Going insane!Going insane!

[Bunnykiller]

i put a small drip of juice on my finger and lick it up... a small drop not much.. kills the urges

 

[CommaHolly]

Funny thing, our youngest daughter, who is married now with kids of her own, absolutely did not want to learn to drive. Her 16th birthday came and went, then 18 and then 20! She went to a local college, and I actually was dropping her off and picking her up every day for quite a while. She didn't get her license until after she married at age 21.

you know my daughter????

My Hannah is just like that,,,,,,,,,,she's 22 and married now,,,,,,,,and is JUST NOW really starting to get ready for her license test,,,,,,,,scared, I think,,,,,,,,which is good in some ways,,,,,so many young kids get killing machine and go nuts with it,,,,,,racing at speeds way above the speed limits, etc,,,,,,,

 

[Buggainok]

you know my daughter????

My Hannah is just like that,,,,,,,,,,she's 22 and married now,,,,,,,,and is JUST NOW really starting to get ready for her license test,,,,,,,,scared, I think,,,,,,,,which is good in some ways,,,,,so many young kids get killing machine and go nuts with it,,,,,,racing at speeds way above the speed limits, etc,,,,,,,

Believe it or not, I got some bothersome comments from people about it, which I ignored. I considered it a blessing and was happy to drive her anywhere she wanted to go. She has become a very competent driver (drives that big bus-like vehicle full of kids now.)

 

[HecticEnergy]

I am NOT trying to tell you how to parent - but here we go... lol

He is not going to gain experience driving watching you drive all the time. Experience is what will give him comfort in those tough situations. It will DRIVE YOU NUTS watching him drive on the highway, but really its the only way he'll learn and get better (without you freaking out at home).

I think its a good plan to let him drive the next few weeks and then let him take himself.

If that's not your cup of tea:
how about what a previous poster said: Stop by a B&M?
Or a vape friendly coffee shop? even if you don't drink coffee, you could get a tea or something and hang out for a bit.

Good luck whatever you decide!

 

[Dana A]

I am nearly in tears laughing at all the parenting comments We are all different and each of our kids is different. All any of us can do is just do the best we can. I bet we are all right and I bet we are all wrong as well. I do agree with many of you that I need to get him driving himself but I won't push it until I know he is confident and for him the day after we just creamed a deer isn't the right one to start. It's funny how different they (our kids) and we all are. I could probably turn my 12 year old son loose with a 4x4 and he would make it to college and back with no directions to follow. He wouldn't pull straight As but he could get there and back OK. I try to adjust my parenting to each kids abilities and needs but in the end I have made mistakes and I have learned a lot from them. I think that's the best any of us can do.

 

[Don Robertson]

Oh Ms. Dana you ARE doing the right thing. He's young, inexperienced, easily influenced, needs to keep his worries focused on his education, maybe even decide to go to college? Oh wait - he DID that already! Ok, he doesn't need to be out piloting a motor car around the streets OF IOWA where "people drive like crazy"! Dana who you kiddin'? I was in IOWA in 1945 and the streets were so calm and serene it was heaven! Ha! They do that everywhere nowadays; that's how they teach kids to drive! Like blithering idiots! If he exercises any degree of common sense he will be miles ahead of a lot of kids AND adults alike. Here in Mew Mexico they drive like are on a Kamikaze Mission; Kill One Kill Them All! Besides - in reality the only reason any parent needs to be nice and sweet and coddle the kidlets is so that when we get old and can't make those "good choices" any longer - they pick out a really special "Old Folks Assisted Care Living Facility" especially tailored for Senile, Decrepit, Grumpy and Slow Moving Seniors they don't want to just "kick to the curb". So being nice has its advantages! It might be a while before you reap your rewards.

While you wait, do as you already mentioned; and you really DO know the solution, "I need to get him driving himself but I won't push it until I know he is confident and for him the day after we just creamed a deer isn't the right one to start. Part right ---> Ya need to get him driving MORE (I'm presuming he HAS driven before - he IS in college) and Part Wrong ------> Right after smackin' that deer is a great time! He knows what ya did and he's REALLY gonna be lookin' out for those critters on the road! He might not MISS one -- BUT -- IF one pops up and YOU are drivin' I bet you'll smack him too! Now ......... spend some time thinkin' about what I said about that "Old Peoples Joint" ........ it's REALLY important in parenting!

Most importantly - GLAD NEITHER OF YOU WERE INJURED - and ya brought home DINNER! "It's the best any of us can do."

GOOD LUCK!

Senile Old Man Don

PS: My oldest daughter was coddled SO MUCH she left home and still had to call her mom and ask, "Mom? The cardboard tube or the thing with the string?". It's true! I swear on all that is holy (just what is holy?) ............. let the boy DRIVE Dana ....... let the boy DRIVE!

