Has anyone experienced this????

[mjrhartley]

Oh man...That stinks! Every one needs encouragement when they quit...no matter which way you choose to quit. Just keep coming here and we'll have your back!

This happened, some what to my husband when he quit..him and I started vaping on the same day 39 days ago, and neither one of us has had a cig since...we couldn't have done it without each other to lean on. Anyhow, hubby was a smoker for over 40 years...when his Best Friend came over about 4 days into vaping, hubby showed it to him and told him it had been 4 days since he smoked a Cig. He was thinking, I guess, that his BF would have been happy for him...well, his BF said...AWE HECK! You're still smoking using that thing...just do what I did and toss the da*n Cigs and be done with it. That kind of burst my husbands bubble a bit. But, I just kept encourging him and he stuck with it, Thank Goodness!

Best of luck to you...this place was a life saver for me...with all the helpful folks around here and every one is so supportive.

Thanks for sharing that story. It's rough when you're vulnerable and you want people to be excited for you, and it doesn't go that way! It's great that he had you! I'm loving ECF and all of the wonderful people here!

 

[hottierockstar]

The funny thing about that is that my wife is a former smoker! When she got pregnant with our first child she put it down, and to her credit, never picked it back up again. It's a bit of a mystery to me. Although, I have to say, each time I get a first down, she moves the goal posts on me. Sorry for the bad football reference.

Thanks!

does she KNOW you feel that way? meaning have you told her that you were excited about your parade and she was the rain cloud?
I bet she doesn't even realize she did it...she prob thought "ok..you're done smoking...let's address another possible threat to your/our children's health"
I am guessing that since she put them aside and never looked back 4 days not smoking is plenty of time to be "done" (we all know that isn't the case...for a *smoker* vs. a take it or leave it smoker)

this thread made me a little sad

 

[Aftermath]

My wife never expected me to quit smoking as I was a smoker before she met me, while we were dating and through marriage. She just accepted the fact I'd smoke for the rest of my life so she didn't have any expectations of me quitting, even though she did have concerns for my health.

Switching over to vaping was my own self decision as I figured I've been smoking for way too long.

She was actually pleasantly surprised when she discovered that I had made the switch as she accepted the fact I was a smoker, but now I don't come home reaking of cigarette smoke and ash tray breath.

Bottom line is, if my stubborn self is going to smoke, she would rather have me vape and die of cancer than smoke cigarettes and die of cancer because atleast with vaping, I smell like fruits and vanilla and my whitening toothpaste can actually do it's job now.

 

[Vapoor eyes er]

Thanks for sharing that story. It's rough when you're vulnerable and you want people to be excited for you, and it doesn't go that way! It's great that he had you! I'm loving ECF and all of the wonderful people here!

Consider us family....and we're

VERY EXCITED FOR YOU

I've converted loads of people and sometimes I've found a non smoking spouse is slightly envious of the "new hobby". Many of my converts have been friends for well over 40 yrs. Sometimes I will have a heart to heart with the spouse choosing the right time and place. I first ask them if they love their spouse. I tell them the cons of smoking and how tough it is to kick the habit. I show them the pros of vaping. I show them pics of smoker's lungs. I also mention COPD and other smoking related diseases. You should really have a heart to heart with her and tell her EXACTLY how hurt you feel but also mentioning the main reason you're doing this is for her and the kids. Some may think I'm sticking my nose where it doesn't belong but when it comes to my friends I'll do whatever it takes to help them in times of need esp when it involves their health.

 

[vernhall]

Sometimes it goes like that -- if it ain't one thing it's another... Only thing you can really do is go with the flow and do the best you can 'cuz there's just no pleasing some people...

Here I, being the heavier smoker, quit in 3 days and haven't looked back since. My better-half just can't seem to let go of the analogs though she has cut down considerably. On a good day she'll only have 3 or 4. On a not-so-good day she'll hit 10. Seems to all depend on how much stress she finds herself under...

I try not to nag too much, but find I can't help myself sometimes...

 

[daleron]

I feel for you & wish we could all just give you a big ole group hug ((((U)))).
Don't know about your wife but some people simply are not happy unless they have something to complain about
On the other hand, kids are impressionable so all your equipment should definitely be kept out of their reach. If they are old enough you might even try educating them along with your wife as to the benefits of e-cigs over analogs and why you are switching over.
Wishing you the BEST of luck!

 

[Dansauls]

I was a 35+ yr 3pad smoker and I went through the same thing My wife liked that I quit smoking but she was worried about the effects of the eCig. I did some research and showed it to her. She was happy that I was looking into it and not just going into vaping blind with out knowing if there would be side effects. As for Long term effects........ I don't think anybody really knows. I had / have early signs of COPD and my lung Dr is very happy I switched... I can tell you I fell a hell of a lot better than I did when smoking and I can breath again!!!

