I have not been to jail, none of my family or friends have been to jail ('cept one who had to do weekends for a dui). It's not normal or acceptable or some right of passage.
Most people feel as you do ...
I consider myself lucky, as a teenager I was falsely arrested and jailed for 21 days, until I was quietly released with no apology, and no record of the incident. I'm certain of that, it would have registered when I first applied for a security clearance, and it did not ...
The experience changed my perspective for life, I no longer view incarceration as an automatic indication of bad character. It happens to many of those who never committed a serious crime ...
My friend was convicted on "conspiracy" charges, a favorite of California prosecutors in drug cases. The real perpetrator will bargain away his wife or girlfriend for a reduction in charges, and the prison system gets free labor for a profitable industry ...
Did she profit indirectly from his crimes ? Yes she did. Did she deserve to lose 10 of the best years of her life ? I think not ...
Its been reported that California has more women imprisoned than any other state, or indeed any
country in the world ...
I learned a lot by visiting regularly at Chowchilla, the largest female prison in the world (actually two facilities). The price gouging for basic necessities is shameful and disgusting, and the sale of e-cigs at a grossly inflated price would be just one more indignity, of the kind that leads to bitterness and a desire on the part of former inmates to strike back at society upon release ...
My friend is doing as well as can be expected, and participates in an outreach program to help to reorient recently released female inmates ...