Looks like I'm in the doghouse again

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I'm in the same dog house. After my MVP broke, I dipped into my savings for a Vamo set up. She wasn't so thrilled. Especially when I turned around and said I was getting a Provari in a few weeks. Needless to say I promised I would just buy juice for awhile and pay some bills after i buy it. Ecigs are an addiction. Lol

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"Sorry, babe, but it's my ONE YEAR ANNIVERSARY since I stopped cigarettes and that is a HUGE milestone for me. I work hard, I put away half my paycheck toward the car. Let me have this one present to myself to celebrate how hard I've worked toward this goal.

Would YOU like something, too, sweetheart? Would that help make it easier for you? I'm not going to argue with you over this because I deserve my award to myself but it's no problem to share my joy with you because I love you."



Try it.


My girlfriend would NEVER buy this. she would smell the poo poo a mile away!!! lol

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My girlfriend would NEVER buy this. she would smell the poo poo a mile away!!! lol

Women... you can't live with e'm, pass the beer nuts. ;)
It's not intended as "poo poo". It's telling her that you're not going to argue, that it happened and that's that, and that you are more than willing to buy HER something to if that will make it easier for her.
 

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I get told about all my purchases. My first ego, all my juice, my Vamo v5, my MVP 2, more juice, my Nemesis, and my Kayfun. Same thing every time "you don't need it, stop spending money, blah blah". In one ear and out the other.

I've stopped asking, and just do it. I get 75 a month for my vape budget. If I spend it on a new shiny, or juice, or whatever, it shouldn't matter. It's better than the 250$ a month I was spending on smokes.

I've actually used the "we're not fighting about it. I bought it, it's done, the bills are paid" many times, and it's worked. Almost too well. When I told her I spent $37 on my Nemesis and $36 on my Kayfun within minutes of each other, all I got was a shocked eyebrow raise. No arguement, just went on about our business. And when I order my Aqua, more juice, and whatever else I order on the 1st of April, I'm sure there won't even be the eyebrow raise.

I'm not saying you have to be mean about it, but put your foot down and be done with it. Over time, it'll fade to her not even batting an eye anymore as long as bills are paid, food is in the house, etc.
 

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I get told about all my purchases. My first ego, all my juice, my Vamo v5, my MVP 2, more juice, my Nemesis, and my Kayfun. Same thing every time "you don't need it, stop spending money, blah blah". In one ear and out the other.

I've stopped asking, and just do it. I get 75 a month for my vape budget. If I spend it on a new shiny, or juice, or whatever, it shouldn't matter. It's better than the 250$ a month I was spending on smokes.

I've actually used the "we're not fighting about it. I bought it, it's done, the bills are paid" many times, and it's worked. Almost too well. When I told her I spent $37 on my Nemesis and $36 on my Kayfun within minutes of each other, all I got was a shocked eyebrow raise. No arguement, just went on about our business. And when I order my Aqua, more juice, and whatever else I order on the 1st of April, I'm sure there won't even be the eyebrow raise.

I'm not saying you have to be mean about it, but put your foot down and be done with it. Over time, it'll fade to her not even batting an eye anymore as long as bills are paid, food is in the house, etc.
As long as your partner feels as though things are fair it shouldn't be a huge issue, at least to my mind. And I'm all about the refusing to argue thing. I will NOT allow myself to be drawn into things if I don't wish to be.
 

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Thank god for the wife of 19 years I have. I'm at my new job 900 miles away and my juice barista is back there where she's at. So Saturday morning I ask her to drop by and pick up a couple 64ml bottles of my favorite for me. She was there and asked if there's anything else I need besides the juice and the DRV the Innokin rep dropped off for me. So jokingly I said I need another 18650 mech mod so she asks which one so again I joked and said I don't care as long as it's solid brass or copper. Well the care package is due to arrive tomorrow with not a brass OR copper mod but with a brass AND a copper mod.

Don't know what I'm getting except that one of my drivers was there at the time and afterwards called me to see if she has a sister who's available. No one will tell but I do have access to the bank card she used and I know what the juice costs so they are both genuine and expensive or she bought a couple gallons of juice.

