Lost my best friend yesterday

[AJMoore]

Terrible news, really terrible. So many folks that have never been close and loved a pet don't understand the grief. It is losing a member of the family, not "like" losing a member of the family. They are your constant companions and your life changes immediately, from the moment you realized that you aren't required for the morning walk up to and including the wet kisses at bed time. They are a constant in your life and the pain is unbearable. I feel for you, I do.

 

[jj2]

I'm so sorry about you loss.
It does sound like you gave all and made life wonderful.

 

[Chrissie]

So very sorry to hear of your heartbreaking loss My heart goes out to you - I know too well the pain & sadness of losing a furry friend.

RIP Milo.

 

[Mac]

mega-bummer! My condolences to you. It might not seem possible now but time does heal wounds of the heart. Keep your head up!

 

[Moradiss]

I am very sorry to hear about your loss, Milo. When my german shepherd passed I was a basket case for a long time. Hell, its been over 2 years and every time I go in the back yard and see where he's buried I get choked up.

 

[cliff5550]

I must confess I've never been much of a pet person BUT you wrote so eloquently and heartfelt about Milo that one could not help but be moved. I am truly sorry you lost such a beloved friend and companion.

 

[MiloB]

Thank you all so very much for your kind and compassionate words. I don't know any of you. And that's amazing to me. Because I really did need to hear from some of you today. That's why I posted because I just wanted to share my grief a bit and gain some perspective. I also wanted you guys to see my little one. To share him a bit, maybe his picture might have brightened someone's day.

I know this is a process and that there is no easy way but to walk through it in time. Thanks again so much for being there and taking the time to write.

Milo

 

[AppleJack]

So sorry to hear of your loss. Most of us here are pet lovers and really do feel your pain. I love the thought of "Rainbow Bridge". Imagining my dogs romping and playing in the meadow while waiting for me to come for them, gives me comfort. I hope it will do the same for you.

 

[bestthingever]

I've lost a loved pet within the last week as well, so I know what you are feeling. It leaves a painful void in your heart. Blessings to you, and hoping each day will get a tiny bit easier for you.

 

[bearscreek]

I can't put into words how sorry I am. I've been right there and totally understand how you feel. It does get easier, but I won't kid you, it won't necessarily be tomorrow or next week. Just hang in there. Things really will get better.

Same to you, bestthingever. Best wishes.

 

[KPKicker]

I am just seeing this today. Otherwise, I would've responded much sooner.

I know the devastation you are feeling. My wife and I have lost many of our furkids recently. One of them was our oldest pug. He died because our second youngest dog attacked and killed him. So we ended up losing her too.

Our second youngest pug (now our only pug) Bambi, looks just like Milo. She is getting up there in years too. She will be 11 in September. Bambi is my loyal companion. She is almost always at my side. She has a bed right next to my computers where I spend most of my time. Our other dog, Dakota is just a baby. He is 17 months. He's the "brat". He is constantly getting into trouble, always wants to play and has boundless amounts of energy. But he's also extremely intelligent and very easy to train.

Yet with all this going on, I still miss our other dogs and cats terribly. But slowly but surely, it's getting less painful. So, yes, it will get easier. Yes, you can allow yourself to heal. There is no shame or guilt in moving on with your life. Even thinking about getting another dog when you are ready. Milo's goal in life was to make you happy. There is no reason to believe that goal changed when he moved on. You can be very proud of the life you gave him. Pugs don't live almost 15 years unless their human gave them lots of love and care.

My heartbreaks for you. I pray that you will find peace and comfort soon. But it is a slow process. Just know that, like humans, dogs have eternal souls. Milo is looking down on you with love and pride.

And the next time you feel something brush up against your leg or you think you hear a happy little "yip" but look to see that nothing is there...don't be so sure.

 

[justsomeguy]

I can't add much that hasn't already been said - but just consider this another post sending along condolences on your loss. The thing we all have to remember in these situations is that our grief is only as great as our love was... and we were lucky to have it in the first place. And I'm sure you'd agree (as someone else already mentioned) you wouldn't trade your time with Milo for anything. We all know the price we're going to pay at some point when we bring pets into our lives... but they make it worth all the sadness in the world.

Your wonderful words about Milo made me give my pups here an extra hug just now.
I can't imagine losing either one, though I know someday I will. All we can do in the time between is try to give them the best lives possible.

