Yeah, I think there is no possible way that the slight bit of smell from some flavors is worse than the stench attached to a smoker's clothes, hair, breath and body. Since you're still smoking, it's not yet an either or, but pitch that idea to her and see what she thinks. For a transition period, she gets to smell your smoky self and slight bit of vapor, but soon it will just be the yummy vapor smells and no stinkies. Does she really want to keep kissing and sleeping with an ashtray, or would she rather get the occasional waft of chocolate, caramel or coffee? Also keep in mind that the slight aroma of
vaping doesn't stick around and linger, it's only smellable right there right then. All those things people try to do to smoke indoors that don't work will with
vaping. Vape in another room, at the kitchen hood, bathroom with fan, etc. The smell of smoking will overpower that stuff, but with vapor she won't catch even the slightest (yummy) wiff.
If that doesn't work, ban her from perfume (or patchouli oil if she's the hippie type), scented hair products, deodorant, flavored toothpaste, coffee, candy, baking, fresh fruit and pooping. All much stronger smells than vapor. She'll come around soon enough! All though some scents are just offensive to some people, she may end up asking you not to vape a flavor or two around her, and if you make it that far I would suggest you capitulate.
I think the chain
vaping thing is something to consider. My life is such that I can chain vape, not going more than 1.5 hours here and there without. Some people can't and will likely need higher nicotine. I was a longtime 20-30 filterless roll-yer-own smoker and had no trouble at 16mg with an occasional 24mg in the am or before a vape free period. Keep in mind though that you've tried 6mg, higher nicotine = stronger throat hit. At first I didn't like 24mg throat hit, it is stronger than a cigarette. It still makes me hiccup in the morning, but I found that I actually like it, the throat hit is not irritating in the way that smoking too much or too strong is, you feel it and it's gone.
Nicotine absorption is also something to keep in mind. Vaping doesn't kick in immediately like stinkies do. I got over my cravings by watching the clock. I didn't tell myself I wouldn't smoke, just that I would chain vape for 10 minutes first, then smoke. Most of the time I never looked back at the clock and the craving completely passed in that 10 minutes. -note, don't set a timer, it will go off and even if you had forgotten about your craving then you just reminded yourself of it.
Welcome to the club, find your flavor, find your strength, drink your water, don't pressure yourself, and enlist your wife's support on the indoors thing. I won't even say you can do this, because you will do this.
One more thing, your tastes and sense of smell will change over the next week or three. Don't be surprised if your favorite vapor flavor becomes your least. Hell, one of our members is blown away by the taste of water now!
