Nah, let's just drop it.
The tie-in to the original theme is that the FDA's garbage has been spread so far and wide across the net that people think that they have seen dozens of articles that talked about new research on how dangerous e-cigs are. When really all they have seen has been "reruns" of the same "news" from 2009. It really isn't clear to the general public that there has been only ONE study ever that reported finding carcinogens and toxins in the liquid, and that one report was bogus.
Who needs to go to the movies when life imitates art?? This has all the makings of a Shakespere play.
My mother and paternal grandmother never got along. My grandmother was a rather prudish methodist, and saw my mother's family as rather boorish, because they drank beer and played cards, two things my grandmother couldn't sanction. This led to constant tension. My sister and I had a long discussion last time we were together about how mean our mom was to our grandmother, and about the dilema this battle presented to our dad. He was torn by his loyalty to his mother, and the almost constant harping my mother would load on him whenever he would try to help her.
Now I know your case is slightly different, but I'm speaking from the perspective of a child who got put in the middle of a battle between two strong willed women. Maybe that's where my impulse to seek harmony comes from. I'll just toss this out to you. I think if I were in your shoes, I would go on the trip, and defer to your daughter in law's ideas around her kids, but establish that you are going to stealth
vape. Since at the end of the day, I believe that you are on the right side of this issue, you may have to wait out the tests that will surely come to prove your point. In the mean time, you can still remain true to your principles, and remain part of the family.
What my grandma used to do, was come to our family events and sit on the sidelines while we "sinned". Speaking for your son, I'm sure it hurts him deeply to see this conflict. Asking a guy to choose between his mother and his wife is really stressful. I saw what it did to my dad.
Anyway, just hope this is helpful. I can understand not going, too. I loved both my mom and my grandma, even though they pretty much hated each other.
It sucks that a lie can lead to all this.
Hugs
