How much more forward should I pay it!?

[Kimmothy]

A few weeks ago someone at work noticed me with my vape and asked about it. It's happened a few times and I try to keep the description as simple as possible yet also say it's worked for me for almost 7 months now and I'm always excited to pass along an old Ego set-up and whatnot. What makes this time different is that I'd never met nor had a conversation with this person prior to this. At first I thought she was saying she'd give me some money & the next time I went to the vape store could I pick her up something like what I had, but no - she was asking me to go ahead and buy the stuff and then she'd pay me back. Again, never talked to this woman before in my life. I told her I didn't really have the money to front but that I could probably put something together from what I have at home for her and that's what I did. Ego, Kanger T3 tank and a sample size bottle of liquid. Okay, cool - I felt good about it.
After a few days, she came back and asked if I "had anything stronger." Um...what? I asked what she meant - stronger battery? juice? She explained she wanted more of a menthol taste. Oh, okay then, let me get right on that. I happen to have burned myself out on menthol, probably forever, so I'm going to give her the bottle, but seriously? I am all about sharing vape love but my budget is pretty tight to the point when I want a new vape toy I plan, shop around and make careful decisions. So far I don't feel like I'm out any money but I'm starting to feel like an idiot.
This purpose of this post is for venting purposes mainly, but I'm curious to know if anyone else has had any experiences like this?

 

[readeuler]

Thankfully no, my small amount of gear gifting never turned into anything ridiculous.

But I do recall one thread in particular where rebuilding a coil for a coworker turned into being the office build monkey.

I guess be thankful you're not in too deep!

But seriously, that's pretty nuts. People and their need to look gift horses in the mouth...

 

[MoonSparkle]

Aweee, you have a great heart for helping people and you cannot ever be faulted for it! But, you also need to know when to stop so you are not stepped over.

I'm glad it's working for her, and you need to tell her that and point her in the right direction where she can now take over for herself to buy her own supplies and learn more about it.

Maybe direct her to these forums and give her the name to a couple vendors in your area for her to visit.

 

[Wissel Joe]

no I havnt ran into that. I seen a friend on Christmas day he had a kanger evod I checked it out hit it a few times and the next day I drove around found a vape shop went in tried some flavors. I bought a kanger evod vv a protank 3 and 30ml of juice...I would find out what area she lives in and steer her to a good vape shop tell her she can try flavors and they can help her with what she needs.

 

[KurrptSenate]

just inform her to the location of the closest B&M

 

[Bikenstein]

Sounds like some of my wife's relatives. Did you give her a swift kick to get her puffin?

 

[lamarrk]

Some people are givers and some people are takers. They expect it.
Point her toward a vape store and say goodbye.

 

[AndriaD]

Yeah, I keep business cards from all the online shops I buy from, and I've even got a couple from the vape shop I used to buy some juice from, before I started DIYing. That first gift you gave her was MORE than adequate; when she came back, I'd have given her some biz cards and informed her that they could probably help her. Since you don't really care for menthol anymore, then I guess it's good that it go to someone who might use it (I've got a whole bottle of Halo Voodoo I'd be more than happy to give anyone!) -- but you don't have to be vape Santa to the world. Vape stuff costs a lot less than cigarettes, so if she is/was buying those, she's got enough money to buy her own vape stuff. Maybe she just doesn't know what to buy? Help in the guidance/information area might be useful to her, and wouldn't cost you anything but a little time. Even that, I'd probably begrudge -- nobody held MY hand when I started out, I came here and asked questions, and was helpfully answered -- maybe just give her a link to this forum, so she can learn all there is to know about vaping.

Andria

 

[pwheeler]

I had a situation where I helped someone here on the forum that ended up with a loss to me. I don't mind helping someone in need, but my resources to do so has disappeared. A member here had his one and only Reo stolen at a vape shop. He posted his issue and I had my first Reo plus a couple of newer ones so I offered to loan it to him and an RM2 atomizer with it. I quickly shipped it to him and his last post was thanking the community for the thoughtfulness of everyone. Haven't seen him since and a PM from me went unanswered. I guess it's gone. I really like helping when someone needs the help, but hate being taken advantage of. MoonSparkles advice is good. Start leading her towards doing for herself or you might end up really being taken advantage of. Good luck with it!

Sent by REO vapor

 

[OlderNDirt]

I don't know another single vaper in the small town where I live. Then again, I don't get out that much. I did try to give away a couple spinners and tanks I wasn't using anymore, but one smoker said "no thanks" and the other returned it after a couple days and said they didn't like it.

