Oh the Horror! Another Explode Episode!

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Kprthevapr

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If you told her to F-off over your vape, she should have hit you square between the eyes when she tossed it.
Lol...had he told me that, he would have to have my foot surgically removed from his :censored:
He wouldn't have to worry about a broken mod, more like a broken nose and a bloody lip lol
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Should have got a temp control mod and a dripper can't hurt in trouble anyway------hahahahahah
Exactly, when they are not talking to you is an opportune time to be naughty ! Besides 30 yrs from now when she still brings this up (and she will), she will be less likely to remember exactly what it was that you did wrong!
 

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Lol...had he told me that, he would have to have my foot surgically removed from his :censored:
He wouldn't have to worry about a broken mod, more like a broken nose and a bloody lip lol

Had I said that to the gf I would have received "the stare" and known I'd be paying for it for a long time!
 

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    Lol...had he told me that, he would have to have my foot surgically removed from his :censored:
    He wouldn't have to worry about a broken mod, more like a broken nose and a bloody lip lol

    poor dude -- His blood is on your hands --- save his mod and give it to me though :w00t:
     

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    It w early morning and all was well.

    The wife was bathing the baby, and I was topping off the KFv4 prior to my morning vapefast.

    That's the first MAJOR mistake. It's a BABY. Your vaping can wait. The BABY comes first. ALWAYS. If you can't handle that then you never should have had one to begin with. The BABY comes first. ALWAYS AND FOREVER. No excuses.



    "F-off an give me a minutes" the ill advised reply.

    That is the second major mistake. That's an open declaration of war and should never be uttered unless you're prepared for the consequences of losing that war.


    Now picture this in your head for just a moment....

    You're sitting in divorce court and trying to explain to the judge why you wouldn't put down your vape gear to help your wife bathe your baby, a chore that would only take 5-10 minutes of your time at most, and told her to F-off when she asked for help.

    Think that judge would be sympathetic?
     

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    If you told her to F-off over your vape, she should have hit you square between the eyes when she tossed it.

    Violence is never the answer but ya that was foul considering the cod task..
    So are you messing around on her then?
    Apologize and get her some wine and french bread with pasta at nice restaurant.. Lil one a new binky..
     

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    That seems like a typical immature woman. I'm glad my fiance is nothing like that and supports me vaping.

    I'll bet money that she won't be nearly as supportive if you're refusing to help her with the baby because you find playing with your vape gear to be more important, and tell her to F-off.


    But what do I know? I've only been happily married for 20 years.


    Want to know the secret to a long and happy marriage?

    First, pick your priorities wisely. Baby comes first, ALWAYS. That's non-negotiable. After that you've got to decide on a case by case basis on which would be better for you. Once you're married and have a baby there is always going to be a conflict on priorities. Make sure you prioritize correctly. Know what is important, and what can wait.

    Second, always pick your battles wisely. There are times where you need to stand up for yourself. You need to have things your way. There are times where you should have your standards and demands met by her. There are other times where you need to suck it up and be the helpful husband that she wants. Do NOT fight over something unless you're absolutely certain that the fight is worth it. More often than not it's easier to spend 10 minutes giving her what she wants than it is to spend hours or days fighting and dealing with hurt feelings. My wife and I have had our share of fights, but we don't fight over trivial stuff.

    If I am at a point where I'm going to stand my ground then I know it's an issue worth fighting for. Playing with vape gear now vs waiting 10-15 minutes to play with it is NOT worth fighting for. It's trivial and insignificant, and tomorrow I'm not going to care if I filled my tank at 10:00 or 10:15, but I'm sure going to care if my wife is treating me like I'm a horses backside and like she hates me because I wouldn't wait 15 minutes to play with my vape gear. Pick your battles wisely.

    Take the OP. If he had put down his vape gear and helped with the baby bath until it was completed how much would that have inconvenienced him? 10 minutes of time? How much trouble did putting his vaping first cause him? Was the fight worth it?
     
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    Sorry to hear about what happened. On a lighter note; WELCOME to the goblin mini family ! Everything happens for a reason and you were just destined to be together with the mini. She will never bark out orders and loves to get filled and will never get pregnant so jam her with all the cotton you want and get yo vape on !


