I miss my sailor :'(

[Kelly79]

*sigh* I miss my sailor, he's only been gone a week and I feel like he's already been gone a month. Navy life sucks . This is actually his first long term deployment in the over 10 years we've been married. His first sea duty was sea\shore duty (an overseas stationing in Italy that required frequent week or so deployments), then he was hospitalized, then he went to an administrative position, so the longest we've been apart is the 3 months it took the Navy to get it's act together and ship my daughter and I back to the states after my husband was medivaced there after his motorcycle accident. So this is really rough, esp since he's my very best friend (aside from my sister). We have been txt msging (well he is e-mailing txt msgs to my phone lol), and yesterday he even called me, though with all that was going on in the background it wasn't much of a conversation. I miss him.

 

[SudokuGal]

I've always admired the left-at-home spouses; few people realized how difficult that is.

Here's a <<<<<<<<<<<<<HUGE HUG>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>> for you.

 

[Jennee26]

Kelly - I completely understand! This is the third dpl that I'm currently going through. Thankfully it will be over soon! and those emails/texts to the phone can make you more happy than anyone not in the situation could understand.

 

[Stormynights]

The unmentioned heroes are the faithful spouses and children. Wait I forgot the mothers fathers sister brothers aunts uncles grand parents.

 

[Kate51]

Want some good advice? Use this time to grow yourself, get comradeship from other grass-widows in your husband's group, there are social programs, self-help programs for educational needs, courses, tutorships, i.e., reading groups, school aides, child-care, religious fortifications & counseling, leadership, travel help especially for emergency runs of any kind, hospital volunteer services, even financial counseling and a whole huge number of people in your same predicament to do service to the military communities supporting the personnell in deployment. Don't sit around feeling depressed, and yelling at your kids (I know you don't do that!) when you look outside yourself you will see others are also in need. There is strength in numbers, your spouses/significant others will be a lot more comfortable during their time away that you can indeed take care of yourself, your kids, and your community by banding together. The more productively busy your times apart the faster that time will pass. Don't waste it, there's so much to do. Best medicine is to do for others! The military community has been working very well this way for a couple hundred years now, can turn out to be the best time in your lives. It is such sweet success when they're home again and you also have some bravery to share in pillowtalk. Takes more brevity to do something constructive for yourself than waiting in the dark, but it can sure light up your life! And a lifetime list of friends who really know what it's like to share the least of what you have. And if there is no such group near you, start one, you will be a hero! The best Time-Out time for yourself you'll ever get the chance to have. (I personally still like a few days to myself, after 40 yrs of being married, not all the same one, understand, but I look forward to personal time. Always stash away a few plans for time off.)
PS: God-Forbid any kind of misfortune, your "family" will be your salvation, or you for easing someone elses' loss. Priceless!
Signed,
Been there!!

 

[Kelly79]

Want some good advice? Use this time to grow yourself, get comradeship from other grass-widows in your husband's group, there are social programs, self-help programs for educational needs, courses, tutorships, i.e., reading groups, school aides, child-care, religious fortifications & counseling, leadership, travel help especially for emergency runs of any kind, hospital volunteer services, even financial counseling and a whole huge number of people in your same predicament to do service to the military communities supporting the personnell in deployment. Don't sit around feeling depressed, and yelling at your kids (I know you don't do that!) when you look outside yourself you will see others are also in need. There is strength in numbers, your spouses/significant others will be a lot more comfortable during their time away that you can indeed take care of yourself, your kids, and your community by banding together. The more productively busy your times apart the faster that time will pass. Don't waste it, there's so much to do. Best medicine is to do for others! The military community has been working very well this way for a couple hundred years now, can turn out to be the best time in your lives. It is such sweet success when they're home again and you also have some bravery to share in pillowtalk. Takes more brevity to do something constructive for yourself than waiting in the dark, but it can sure light up your life! And a lifetime list of friends who really know what it's like to share the least of what you have. And if there is no such group near you, start one, you will be a hero! The best Time-Out time for yourself you'll ever get the chance to have. (I personally still like a few days to myself, after 40 yrs of being married, not all the same one, understand, but I look forward to personal time. Always stash away a few plans for time off.)
PS: God-Forbid any kind of misfortune, your "family" will be your salvation, or you for easing someone elses' loss. Priceless!
Signed,
Been there!!

I wish I had time to do volunteer work, but I have more work to do every day than I can possibly get done, only reason I even have time to post on here is that I never turn off my computer and it gives me something to do when I get put on hold while making phone calls. And because a lot of my posting is done at obscenely late hours, my only free time. When my oldest daughter goes back to school I'll start going to the parent coffee mornings, but that's about all I have time for. I gave up on getting to know other military wives, by the time I get to know them they move, or I do. I haven't had a day to myself in over 3 years, or for that matter time off, as both my girls wake during the night. Misfortune has happened before, I'm good at managing on my own, if anything happens to me however we are all in deep doo cause I have nobody I can call on that actually could help, and I don't know or trust any of the military spouses around here.

 

[BARENETTED]

Just want to tell you gals with husbands in the Armed services - We love and pray for your husbands. We owe a huge debt of gratitude to them and you! We appreciate every sacrifice. God Bless all of you and your families.