 

[potholerepairman]

Thanks! She absolutely has a point regarding the kids. I wouldn't say that I vape more than I smoked though... I pretty much lived outside when I smoked (I smoked a lot)! I have suggested she do her own research, but she won't. I'll give her some material, but it won't matter. She has her mind made up already, I can tell. Sadly, as I'm sure many married men out there can attest to, our wives have a long list of things about us they would like to change. When one thing changes in the direction they desire... another gets added to the list!
Thank you!

my wife would have me use a smallish non-workable pv than most any one I use.A lot of spouses look at the pv like a perversion that is not shared, thank goodness that it is, be happy with your joy and I hope it makes You happy.

ps- she will only throw you out for real stuff

 

[Skypea]

From one Californian Vamo user to another I am officially toasting you and throwing a little party for you right here in this box. Congrats for quitting smoking. I am very proud of you! Come on everybody, let's dance~


Banana get off my foot!

 

[mjrhartley]

does she KNOW you feel that way? meaning have you told her that you were excited about your parade and she was the rain cloud?
I bet she doesn't even realize she did it...she prob thought "ok..you're done smoking...let's address another possible threat to your/our children's health"
I am guessing that since she put them aside and never looked back 4 days not smoking is plenty of time to be "done" (we all know that isn't the case...for a *smoker* vs. a take it or leave it smoker)

this thread made me a little sad

Maybe she does know it, maybe she doesn't. I haven't communicated about it, yet. There are more issues at play here, and I guess I'm not being completely fair by not telling the full story. My wife and I have been together for almost 19 years. We have two beautiful children, but we have been going through some tough times for about a year and a half now. We separated, then got back together, and we've been in therapy for many, many months. One of my issues is that she doesn't accept me as I am, for who I am. It's more about trying to mold me into what she wants me to be. Part of that was her desire for me to quit smoking. Of course, I never considered this a bad thing... it's only a bad thing because it was one of a few changes that were put to me as "conditions" of her love. This part I can't quite understand, as my love for her is boundless and not reliant on her changing anything about herself. Anyway... quitting smoking is just something I consider to be one of the best, if not the best, accomplishment I've had in quite some time. I suppose I just thought she'd be a bit happier about it. Maybe that was expecting too much.

Thank you for your response, and I'm sorry this made you sad. That was not my intention.

 

[mjrhartley]

Consider us family....and we're

VERY EXCITED FOR YOU

I've converted loads of people and sometimes I've found a non smoking spouse is slightly envious of the "new hobby". Many of my converts have been friends for well over 40 yrs. Sometimes I will have a heart to heart with the spouse choosing the right time and place. I first ask them if they love their spouse. I tell them the cons of smoking and how tough it is to kick the habit. I show them the pros of vaping. I show them pics of smoker's lungs. I also mention COPD and other smoking related diseases. You should really have a heart to heart with her and tell her EXACTLY how hurt you feel but also mentioning the main reason you're doing this is for her and the kids. Some may think I'm sticking my nose where it doesn't belong but when it comes to my friends I'll do whatever it takes to help them in times of need esp when it involves their health.

I think it's good that you care... don't stop doing that
Thanks for your reply

 

[mjrhartley]

I feel for you & wish we could all just give you a big ole group hug ((((U)))).
Don't know about your wife but some people simply are not happy unless they have something to complain about
On the other hand, kids are impressionable so all your equipment should definitely be kept out of their reach. If they are old enough you might even try educating them along with your wife as to the benefits of e-cigs over analogs and why you are switching over.
Wishing you the BEST of luck!

You are sweet. Thanks.
I agree about the kids and I do speak to them about these things... and my equipment is most definitely not in sight or accessible! Smoking was a tradition in my family, a tradition I'm trying to break with this next generation. My mother passed from lung cancer at 57. My father is a two-time cancer survivor. It's time to break the chains, instead of adding more loops! Thanks for your words!

 

[mjrhartley]

I was a 35+ yr 3pad smoker and I went through the same thing My wife liked that I quit smoking but she was worried about the effects of the eCig. I did some research and showed it to her. She was happy that I was looking into it and not just going into vaping blind with out knowing if there would be side effects. As for Long term effects........ I don't think anybody really knows. I had / have early signs of COPD and my lung Dr is very happy I switched... I can tell you I fell a hell of a lot better than I did when smoking and I can breath again!!!

Good luck with the COPD... I certainly hope you don't develop that!
It should tell us something that lung Doctors are happy with the switch!

 

[mjrhartley]

my wife would have me use a smallish non-workable pv than most any one I use.A lot of spouses look at the pv like a perversion that is not shared, thank goodness that it is, be happy with your joy and I hope it makes You happy.

ps- she will only throw you out for real stuff

So true! I'll keep my fingers crossed that you're right about not getting thrown out for it! I think I'm safe in that regard though! Thanks!