 

[Dana A]

OK Don! I hear you loud and clear. The plan is to get him driving himself soon. He is the risk taker of my 3 kids. Every gray hair on my head is named Dillon! He had his own car for quite awhile and was/is a good driver. It's just so HARD to let go sometimes I think all these responses here have helped me to decide that I need to release my iron mommy grasp from him a bit. He nearly didn't graduate from high school and now he is finally taking classed at the community college. He has a tendency to learn things the hard way. Only enrolled after working menial jobs for 6 months and realizing that he couldn't even buy himself a new car on what those jobs paid. I am proud of the lessons he has learned. Just wish he would not have to learn the hard way every single time...

 

[Moedog]

Dana, don't be shy about restroom vaping. On the very off chance you are busted, what are they going to do? Throw you under the jail? Worst case will be a stern warning. And, I guarantee there are students and other adults smoking and vaping somewhere on that campus--use some of your free time to discover where. But really, I know you've got more important things to do then sit in a college lounge all day. Let your son do the driving a few days and observe carefully and give any needed direction, then let the poor fellow loose. I know it will be hard, but an 18 year old (or older) NEEDS to be self-sufficient enough to drive 35 miles from home on his own.

 

[AttyPops]

Hang in there!

Just a quick observation that may settle your nerves on campus; YOU are not enrolled. They can ask you to leave. But that's about it. It's not like they can expel you.

Like other have said...I'd vape in the car and listen to the radio. Or go off campus. Or just vape outside and see if anyone gives a crap.

Outside would be particularly fun if you had prepared replies ready if they say anything. "Oh, did we secede from the union, and this is now a different country without rights?" -- that kind of thing.

 

[klynnn]

If I had to drive a college student around I wouldn't push, I would be trying to figure out what I did wrong.

 

[Dana A]

With a grain of salt

 

[HecticEnergy]

Let us know what you end up doing next week! I'm curious to see how it goes with the vaping! (and your son, but that is a private matter that got dragged out!)

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[Dana A]

I'm not a very private person junk. No worriesWe talked and assuming we don't have any snow he will be driving on his own starting Monday. He said he feels confident to do it as long as the roads are clear. All of the comments from you guys have assured me that I won't be a bad mom if I let him go on his own and I have my husband saying the same thing LOL. He's been saying that all along If I don't have to drive him every day then I can stay home and vape my brains out without campus security harassing me For those of you coddlers I really could use a hug I will probably be half sick all day after he leaves. I know I probably need mental help at this point but should I ask him to call me when he gets there or just chew my nails off waiting for him to come home 6 hours later alive and unharmed? This has gotten a little but this thread really has helped me. Thanks guys

 

[Buggainok]

I'm not a very private person junk. No worriesWe talked and assuming we don't have any snow he will be driving on his own starting Monday. He said he feels confident to do it as long as the roads are clear. All of the comments from you guys have assured me that I won't be a bad mom if I let him go on his own and I have my husband saying the same thing LOL. He's been saying that all along If I don't have to drive him every day then I can stay home and vape my brains out without campus security harassing me For those of you coddlers I really could use a hug I will probably be half sick all day after he leaves. I know I probably need mental help at this point but should I ask him to call me when he gets there or just chew my nails off waiting for him to come home 6 hours later alive and unharmed? This has gotten a little but this thread really has helped me. Thanks guys

Dana, here's a hug from this fellow coddler! And about asking him to call when he gets there, you can ask. But if he "forgets" you will just be that much more worried. (Ask me how I know, lol.)

Bottom line - it's your kid and your decision. However you decide to do this, I'm with you. No judgments from this mom who's been there.

 

[Dana A]

Thanks Buggainok! That was nice to hear. Maybe I won't ask him to call me. You made a great point

 

[HecticEnergy]

A text may work better... if you two have the capability.. Or a check in on Facebook... If they still do that...
Other than that... No news is good news... Right? At least for 6 hrs plus drive time... Lol

<--- 28 yr old father of a 10 MO old. More practical experience driving moms crazy than being on the receiving side... Sorry =S

Good luck!

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[DoogieTony]

By the time I was his age I had already driven cross county twice........ Just saying.

 

[Vappers]

I would drop him off at the door of the building and then sit in my car with my e-cig reading an e-book lol I really doubt they're going to send campus police to your car to bust you for vaping in it. If they do you can just say "Oh sorry. Didn't know."

Be careful sneaking one indoors though I just saw another thread where someone said they can set off a smoke alarm!

Had to try that last bit.. Vaped right into the censor of my smoke alarm.. Nothing. makes sense it wouldn't work, there is no corbon dioxide or monoxide in vaping Doubt your ever going to set off a smoke alarm!

 

[AegisPrime]

f... 'em - vape your brains out in the bathroom - just hold it in - no one's gonna know - to paraphrase Catherine Tramell "what're they gonna charge you with? Vaping?"

 

[Dana A]

Okay, Today's the day he drives himself. I would be lying if I said I slept well last night. I would also be lying if I said I wasn't relieved that I don't have to go sit in the library all day nicking to death The radio just said the temp here is -9 degrees so staying home is all good with me. I looked for a new van this weekend. No takers yet.