, ME... or you being a sanctimonious s**t?"
Again, "what's more important, ME... or you being a sanctimonious s**t?"
I don't know if I would read too much into this, some of us guys are just dumb and develop attitude due to lack of sports or beer 
Tell him if he doesn't like it he can go outside while you vape. Keep up the good work, its worth it.
Tell him if he doesn't like it he can go outside while you vape. Keep up the good work, its worth it.
I am certain he only wants what is best for you and doesn't know the facts about e-cigs. Give him some information and maybe that will relieve some of his anxiety. He married you because he wants to grow old with you. You are doing the right thing so hang in there and here is a HUGE pat on the back for you.
I know the e-cigs have made a big difference in my health. In 6 or 7 weeks my oxygen level went from 90% to 95% and for me that is awesome. So vape away and just know you are doing something that is way better for you than analogs!
I know the e-cigs have made a big difference in my health. In 6 or 7 weeks my oxygen level went from 90% to 95% and for me that is awesome. So vape away and just know you are doing something that is way better for you than analogs!
I dunno about that one, J808. Beer is nice, but the last time I gave a damn about sports was in 5th grade.
He may just not know the facts... Chances are you're right. The only problem is that he probably doesn't want to know the facts because he's already taken a negative opinion about them without ANY facts. Ignorance might be bliss for the ignorant one, but it's not for the people around him/her that have to deal with the ignorant ........
You can try to inform him all you want, but most likely it'll just piss him off more. If this man loves you then there is no reason he should be badgering you about this. You're doing it for your health. Because of it, you'll probably be alive longer and feel better while you are. If he quit cold turkey, he should know how much of a pain it is and realize that if you have some sort of "pacifier," you'll be a lot less likely to start smoking again because you have something that takes its place. Also, he should realize that the more he .....es, the more it's gonna stress you out and make you more likely to go back to smoking.
If he continues to be a difficult .....ing ignorant anti-vaper, start making him do things himself that you would normally do for him. Make him cook his own food and do his own laundry. Deprive him of sex and tell him he can quit that cold turkey too. He seems to think he's better than you for quitting cold turkey, or he's just jealous that you have the option he didn't know about or that simply didn't exist at the time. Put him in his place.
He may just not know the facts... Chances are you're right. The only problem is that he probably doesn't want to know the facts because he's already taken a negative opinion about them without ANY facts. Ignorance might be bliss for the ignorant one, but it's not for the people around him/her that have to deal with the ignorant ........
You can try to inform him all you want, but most likely it'll just piss him off more. If this man loves you then there is no reason he should be badgering you about this. You're doing it for your health. Because of it, you'll probably be alive longer and feel better while you are. If he quit cold turkey, he should know how much of a pain it is and realize that if you have some sort of "pacifier," you'll be a lot less likely to start smoking again because you have something that takes its place. Also, he should realize that the more he .....es, the more it's gonna stress you out and make you more likely to go back to smoking.
If he continues to be a difficult .....ing ignorant anti-vaper, start making him do things himself that you would normally do for him. Make him cook his own food and do his own laundry. Deprive him of sex and tell him he can quit that cold turkey too. He seems to think he's better than you for quitting cold turkey, or he's just jealous that you have the option he didn't know about or that simply didn't exist at the time. Put him in his place.
Not sure, but I think it might be more than jealousy. I don't care what they claim, I think ALL ex smokers still crave cigarettes, which is probably why approximately 80% will start again, and they can sometimes be some of the most rabid anti smoking advocates. Possibly it's that they believe that if they can succeed in never seeing another person smoking, maybe they won't want one anymore. Since vaping simulates smoking so well, could it be that it triggers hubby's hidden need to smoke? That would make it jealousy combined with a good dash of craving. Maybe the OP should stick a spare kit back for the hubby, just in case.
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Just turn it around and say this is a new hobby...LOL
I know it is for me as much as it's been to get off cigarettes. I have several different batteries and atomizers/cartomizers and I mix my own juice. Not only am I off cigarettes but I'm having fun with all the different hardware and even building my own.
