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This dec marks two years since my dad took his life and it hurts so very bad every day.
It doesn't go away, it becomes part of you. Hugs
It doesn't go away, it becomes part of you. Hugs
When I start missing my dad I try to remember the good things. Once when I was about 6 he asked me to hold a spark plug wire on the lawn mower.....do not do this.......you will get a little shock!!!! 
I think he got all the kids and grand kids with that one 
I think he got all the kids and grand kids with that one 
My sister passed away 25 years ago and I keep her in my thoughts still. The loss never goes away, but the pain fades into an old scar.
We are all here...
odd isn't it.... how much it hurts and yet also feels so good to think of the ones we love that are gone...such treasured memories...
Fudgey, lol ! my grandpa had me check a transistor battery for him...by putting it to my tongue ! Yep....zap !
odd isn't it.... how much it hurts and yet also feels so good to think of the ones we love that are gone...such treasured memories...
Fudgey, lol ! my grandpa had me check a transistor battery for him...by putting it to my tongue ! Yep....zap !
Significant loss has profound, far-reaching impacts. When my dad died, I had no choice but to lean on those who I had previously shirked from - even my husband. I found that the walls I had held for so long crumbled by no choice of mine. I simply released myself into those who loved me, because I could not do anything else. I also learned that not everyone understands grieving, many people have a "move on" kind of attitude and I think THAT is the most painful thing someone can insinuate. Certainly, we can't let the loss take over our lives - but for me, IT DID. I developed an eating disorder, I became withdrawn, mistrustful, horribly depressed, and even still some of those things linger. And I've been in counseling from two weeks since that day. Not as frequent now, but it helped me to understand the most fundamental aspect of grieving - it is a PROCESS. there is no completion.
You're among friends, here, doll. Big hugs.
You must love her very much- I'm sorry for your loss.
Very true, though i hope the pain becomes less and the memories more as time continues to pass.
The memories and relationships are treasure. It would be such an empty life if there was no one that you cared about enough to miss when they're gone.
(even if the memories are practical jokes
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I meant to add, certainly we must not let it take over our lives, but pretending we are not in pain doesn't help either. It is absolutely OK to hurt, cry, be mad, need a break, and view the world in our new eyes - eyes that have been forever changed. The world does not look as it once did. and that is ok. stick to those who love you and build you up, and keep away from those who don't support you.
many people do not understand. they haven't been through a significant loss, or didn't grieve and stuffed feelings away. regardless, no one grieves the same way.
hugs. i'm here if you ever want to cry.
many people do not understand. they haven't been through a significant loss, or didn't grieve and stuffed feelings away. regardless, no one grieves the same way.
hugs. i'm here if you ever want to cry.
some of my pain lingers from these memories. my dad was an alcoholic. that's ultimately why he took his life. he was very sick, lost everything. he was a great dad, but my parents were divorced and as i got older, and his drinking got worse... the relationship was strained at best, although we DID have some absolutely fabulous times together, although fleeting.
these are reasons why I say not to let family or friends go because they are hurting you. protect your heart, but love when you can, because you never know when you can't show love anymore. I look up at the sky, and every day ask God to please let my dad know I always loved him.
sorry to hijack.. today was a particularly tough day for me. hugs to everyone, grieving or not
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(((hugs)))
absolutely love when you can.
(if knowing is possible then he knows).
absolutely love when you can.
(if knowing is possible then he knows).
this goes for everyone.
and you people deserve to hear it too. you are loved, even through a computer. been very kind and supportive. most vapers I have met are really caring in that way.
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