My boyfriend the butthead

[NightNurse]

Last night, we were watching tv, and I pulled out my new PV to show it to him... "See, this is how it works", I say... to which he says, "I told you that you weren't going to smoke that thing in the house! No one's ever smoked in this house!" So I had to explain to him again how this wasn't "smoke", it is "vapor", and wouldn't stink up the house like an analog. Not only that, it's my house too...

No lovin' for him last night.

 

[voltaire]

If he, or someone else still smokes, have them exhale their smoke directly through a paper towel with lips pressed against it. Then do the same with your PV and compare the difference. If he's not too grossed out by the appearance alone, have him feel the sticky tar on the paper towel from the cig - that's what winds up in your lungs and on your clothes, carpet, walls, curtains, etc.

Then feel the clear damp spot left from the PV - it just feels like water, and if you leave it to dry, it will evaporate and disappear. 'Nuff said.

 

[NightNurse]

Good idea!

No, he quit analogs when I did - about a month ago. But... he quit cold-turkey and thinks that because he did it that way, everyone else should too. We never smoked in the house, but again - that is different.

He'll get over it. Or else.

 

[ctourtelot]

My ex fiance turned into a rabid anti-smoker after he quit cold turkey as well. Let me correct myself..when he quit smoking tobacco. He still smoked...you get the picture..

Anyhow...

He would always badger me about the smell even though his 2 buddies that moved in smoked constantly around the house.

 

[nycityjeff]

Good idea!

No, he quit analogs when I did - about a month ago. But... he quit cold-turkey and thinks that because he did it that way, everyone else should too. We never smoked in the house, but again - that is different.

He'll get over it. Or else.

AH yes...a control freak...They're "always right" you know....

 

[Leita]

AH yes...a control freak...They're "always right" you know....

Heh heh - I came here just to make sure someone said this.

I'd rather sit in a living room full of vapor than perfume. (Although I have dotted vanilla extract behind an ear on special occasions.)

And I love the smell of a good cigar. mmmMMmmmm

 

[THICKFOG]

Watching you vape could make him desire a cigarette,,Give him some time to get past this,,in the mean time, just go to another room and get you a couple hits to tide you over,,,by-the-way, my wife doesn't allow it either, or should I say doesn't want it in the house,, but as long as I'm not blatant about it, she doesn't give me too hard a time,, You know, they claim that the vapor dissipate immediately, but if you vape in a room with the sunlight beaming through a window, you can see it lingering in the air just like cigarette smoke does, so it is getting on everything...not sure why I mentioned this,,oh well

 

[NightNurse]

Watching you vape could make him desire a cigarette

Didn't even think of this... my bad. You're right, won't hurt to go in another room.. plus, I can vape all day when he's at work

 

[Lightgeoduck]

AH yes...a control freak...They're "always right" you know....

which one is the control freak? the one demanding not to do it... or the one demanding that it is ok to?

unfortunately until you both come to some sort of compromise... his wishes should be respected (you could always do it in the house when he isn't in the immediate area)

The thing is when it comes to a disagreement the one that could have their views invaded should have the final call.... yes your view to vape in the house is valid, but his supersedes yours because you do have other options with yours... but as for your boyfriend he would be forced into a situation against his views.


it goes with everything... for example if one likes to play their radio loud and another that is obligated to be in the same area likes it quiet... who's request should be granted? I think "cutting him off" is a vindictive way of imposing your views on to someone.

IMO give him time... maybe work out a designated area where it is ok to vape... until he becomes to understand it more.....or something else there are better ways for two partners to come at peace with a conflict.


This is of course my opinion and it isn't my situation to judge

I know as for me... I don't vape directly around my family and that's just out of respect to my wifes wishes... she doesn't understand it, but she still supports me... and I would like to believe its because I respect her views no matter how they differ from mine.

Oh and I am of one religious belief and she is of another (she's japanese )
and we still get along ... but that is another thread in another forum hehe




I am not a Duck

 

[maaron]

Just go to the bathroom and do it!

 

[leaford]

There you go again, LGD, being too reasonable and fair for the interwebs.

BTW, love the sigs...

 

[VapingRulz]

My husband is thrilled that I'm vaping in the house. He's also thrilled that I'm no longer smoking in the house.

As long as I'm working and paying my share of the household bills, I'll vape anywhere I please. Luckily for both of us, he doesn't care. If I had to choose between him and my VK, it could get dicey.

I never did get the whole "my husband won't LET me" thing. I thought that ended sometime in the 1960's...

 

[Pav]

No lovin' for him last night.

That's it. Just hold out till he caves.

 

[Defiantgroundhog]

My husband quit cold turkey as well. I think it's like the 15th time He does really well with it though. So much practice. He made it a year once but it always ends some night when he gets good and drunk and is around a bunch of smokers. Too easy to bum one I guess. I've never even tried to quit before but I've made it almost three weeks now. Both of us quitting at the same time has made it even easier for him. There's no cigs in the house... so really not an option.

He was giving me crap when I decided to do this. He said I'd look stupid and "they'll all laugh at you"...lol. Now he's glad I have it It's really been a good thing! Now if we're out and he's drinking he'll grab one of my PVs and vape. I asked him the other day if watching me vape made him crave a cig. He said it didn't because it really wasn't the same.

I don't think he expected me to be spending as much money as I do on it... but that's a whole other subject... lol

Sorry your boyfriend is having issues. I'm sure the way it'll work out is.. he'll get over it.. or he'll just have to get over it He might even start grabbing it after awhile... (the PV)

 

[Belletrist]

yeah, he's a convert waitin' to happen.

if i were you, i'd vape when he wasn't home and out of the room for a bit, and then when he realizes it really doesn't reek-up-the-house like smoking, he'll prob relax. if not, let the sex drought continue.

 

[NightNurse]

I'm not really going to cut him off... LOL... I was just kidding. Besides, then I'm just punishing myself, too... I respect his feelings, but then, it is my house too. I guess I just don't like anyone telling me what to do - I'm more receptive if someone asks nicely, and/or is willing to compromise.

 

[NightNurse]

yeah, he's a convert waitin' to happen.

I was thinking the same thing... I know he misses smoking, it's why he's been a little cranky lately... He can't keep replacing his cigs w/Tostitos..

 

[martha1014]

I was also wondering about the vapor disintegrating immediately. I have also seen the vapor in the sunlight or the lightbulb in the house. Doesn't everybody say it does not linger in the air.

 

[callofthevapor]

I was also wondering about the vapor disintegrating immediately. I have also seen the vapor in the sunlight or the lightbulb in the house. Doesn't everybody say it does not linger in the air.

It does linger longer then I originally thought. But as people have pointed out here there is no tars. When smoke dissipates it leaves a coating behind. Vapor doesn't

 

[cr12]

ex smokers are the worst,

my friend who i got on vaping had similar expierience with his wife, shes a non smoker, and when he got it she was like not in the house or the cars bc she didnt want to make it worse (the habit) i told her she was undermining the point of this thing. and lone and behold he vapes most of the day but still smokes the analogs.
sucks.

maybe one day she will come around.