I know it is for me as much as it's been to get off cigarettes. I have several different batteries and atomizers/cartomizers and I mix my own juice. Not only am I off cigarettes but I'm having fun with all the different hardware and even building my own.
Moms can be the worst, can't they?
I finally told my mom about my 15-to-16-year smoking habit, and that I quit for good this time thanks to the e-cigarette. I also told her how I have gradually stepped the nic down from 24mg to 9mg.
She is now setting "goals" for me, saying I should be at 0-nic by Christmas and off the e-cig by Feb. 16 (my birthday).
She doesn't get it, and never will... just like she doesn't get why all smokers can't just quit cold turkey like she did.
I will continue rolling my eyes at her naiveté.
I'll give you a big hug, a pat on the back and YOU GO GIRL! Here's a bit of honesty for all of you. I'm a recovering ....... addict, and I've been clean for over 17 years now. I kicked that addiction and haven't looked back, but I'd never been able to kick the smoking habit until last week. Without this forum and its wonderful people, their advice and encouragement, I wouldn't have been able to do this. If I can do this, you can do it, too. Your DH may be a nay-sayer right now, but remember that you aren't doing this for him. You have to do this for you, in your own time, in your own way. Not everyone can just put down the smokes and be done with them, and those that can have to remember that.
You're doing what is right for you, and that kicks ...! Hold your head up and drive on, girl! We're here for you!
You're doing what is right for you, and that kicks ...! Hold your head up and drive on, girl! We're here for you!
Now if he keeps it up give him a swat up side the head....always wakes me up when the wife gives me a good hit and reminds me that I'm acting non-supportive.
Good advice, and it works both ways. I find a backhand thrown into conversations every now and then ensures that the little lady has my dinner on time.
For the OP:
Don't sweat it. It's human nature to be jealous if someone finds a better option than the one you went with. You've never been elated and happy when you bought a new car (or phone, purse, whatever) and felt that bitter taste when someone comes skipping up and shows you that they just bought the same thing for half the price?
It's the same phenomenon. He just feels like he paid a higher price to quit cigarettes than you did (and in fairness, he did). Keep at it. Improve your life. Your improved health is a good thing for him too (even if he doesn't appreciate that yet).
Each person's brain is different. Maybe you need the nicotine more than he did or maybe your "wiring" gets more relief from the hand-to-mouth movement. Beside, before he quit cold turkey, how many years did he smoke? How many times did he try to quit before he succeeded? Is what he really wants for you is that you continue to smoke while you try, for who knows how many years, to quit cold turkey or to literally die trying?
Anyone who thinks vaping is just as good as not inhaling foreign substances is rationalizing. But for most of us who have finally stopped smoking with the use of PVs, the options are not "smoke, vape or quit" they are "smoke or vape."
Anyone who thinks vaping is just as good as not inhaling foreign substances is rationalizing. But for most of us who have finally stopped smoking with the use of PVs, the options are not "smoke, vape or quit" they are "smoke or vape."
It is very true that addiction is different for everyone, maybe DH wishes that there were e-cigs around when he went cold turkey.
I laughed when I read that you should call it a "new hobby"! That is now my new slogan when people ask me what my tornado is and what I am doing. Thanks! That is the perfect retort as well as answer.
OP hang in there, you are doing the right thing so just pay no attention to the eye rolling if you can. I bet he will get over it when he sees how much better you can breathe and how much healthier you look.
Great success! Lots and lots of pats on the back too.
I laughed when I read that you should call it a "new hobby"! That is now my new slogan when people ask me what my tornado is and what I am doing. Thanks! That is the perfect retort as well as answer.
OP hang in there, you are doing the right thing so just pay no attention to the eye rolling if you can. I bet he will get over it when he sees how much better you can breathe and how much healthier you look.
Great success! Lots and lots of pats on the back too.
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