just curious, who has pre-orders where they don't charge until the item comes in? that is a wish list- but, by name, please let me know who doesn't charge a pre-order up front- I would like to do business with them......
Amazon for starters. Then probably every brick and mortar retail store in the country (ever heard of a rain cheque?). They don't charge until they have your item and in most cases, ready to ship it. I ordered $2000 worth of custom made furniture from a Michigan furniture store recently and paid $0 up front. Pre-ordered a pair of Reebok Cross-fit from Eastbay, got the shoes three weeks later a day after my CC was charged.
In many cases with on-line purchases items in pre-order are in "pending" on your credit card, then charged at time of shipping. I pre-ordered a Protank II from Panama Vapor, charged when it was shipped. Phiniac took my order, made my design and then sent me a bill while they were making my tank as another example. They didn't charge me when I told them I wanted a tank, they charged me when they had it designed and ready to stick in the oven.
I do understand charging for big ticket releases (XBox, Iphone, TV), and I don't know all the policies of every company in the U.S., but you make it sound like it's impossible. It isn't. Leaving a purchase in pending status at the very least, is polite and a good customer-based business decision. When the item arrives, post it.