So giving them the name of your favorite vape shop as others have said is the best option. Or, the house next door to me is available for sale!

 

[Vicshalls]

I know what you mean. My wife's old boss had me rebuilding her kanger heads all the time. It got to be a second job. It was crazy. I could not keep up. Thank god my wife quit. It took all the fun out of it for me. And of course I was not going to say anything cause I did not want to put my wife in a bad place at work.

 

[Strings]

I have no problem giving older gear to friends, and adding a juice sample to an order (done that a couple times). But someone I don't know? I ask for their number, and text them links to ECF and a few vendors

 

[KurrptSenate]

I'm guessing it's because it was a female...

 

[Kimmothy]

Thank you all - I read these and laughed and nodded and just feel so much better in general now! We have plenty of local B & Ms close by and all of them I've been to have helpful friendly employees. I will be handing her a list of them with the menthol tomorrow.

 

[Kimmothy]

@KurrptSenate Ooh...ouch.

 

[Hitmetwice]

Nice story you done did good. We were all inquisitive and knew absolutely nothing when we started.
What you've done for her is let her see for free if she thinks this option will work for her.
I've given away used(and new) gear to a prospect in the past too, along with a variety of liquids
and instructions. Didn't work in one case I think, because she had nothing invested and couldn't find the time to get around to try it. She still smokes like a fiend, is near retirement and looks like she's been a heavy smoker her whole life. Really sad she couldn't "find the time" when everything was handed to her along with instructions and my phone number. I asked her to pass it on if she didn't want to use it, don't know how that worked out. No biggie anyways, it was old tech I no longer used.

I like her, she's a very nice lady, but with none of her own time and money invested she had nothing to lose, so to speak. Let your acquaintance know that what you have given her is really sub par and that any vape shop can fix her up with something much better and newer.

If she hates cigs as much as some of us do she will take the next step for herself.

It might be nice if you would hold her hand at the vape shop for guidance so she doesn't
end up with pricey trash. But that's totally up to you of course. You may have found a new friend.Cheers.

 

[Wissel Joe]

Yeah, I keep business cards from all the online shops I buy from, and I've even got a couple from the vape shop I used to buy some juice from, before I started DIYing. That first gift you gave her was MORE than adequate; when she came back, I'd have given her some biz cards and informed her that they could probably help her. Since you don't really care for menthol anymore, then I guess it's good that it go to someone who might use it (I've got a whole bottle of Halo Voodoo I'd be more than happy to give anyone!) -- but you don't have to be vape Santa to the world. Vape stuff costs a lot less than cigarettes, so if she is/was buying those, she's got enough money to buy her own vape stuff. Maybe she just doesn't know what to buy? Help in the guidance/information area might be useful to her, and wouldn't cost you anything but a little time. Even that, I'd probably begrudge -- nobody held MY hand when I started out, I came here and asked questions, and was helpfully answered -- maybe just give her a link to this forum, so she can learn all there is to know about vaping.

Andria

Business cards that's a great idea, I have a bunch of cards that's what im gonna do from now on..Thanks for the idea.

 

[Kimmothy]

I had a situation where I helped someone here on the forum that ended up with a loss to me. I don't mind helping someone in need, but my resources to do so has disappeared. A member here had his one and only Reo stolen at a vape shop. He posted his issue and I had my first Reo plus a couple of newer ones so I offered to loan it to him and an RM2 atomizer with it. I quickly shipped it to him and his last post was thanking the community for the thoughtfulness of everyone. Haven't seen him since and a PM from me went unanswered. I guess it's gone. I really like helping when someone needs the help, but hate being taken advantage of. MoonSparkles advice is good. Start leading her towards doing for herself or you might end up really being taken advantage of. Good luck with it!

Sent by REO vapor

That's terrible. One of the best surprises when I started vaping was learning about this wonderful group of people and this forum especially has been invaluable with helping me along and being nice about my dumb questions. I'm always surprised at people who presume things should just go to them because they ask for it and/or screw someone over. I'm not built that way.

 

[nicetucu]

I don't do well with those types of personalities. You do one little favor and you become their personal slave.

Your heart was in the right place. You have to shut these people down from the get go or it will just be awkward later on. I don't want this to sound mean, it isn't.

In life you have to train people how you wish to be treated. If she can't get the memo, cut her loose.

 

[Bikenstein]

That's terrible. One of the best surprises when I started vaping was learning about this wonderful group of people and this forum especially has been invaluable with helping me along and being nice about my dumb questions. I'm always surprised at people who presume things should just go to them because they ask for it and/or screw someone over. I'm not built that way.

Do you have any kids?