She knows how much I spent every week on analogues and as such doesn't blink an eye when I want something new.

But just a bit of sage advice garnered from explaining new airplanes that show up, it's easier to beg for forgiveness (use of diamonds, new cars and new kitchens seem to work particularly well) than ask for permission.

This was my most recent airplane arrival attempt to beg for forgiveness-
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As long as your partner feels as though things are fair it shouldn't be a huge issue, at least to my mind. And I'm all about the refusing to argue thing. I will NOT allow myself to be drawn into things if I don't wish to be.

I get what you mean, but personally, I think its wrong for any spouse to control what the other does. I would be telling his wife the same thing I'm telling him if the situation were reversed. Put your foot down and end the arguement before it begins.

He works for his money, obviously bills are paid, he's saving for a car and handling his business before he made the purchase (as far as I can tell lol). He can do whatever he pleases with his money after all is said and done. Just like his wife can do anything she pleases with her money.

That's why in my first post, I said what I use in the arguement phase as "...bills are paid". I would never pay a bill late, or go without food just because I bought a new mod. That being said, if everything is paid, and food shopping is done, there is no reason whatsoever someone should "get in trouble" with their spouse for spending leftover money.

I work 72 hours a week. If I ever, and yes I mean ever, get yelled at for spending money after everything is paid and the house is in order, there is a HUGE fight. It's absolutely ridiculous for anyone to tell someone they can't spend their extra money.

I honestly do apologize if I sound rude or brash in any way. I do not mean to come off that way.
 

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I get what you mean, but personally, I think its wrong for any spouse to control what the other does. I would be telling his wife the same thing I'm telling him if the situation were reversed. Put your foot down and end the arguement before it begins.

He works for his money, obviously bills are paid, he's saving for a car and handling his business before he made the purchase (as far as I can tell lol). He can do whatever he pleases with his money after all is said and done. Just like his wife can do anything she pleases with her money.

That's why in my first post, I said what I use in the arguement phase as "...bills are paid". I would never pay a bill late, or go without food just because I bought a new mod. That being said, if everything is paid, and food shopping is done, there is no reason whatsoever someone should "get in trouble" with their spouse for spending leftover money.

I work 72 hours a week. If I ever, and yes I mean ever, get yelled at for spending money after everything is paid and the house is in order, there is a HUGE fight. It's absolutely ridiculous for anyone to tell someone they can't spend their extra money.

I honestly do apologize if I sound rude or brash in any way. I do not mean to come off that way.
I'm not talking about control. I'm talking about a fair partnership and honest, no bull communication.

I don't want you to misunderstand. I've always been the provider in my relationships, probably why I no longer enter into them...lol I'm not big on control, either.
 

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I just do not get the entire thing.
Your both adults thus you both have equal rights in the relationship.
My husband would be furious if I spent money that we did not have and bills were not paid... But barring that ... I can buy whatever my heart desires.
And the very same goes for him. We do consult with each other every few days about what is in our account and what we may each wish to buy. This includes all things, not just vape gear.
So I must ask..... is she only like this about vape gear or is it everything? If it is just vape gear then you can discuss it.... If it is everything then you have a much larger issue to discuss.
 

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Man I wish you guys would tell my husband how lucky he is . Every time I buy myself piece of vape gear I buy him one as well . I bought myself a silver Provari so I bought him a satin black one. I bought a Chi you so I bought him a Nemisis and the list goes on and on. He isn't even a full time vaper , he still smokes as well. All I get is a slight smile not even a thank you. I work and make very good money so it's not like he's paying or anything. Dam.
 

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The hubby backs my vaping 100%. That said we are on a very tight budget so we worked out the following deal. I get a specific amount of cash for vaping every month. I load it onto a reloadable visa. When or what I spend it on is entirely up to me. I can save it up for big ticket items or spend it all every month. Short of a real disaster type emergency I don't go and ask for more.

He has however been known to swipe my wishlist from my desk and "Surprise" me with things on it. :)
 
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