I was pretty mad tonight, I'm stopping by to air... This is a long vent, don't blame you for speed reading. 
This afternoon I took my heavy linens to the laundry mat to wash. They can't fit into my machines here at home, King sized and all. There were several items, one of which I have some real attachment to. It was a Korean Mink blanket, I love it so much. My aunt sent it from Korea a few years ago and I literally built my whole bedroom decor around this blanket. I usually even throw off my comforter and sheets just to sleep against it. LOVE it. Anyways, I have 4 kids. I don't like sitting in the laundry mat for 3 hours or more while my blankets wash and dry with my kids bouncing off the walls. So I usually just come back to check on the wash every 20-30 minutes. I set an alarm on my stove so I don't forget. Anyhow, I washed the load, went home, came back and put them in the dryer and left again. There was 1 man, and 1 young woman there when I left. I came back 15 minutes later. My blankets were all there but one... My Korean Mink. I panicked and looked all over, thinking I had just forgotten where I put it. It wasn't there. At this point the only other person there was the young woman. I asked her if she had seen anyone leave with a big, white korean mink. She said 2 women had come in but she didn't see whether they had taken anything. I walked away, slinked to the floor, and started crying. She looked at me and said, "That's why I don't leave my stuff unattended." Who says that to someone who is crying? Jerk. Anyways, I've been choking on the blues lately anyways, I've been kind of sad. But this sort of put some icing on that cake, you know? About this time the man walked in and he ended up asking me if I was alright. I told him I was fine, that someone had stolen my blanket and I was just really bummed. He said, "Well, I don't know who would have taken it, she (gesturing to young woman) and I are the only ones who have been here since you left". Wow, really? So now I was wondering if the guy just hadn't seen those women come in that she had mentioned, or if the young woman was lying. I leaned towards the latter. So I went to my car to cry, since that young woman was eavesdropping on my tears and I felt her watching me. While I walked to my car, I noticed she was parked next to me, it had to be her car because the man was driving a truck, I had observed that when I pulled into the carlot. In the back seat was a plastic trash bag with something in it. I felt this strong intuition that my blanket was in it. I don't know how to explain it. I seriously had to fight the urge to reach in her car and grab the bag, and that's not like me at all. I was looking to see if her doors were locked! I went back in, checked to see if my blankets were dry, put another quarter in, went back to my car to feel sorry for myself some more. This time she came out behind me. I looked away, I didn't want her to know I was looking at the bag. When she went back in, I noticed she had moved the bag, but she didn't take it in with her so I figured she put it in her trunk. How protective of her. I immediately went to the police station because now I was really feeling a strong intuition about it. Long story short, the cop got my blanket out of her car. She told him she stole it because her friends had told her I was looking at her stuff like I was going to take it! Are you serious!? What friends? I didn't see anyone but her and that man, who wasn't "with" her! I told the policeman that, but it didn't matter because she had been busted at that point. He said, "Why would you steal from someone to keep them from stealing from you?"
I'm grateful that I got it back. And when the policeman first showed up I was afraid I was wrong and that he'd search her car and not find the blanket. I figured I would go and apologize to her for assuming she took it. But then he walked to me, arms full of white korean mink, and I was happy, sure, BUT LIVID TOO!
I know I shouldn't have left it there. It's my fault. But really, I just didn't think anyone would steal something while it was wet. I could understand someone stealing it if it were dry and had sat there for a long time. But this ..... WATCHED me put my stuff in there! It was premeditated! And when she saw me crying and said, "That's why I don't leave my stuff unattended." Why would you kick someone who was already down unless you were justifying to yourself why you stole something from them? Why not just not say anything at all, or say "I'm really sorry that happened." And then the way she watched me cry, like she was getting off on it. And then the way she moved that bag in her car...
Ugh. So the cop asked me if I want to press charges. I told him yes! And I wouldn't have normally because I got the blanket back! But the way she said that so heartlessly like she was justified, I thought she deserved to learn a lesson! But now I'm wondering, pressing charges won't change her either way and I should be the better person. But does forgiveness make me better? What would you do?
