For anyone interested

[Mary Kay]

I have a thread in Wrecked and Bonkers about mom's hospitalization. I have been allowed to keep it going by the kind people there as a sort of therapy. I posted some pictures of my mom in the last page ..or next to the last by now! You are welcome to view the thread but should be a member of that forum to post..you can post here instead.I hope it serves as a cautionary tale about how Doctor's can misjudge the speed of a disease's progress. And maybe how important the thyroid is to your health! Right now I am not looking for sympathy, all I can do is visit and be an advocate. My mom is the one suffering.
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[Jennee26]

Marykay your mom was such a tiny little thing. Very pretty yes! But also seems tiny.

 

[marg]

Thanks for posting this so we can keep up Sorry about your mom, I just lost mine 2 days before Xmas unexpectedly... *sniff*

 

[Cori]

Awe I'm so sorry about your Mom MaryKay. I'm sure your mother loves and appreciates all you do for her. Hang in there girl.

 

[Mary Kay]

At the hospital Monday. Mom was 5'6' in her prime, she is now at 5', osteoporosis has made her very small.

 

[Ryle]

Wow Mary.. I feel so bad for you.. I don't even want to contemplate my mom being in a similar situation (I had a bad dream the other night about my mom dieing and I was depressed for 3 days just from a stupid dream!) Your mom was beautiful when she was young & I see the family resemblance.. I hope she gets better hun, try and stay as positive as you can *Hugs*

 

[Kelly79]

Mary I'm sorry about your mom. I'm sure she appreciates all that you do for her and that you are there for her.

 

[deliza]

How heartbreaking......... I am so very sorry for all your family is going through. Hugs and comfort to you and yours MaryKay.

You look very much like your mother.

 

[MrsJaaxx]

You know, I read this post (the one linked to) all the way through very early this morning. And all day I have wanted to reply but I just couldn't think of anything to say that would make things better. I still do not have that perfect thing to say, but I wanted to post anyway so that you'll know that I'm reading and thinking of you and your family.

Your mom is still quite beautiful-- means you probably get to stay pretty for many years as well! The old pics of her remind me very much of my grandmother. She was a striking, petite lady with dark black hair and lily-white skin. Also quite proud. After she was very sick she couldn't get in and out of the van anymore, and my grandaddy would lift her into the seat-- yes, she was tiny but still an amazing thing given that grandaddy was about 75 years old! But if they were out somewhere, and she noticed that her lipstick was worn off, don't you know she would have him drive home, get her out of the van so that she could sloooowwwly baby-step as he held his arm for support into the house to put on more lipstick. Then back to the van to go wherever they needed to go next! Also she had developed bladder control issues, but refused to wear Depends AND refused to have a drop of pee on her. So he changed her clothes 3 and 4 times a day. He would have done anything, anything for her no matter how ridiculous. it was really hard on him, and took a big toll on his own health.

 

[Mary Kay]

Thank you all, it means a lot to have a supportive group of friends. There is really nothing that is right or wrong to say..a smiley or a long note is nice. I posted in here because I realized when I mentioned mom's hospitalization, a lot of you didn't know what I was talking about.
Mrs. Jaxx, my mom was the same way about her appearance! I just got her to lose the red lipstick she has been wearing for 70 years and try a lighter shade that goes with her white hair. She had dark hair in her youth and slowly took it down to blonde until last year. She was worried her grey would be ugly, but as it turned ...it isn't! At 85 she just couldn't sit in a beauty chair or sit while I did her color anymore. It was hard enough to get her to sit up while I did the cut and wash.
Your Grandmother was lucky to have such a devoted husband. My dad died 22 years ago not long after my sister. They were divorced but still good friends.
By the way, I am adopted, my sister was 5'6 with blue eyes and blonde hair and mom's natural daughter. People always assumed she was adopted, until they saw my dad, a blond. That confused them!

 

[Ryle]

You're adopted?? Wow, you look so much like her

 

[Kelly79]

My maternal grandmother is paralyzed from just above the waist down (I never can remember why), and my granddad is her devoted caregiver. They were wartime sweethearts and are just as much in love as ever, it's very sweet. She is bigger than he is though (not just in weight but height as well) so caring for her has taken a toll on his health as well. The family helps whenever he will let them, but he's very stubborn about the fact that she's his wife and he'll take care of her. That kind of devotion takes my breath away every time, it's so very rare these days.

My mom is also sick. She has suffered from crohn's disease since she was a child, I was in my teens before they figured out what was wrong with her though, and by then it had taken a real toll on her health. She has heart problems, as well as diabetes, and had to have a hysterectomy recently, and is soon to go for another surgery related to fix other problems caused by the inflamation. Aside from all of that she is now in better health than ever before because her crohns is in remission. When I was a child the frequent hospitalizations and close calls were very rough on all of us, and I hope she has many more years of good health in her future because I don't hink anyone in my family could bear to lose her.

So knowing how hard your mom's condition must be on you I say, *Big Hugz*.

 

[Mary Kay]

We do look a lot alike Ryle, I don't think Mom ever figured she would have a child, so she adopted me after 10 years of marriage. Five years later she had my sister. I posted a couple pictures of us in my profile. It is a composite picture as she took mine and I took hers and stuck them together..lol
The one of her in uniform I found with her things, it was faded.
The one of her with the plane (f-4 or F-5) I never remember, whas when she made airmen of the month and was given a ride. Her friend was leaving the Air Force so her took her on his Champagne fllight (last flight).

Kelly, I love hearing stories about people in love. That must be very touching to see them together! I hope your mom has a long remission. My friend has that and he stuggles with it.

 

[Jennee26]

Marykay - you have a beautiful family. Pets included.

 

[Momof3]

(((HUGS)))

My standard gift to my Grandmother is a gift certificate to the salon she likes to get her hair washed and styled at and a tube of her favorite lipstick. She goes nowhere without her lipstick on. If you even suggest she go somewhere without it she'll look at you like you suggested she walk out of the house naked.

 

[wezzie]

My--our--prayers are with you and your family. Here is your smiley face!

Lost my Mom last July and still think about her. Poor thing had COPD (damn analogs) and paranoid dementia. We all had a difficult time with her mental condition. I believe she is in a much better place now (with my Dad!) and no longer in the painful state of mind that had consumer her.

It is wonderful that you have each other! You both are blessed. She is beautiful.

 

[Ryle]

Hey Marykay.. any updates on how she's doing? *crosses fingers for better news*

 

[Mary Kay]

Well, as of yesterday when I went in at 8;30 and stayed till 1pm, she still has MRSA and it's no better! This has been over a week now. She now had pulmonary heart problems in addition to the fast and low heart rates due to her thyroid and last but not least she is hungry with no way to feed her other then IV's.
Well that was weird. Her Doctor just called me! He said they were going to try to put a new feeding tube in. She has had the course of antibiotics for the MRSA. He couldn't tell if it was still there but they her blood tests are inconclusive) are going to chance it because she fought them over the nasal feeding tube. She agreed to it yesterday..but I think it freaks her out, she says they are trying to strangle her.
He wants to release her to hospice, Dr. speak for She is so frail there isn't much chance of recovery. I hope the Nursing home has a bed for her, they held the other one as long as possible. The Director said she had two people going home on thrus.
I will try to get her on the phone today.

 

[SudokuGal]

There really are no comforting words. Just know that I'm thinking of you and your mom.

 

[Ryle]

It's got to be so hard for you to watch her go through this. I would say I'd pray for you but I'm not that type of person, know you're in my heart and I hope she gets better. We're here for you *Hugs*