And when their time is up... there are millions more out there just hoping that they'll be next.

I'm not suggesting that you try to replace Milo... no animal lover would ever suggest that as we know it's impossible. But when you're ready (or even a little before you think you're ready) don't forget that there are millions of dogs out there with a lot of love to give... just waiting for someone to love them back.

Hang in there, and be happy in the fact that you gave Milo a better life than most any other dog out there. I'm sure he'd want you to be happy.

 

[reverendg]

Deepest condolonces Milob, I've raised several four legged friends and it hurts every time. My last was our molly, the best chocolate lab ever. We lost her to that bad dog food a few years back, and she was only 3 at the time.

We want another dog, but we have a 24 yr. old cat that only ever tolerated molly, now he's blind and we don't think it would be fair to introduce a dog into his frail world.

It get's easier, but you never forget the good times you had together.

God bless, rev. g.

 

[MiloB]

KP, Just Some Guy, Reverend and everyone else.... Thank you so much.

I went on a hike this morning in a canyon where I used to take Milo. It's actually where I met my wife. She noticed this little pug intent on following my feet up this trail. The friend's dogs she was walking also took an interest in Milo and it forced us to make the walk as a group. Since that day my party of two became three. Have so many of those life events to be grateful to Milo for. When I came back from my walk this morning and checked in on the ECF, it warmed my heart to see more of your postings. So sad to hear about your losses and especially to the recent ones who are right in the fresh part of their grief.

I hear you Reverend. We lost Milo's little brother (a 3 year old pug, Enzo) to an allergic reaction to his bordetella shots about 4 years ago. We traveled a few years and once stable again felt getting another little one wouldn't be fair to Milo. So now the house is empty.

KP, can't imagine the pain you must have felt in losing your pug to a sibling, and then having to give up that sibling. My heart goes out to you.

Can't express my gratitude to everyone posting. It's a break in the dark cloud I'm in and like the fact that Milo is in some way touching a few more people before I keep this to me.

Best to you all and have a lovely weekend.

MiloB

 

[Chrissie]

Another big hug for you (((((MiloB)))))) xxxxx

Justsomeguy is right in everything they says, especially ;-

we all have to remember in these situations is that our grief is only as great as our love was... and we were lucky to have it in the first place. And I'm sure you'd agree (as someone else already mentioned) you wouldn't trade your time with Milo for anything. We all know the price we're going to pay at some point when we bring pets into our lives... but they make it worth all the sadness in the world.

A hug for (((((Justsomeguy)))) as well as I'm sure those words will help so many others (including myself) who know the pain of losing our furry friends xxxxx

 

[nojoyet]

So sorry MiloB to hear of the loss of your furry baby and the pain you are now feeling. Like you, I've felt that pain, I understand, it does ease. In your own time the happy memories will overcome the pain. Happy memories that you will have forever. I send comforting thoughts to you and to your wife.

 

[pianoguy]

Very sorry for your loss - it is heartbreaking when a pet's time comes.

 

[MiloB]

Trying to hold onto a new perspective... the gratitude of the relationship instead of the silence in the house from the lack of "pitter patter of little feet".

Hard but necessary. Thanks again for your warm words of support. Actually was in a position today where I could console someone who is putting down their 18 year old dog today. Seemed like I was the only one he could talk to. Helped me a bit to get out of my head to share with him some of the support I've received.

He said it's the Universe's / God's one major design flaw. That pets have shorter lives compared to us. That unconditional love relationship.... Interesting way to look at it. Appreciate the time you have with them.

Enjoy your Memorial Day.

MiloB

 

[crazyhornet]

how upsetting for you, ive been reading the posts and its been brilliant to see all the good messages for you. its been 4 yrs since i lost "the bear" what a dog he was, just like yours was to you.
Just remember the good times and think of him running free to do whatever he wants to do.
I wish i could say it gets better with time but i still miss the old timer

 

[msroulette]

MiloB, I am so sorry for your loss. I cry even at the thought of losing my best friend. In one of your posts, you said you hoped others found the pic of your companion making them feel better. I have, many times, seen your avatar and thought "OMG, that pug is adorable" and a smile was there. I've always wanted a pug, and my dog looked so much like a pug at 4 weeks when I got him, that his name is Pugsly.


I hope the coming days will find your mourning more tolerable.