This afternoon I took my heavy linens to the laundry mat to wash. They can't fit into my machines here at home, King sized and all. There were several items, one of which I have some real attachment to. It was a Korean Mink blanket, I love it so much. My aunt sent it from Korea a few years ago and I literally built my whole bedroom decor around this blanket. I usually even throw off my comforter and sheets just to sleep against it. LOVE it. Anyways, I have 4 kids. I don't like sitting in the laundry mat for 3 hours or more while my blankets wash and dry with my kids bouncing off the walls. So I usually just come back to check on the wash every 20-30 minutes. I set an alarm on my stove so I don't forget. Anyhow, I washed the load, went home, came back and put them in the dryer and left again. There was 1 man, and 1 young woman there when I left. I came back 15 minutes later. My blankets were all there but one... My Korean Mink. I panicked and looked all over, thinking I had just forgotten where I put it. It wasn't there. At this point the only other person there was the young woman. I asked her if she had seen anyone leave with a big, white korean mink. She said 2 women had come in but she didn't see whether they had taken anything. I walked away, slinked to the floor, and started crying. She looked at me and said, "That's why I don't leave my stuff unattended." Who says that to someone who is crying? Jerk. Anyways, I've been choking on the blues lately anyways, I've been kind of sad. But this sort of put some icing on that cake, you know? About this time the man walked in and he ended up asking me if I was alright. I told him I was fine, that someone had stolen my blanket and I was just really bummed. He said, "Well, I don't know who would have taken it, she (gesturing to young woman) and I are the only ones who have been here since you left". Wow, really? So now I was wondering if the guy just hadn't seen those women come in that she had mentioned, or if the young woman was lying. I leaned towards the latter. So I went to my car to cry, since that young woman was eavesdropping on my tears and I felt her watching me. While I walked to my car, I noticed she was parked next to me, it had to be her car because the man was driving a truck, I had observed that when I pulled into the carlot. In the back seat was a plastic trash bag with something in it. I felt this strong intuition that my blanket was in it. I don't know how to explain it. I seriously had to fight the urge to reach in her car and grab the bag, and that's not like me at all. I was looking to see if her doors were locked! I went back in, checked to see if my blankets were dry, put another quarter in, went back to my car to feel sorry for myself some more. This time she came out behind me. I looked away, I didn't want her to know I was looking at the bag. When she went back in, I noticed she had moved the bag, but she didn't take it in with her so I figured she put it in her trunk. How protective of her. I immediately went to the police station because now I was really feeling a strong intuition about it. Long story short, the cop got my blanket out of her car. She told him she stole it because her friends had told her I was looking at her stuff like I was going to take it! Are you serious!? What friends? I didn't see anyone but her and that man, who wasn't "with" her! I told the policeman that, but it didn't matter because she had been busted at that point. He said, "Why would you steal from someone to keep them from stealing from you?"
I'm grateful that I got it back. And when the policeman first showed up I was afraid I was wrong and that he'd search her car and not find the blanket. I figured I would go and apologize to her for assuming she took it. But then he walked to me, arms full of white korean mink, and I was happy, sure, BUT LIVID TOO!
I know I shouldn't have left it there. It's my fault. But really, I just didn't think anyone would steal something while it was wet. I could understand someone stealing it if it were dry and had sat there for a long time. But this ..... WATCHED me put my stuff in there! It was premeditated! And when she saw me crying and said, "That's why I don't leave my stuff unattended." Why would you kick someone who was already down unless you were justifying to yourself why you stole something from them? Why not just not say anything at all, or say "I'm really sorry that happened." And then the way she watched me cry, like she was getting off on it. And then the way she moved that bag in her car...
Ugh. So the cop asked me if I want to press charges. I told him yes! And I wouldn't have normally because I got the blanket back! But the way she said that so heartlessly like she was justified, I thought she deserved to learn a lesson! But now I'm wondering, pressing charges won't change her either way and I should be the better person. But does forgiveness make me better? What would you do?