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    You might be better off paying alimony and child support.....
    Better yet you might be better off getting a lawyer and filing for 95% custody, even if you leave her... leaving a child in custody of someone as violent and hot tempered as that is not a good idea, then she can pay you. = )
     
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    I'll bet money that she won't be nearly as supportive if you're refusing to help her with the baby because you find playing with your vape gear to be more important, and tell her to F-off.


    But what do I know? I've only been happily married for 20 years.


    Want to know the secret to a long and happy marriage?

    First, pick your priorities wisely. Baby comes first, ALWAYS. That's non-negotiable. After that you've got to decide on a case by case basis on which would be better for you. Once you're married and have a baby there is always going to be a conflict on priorities. Make sure you prioritize correctly. Know what is important, and what can wait.

    Second, always pick your battles wisely. There are times where you need to stand up for yourself. You need to have things your way. There are times where you should have your standards and demands met by her. There are other times where you need to suck it up and be the helpful husband that she wants. Do NOT fight over something unless you're absolutely certain that the fight is worth it. More often than not it's easier to spend 10 minutes giving her what she wants than it is to spend hours or days fighting and dealing with hurt feelings. My wife and I have had our share of fights, but we don't fight over trivial stuff.

    If I am at a point where I'm going to stand my ground then I know it's an issue worth fighting for. Playing with vape gear now vs waiting 10-15 minutes to play with it is NOT worth fighting for. It's trivial and insignificant, and tomorrow I'm not going to care if I filled my tank at 10:00 or 10:15, but I'm sure going to care if my wife is treating me like I'm a horses backside and like she hates me because I wouldn't wait 15 minutes to play with my vape gear. Pick your battles wisely.

    Take the OP. If he had put down his vape gear and helped with the baby bath until it was completed how much would that have inconvenienced him? 10 minutes of time? How much trouble did putting his vaping first cause him? Was the fight worth it?

    She can wait 20 seconds for me to finish filling a tank and get everything closed so it doesn't spill and make a mess. My fiance wouldn't overreact by throwing it across the room. She wouldn't break 15 bottles of e-liquid and waste the money I spent on it because of a petty temper tantrum. There has to be a little self control which the OPs wife seems to lack. My parent will have been married for 30 years next month. They don't argue, they don't raise their voice, they don't throw things when something doesn't go their way like a child would do.

    So his wife could've waited 20 seconds that she spent leaving the baby alone (I'm assuming this part, I'd hope his wife wasn't dumb enough to throw all the stuff while holding the child) to go trash everything and waited in there for him to help. I agree with priorities, but showing aggression like OPs wife did is not the right way to go about it either. Your "pick your battles wisely" could be applied to her as well. I've known my fiance now for 10 years since I was 14. Not once have we had an argument like this.
     

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    Theres a BIG difference between being "bossy" or strong... Theres being a strong and confident person, not letting anyone step all over you, and being an aggressive overbearing bully.

    You want to instill leadership or logic, NOT fear.

    No one, man or woman should feel fear from someone that loves them.
     
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    That's the first MAJOR mistake. It's a BABY. Your vaping can wait. The BABY comes first. ALWAYS. If you can't handle that then you never should have had one to begin with. The BABY comes first. ALWAYS AND FOREVER. No excuses.





    That is the second major mistake. That's an open declaration of war and should never be uttered unless you're prepared for the consequences of losing that war.


    Now picture this in your head for just a moment....

    You're sitting in divorce court and trying to explain to the judge why you wouldn't put down your vape gear to help your wife bathe your baby, a chore that would only take 5-10 minutes of your time at most, and told her to F-off when she asked for help.

    Think that judge would be sympathetic?

    If that Judge had any sense, that Judge would take that child away, send them both to counseling and anger management. Again, if it had been the other way around most likely He would have been in jail.

    If a person is that upset with you and has to destroy an object instead of YOU, then people are asking for trouble. If someone is that full of anguish or rage leave them alone, get out. If you have an aggressive personality, take up boxing, or get a job in the demolition field. Something to get the energy out on and not a loved one.

    And yes, people forget or are stupid, take your pick... When a couple decide to bring a life into this world at least one of them has to be willing to put everything in their life on hold, give up thinking is about " me " baby is number one. If at least one of the couple cant give up their petty schnidt DONT have a baby.
     
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