 

[mjrhartley]

From one Californian Vamo user to another I am officially toasting you and throwing a little party for you right here in this box. Congrats for quitting smoking. I am very proud of you! Come on everybody, let's dance~


Banana get off my foot!

Ok, I'm officially impressed! Thank you!!!!

 

[mjrhartley]

Such a huge "Thanks!!!" to all of you for helping me on this one! I feel better already!
You guys really are a great bunch of happy, positive analog-free folks!

 

[bnrkwest]

I went thru the same thing with my hubby who quit cold turkey years ago. He was always hinting that ecigs are a crutch and when was I going off them and quit nicotine. I just told him nicotine is keeping me from getting alzhiemzers and has many benefits and I love vaping so get used to that part LOL I also always tell him when new reports come out on how Dr's are telling patients to use ecigs not analogs and how studies show ecigs are not harmful, yadda yadda. You have to work on them a bit because they don't read up on this like we do.
Now he wishes his daughter would use ecigs and use all the vape stuff I gave her. He also sees how his sister in law quit on day one of vaping from a kit I sent her. So over time they do get it Stay positive and don't let those remarks from non vapers get to you, but be proud of yourself, you are you doing this for you and you are doing a very good thing! Now go reward yourself, maybe a new juice or a new ?? bnrk

 

[Euphonious Nonsense]

Hi all...

I am in my 2nd week of vaping, running a black chrome Vamo with T3's and ProTanks. I am on my 4th day of being a non-smoker. I just want to know if anyone out there has been in my position. Through all of my past attempts to stop analogs I always asked my wife to not speak about the subject, so as not to feel pressured. This time she honored that request quite nicely, at least that's what I thought.
Last night I looked at her and said, "You know what? I did it. I quit, I'm done. You can be happy". I was thinking that she was just being cautious and didn't want me to feel pressured. In my mind when I said this I envisioned bells ringing, cakes being brought out, disco balls appearing out of nowhere... a party! She got this look across her face that I read as relief, and I saw it coming... she was about to explode with pent-up excitement and jubilation... And then... She said, "I'm concerned about the long-term effects of the e cig, and what influence seeing you using that thing will have on the kids..." etc... etc... etc...
To say I was deflated is an understatement! 22 years of analogs, a pack a day, never any success with any form of abstinence assistance until my Vamo... Years and years of my wife hating that aspect of my life. I finally did it. I know I'm done with it. The e cig should be revered as the exalted magical device that it is. What do I get instead? Grief now because I use an e cig!
I can't win... What can I do? Advice? Snide remarks? Comments all appreciated.

ps. As it was with my cigarette smoking, I don't hide my e cig use from my kids. I don't blow it in their face either, but they see me use it at times.

Thanks!

This is called being a woman. Yes it's normal. I get it every. single. day.

 

[Renolizzie]

Maybe she does know it, maybe she doesn't. I haven't communicated about it, yet. There are more issues at play here, and I guess I'm not being completely fair by not telling the full story. My wife and I have been together for almost 19 years. We have two beautiful children, but we have been going through some tough times for about a year and a half now. We separated, then got back together, and we've been in therapy for many, many months. One of my issues is that she doesn't accept me as I am, for who I am. It's more about trying to mold me into what she wants me to be. Part of that was her desire for me to quit smoking. Of course, I never considered this a bad thing... it's only a bad thing because it was one of a few changes that were put to me as "conditions" of her love. This part I can't quite understand, as my love for her is boundless and not reliant on her changing anything about herself. Anyway... quitting smoking is just something I consider to be one of the best, if not the best, accomplishment I've had in quite some time. I suppose I just thought she'd be a bit happier about it. Maybe that was expecting too much.

Thank you for your response, and I'm sorry this made you sad. That was not my intention.

You have been married for 19 years? How old are the kids? I'm thinking the "Don't let the children see you vaping" is just a ridiculous thing to say if the kids are in their teens. The kids know you smoke and it would be better to be honest with them. You smoke, it was a big mistake and a huge waste of money. Now you are quitting through vaping.

Now's the time to tell her how you feel. It hurts when you are being molded into something when you have an undeniable love for her and are a good person. Sure, we are all willing to work on a few flaws but, darn it, people are not clay to be molded.

Had to say it.

It's not a relationship unless you are relating

I actually think you should talk to her in your own way.

I feel that honesty [whilst keeping it nice] is the best policy.

By the way, I am very happy that you quit smoking by vaping. It is a huge accomplishment.

 

[moresalt]

Yea, I started vaping Jan 30. In the latter part of Feb I basically did the same thing to my wife and although the reaction wasn't exactly the same it still burst my bubble...I got, " that's nice dear."