My neighbor smokes, told him if he ever wants to try vaping, let me know. That's as far as I went.
Neighborly intervention
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I'll be curious how this plays out.
It's a nice idea but if I were the recipient, I don't think I'd be too happy about it. If, like you've said, you've let them know you vape and that vaping is a good alternative to smoking and they still haven't asked....then they obviously aren't interested. Giving them a vape kit, unsolicited, could seem pushy. I guess it depends on your relationship with them. Only you know that. My guess is... if you have to ask, then a little something inside you is hesitating; and probably for good reason. What do I know, though.
Good luck and let us know how it works out!
It's a nice idea but if I were the recipient, I don't think I'd be too happy about it. If, like you've said, you've let them know you vape and that vaping is a good alternative to smoking and they still haven't asked....then they obviously aren't interested. Giving them a vape kit, unsolicited, could seem pushy. I guess it depends on your relationship with them. Only you know that. My guess is... if you have to ask, then a little something inside you is hesitating; and probably for good reason. What do I know, though.
Good luck and let us know how it works out!
Thanks for the words. I'll set to thinking more then.
If I found a starter kit hanging from my mailbox EVEN AS A VAPER I would probably run screaming in the house (well, maybe not screaming) but I would be like, "Who is stalking me."
I'm just being blunt/honest here, but you know them best etc. I just don't understand if their friends, why the anonymity business? At least say they're from you so they don't freak out.
I have gut feelings quite frequently. I am also wrong oh, approximately 50% of the time, and while I don't totally IGNORE gut feelings, I also run them past my brain first. The fact that you are posting about it makes me wonder if you, too, are wondering about your gut's feelings. Because, you did ask for feedback.
My feedback is at least box em up and say they're from you (with a friendly note about how you had them, and don't need them) if you don't want the full on direct approach.
Is there a reason you feel the full on direct approach is somehow bad? When I've given away starter kits I have simply and directly stated, "I have this vape equipment I won/don't need/we've talked about vaping before would you be offended if I offered them to you, with the understanding that no, you may not try them now or even ever?"
It has been drama free 100% of the time. And you are correct that you can ONLY open your own mailbox, so they'd have to be "hanging" or in some other way affixed. Really, IMHO as ALWAYS, it's just as easy to like, talk to them directly.
Best of luck with what you decide and do report back.... I, for one am interested.
Anna
I'm just being blunt/honest here, but you know them best etc. I just don't understand if their friends, why the anonymity business? At least say they're from you so they don't freak out.
I have gut feelings quite frequently. I am also wrong oh, approximately 50% of the time, and while I don't totally IGNORE gut feelings, I also run them past my brain first. The fact that you are posting about it makes me wonder if you, too, are wondering about your gut's feelings. Because, you did ask for feedback.
My feedback is at least box em up and say they're from you (with a friendly note about how you had them, and don't need them) if you don't want the full on direct approach.
Is there a reason you feel the full on direct approach is somehow bad? When I've given away starter kits I have simply and directly stated, "I have this vape equipment I won/don't need/we've talked about vaping before would you be offended if I offered them to you, with the understanding that no, you may not try them now or even ever?"
It has been drama free 100% of the time. And you are correct that you can ONLY open your own mailbox, so they'd have to be "hanging" or in some other way affixed. Really, IMHO as ALWAYS, it's just as easy to like, talk to them directly.
Best of luck with what you decide and do report back.... I, for one am interested.
Anna
I look at this way, if someone hung a weight watchers brochure on my mail box... you know where I'm going. All you can do is let them know if they ever have any interest you'd be glad to help
I have helped a few people make the switch in the past, but I think that it's up to the smoker to make the first move. Vaping is pretty common place , they will have seen somebody else vaping or maybe even tried it out themselves already. If they are not interested, or are just trying it to be polite they will not make it through the transition phase anyway. Bottom line is people have to want to make the change for themselves.
All you can do is offer good advice, talk about the different options, if or when they do show some interest.
All you can do is offer good advice, talk about the different options, if or when they do show some interest.
As a cranky old man I can get pretty testy about people getting in my bidness. I can go from 0 to berserk when it comes to my smoking habit. Believe it or not I'm actually aware of all the reasons I should quit already. What if I left an AA brochure or the business card of a local psychiatrist in your mailbox. I think you are asking for trouble or even bad neighbor relations doing it your way. If they want to start vaping, they'll ask you about it or like most of the rest of us will go online.
edited to add: I realize your intentions are sincere and good hearted. But telling a smoker that they should quit could be pushing a hot button for a lot of people.
edited to add: I realize your intentions are sincere and good hearted. But telling a smoker that they should quit could be pushing a hot button for a lot of people.
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I support the idea to just mention it and show you're here to show the ropes if they need help for technical issues, nothing else. Make sure they understand you understand on your end you have no call to make in their decision about quitting or not.
And express it casually in a conversation. Don't be like a "preacher", it annoys a lot of people even if it's for their own good such as quitting the cig.
Good luck!
And express it casually in a conversation. Don't be like a "preacher", it annoys a lot of people even if it's for their own good such as quitting the cig.
Good luck!
I was once a Born Again Vaper, preaching from the roof tops - these days I try to live by example.
If smokers are interested to try another way of quitting the Ciggies - they will ask.... if they dont , well C'est la vie.
I know when I was ready for the last stand - I searched everywhere and found Vaping all by myself
If smokers are interested to try another way of quitting the Ciggies - they will ask.... if they dont , well C'est la vie.
I know when I was ready for the last stand - I searched everywhere and found Vaping all by myself
A friend of mine, a smoker, asked about vaping. He seemed sincere in his desire to switch.
I showed him my vapes, my juice, talked a bit about it, how I made the switch, some things he could try.
I offered a kit and juice, but I think he felt funny taking my stuff lol. Like he’d be obligated to take to it, and I don’t know... some people are funny about it when you give them stuff.
And I did explain that whether it worked or not for him, least he tried. And that someone had gotten me started, and it makes me feel great when I can help another person get started.
He said he’d let me know what he decided and we left it at that.
Others have taken me up on the offer and some have quit, some have not. But I’ve always let them ask me about it first.
I showed him my vapes, my juice, talked a bit about it, how I made the switch, some things he could try.
I offered a kit and juice, but I think he felt funny taking my stuff lol. Like he’d be obligated to take to it, and I don’t know... some people are funny about it when you give them stuff.
And I did explain that whether it worked or not for him, least he tried. And that someone had gotten me started, and it makes me feel great when I can help another person get started.
He said he’d let me know what he decided and we left it at that.
Others have taken me up on the offer and some have quit, some have not. But I’ve always let them ask me about it first.
I would have loved it if someone had put a GOOD starter kit on my mailbox. The advice that I got when I started out was money wasted. Big dollars for cheap devices that didn’t even last weeks. If I were starting someone on the quit smoking journey I would suggest Eleaf iStick Pico 21700. $29.99 on eightvape.com and the wattage grows as you do. I bought five of them and still use them. Very user friendly and comes with two coils and two tank sizes. I highly recommend.
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