Oh the Horror! Another Explode Episode!
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Thats funny, it happens to be more than I want to admit. These days I tend to avoid "me" I actually got drug to a dept store and startled myself when I saw my reflection in the mirror.
But seriously, Im my worst nightmare, critic, and I beat myself up emotionally all the time
Thats funny, it happens to be more than I want to admit. These days I tend to avoid "me" I actually got drug to a dept store and startled myself when I saw my reflection in the mirror.
But seriously, Im my worst nightmare, critic, and I beat myself up emotionally all the time
yeah so do I --- most of the time it is just dumb playing around -- other times I actually mean it about myself
Very good advice! Except I find I agree with whoever said that about it not taking two people to bathe a baby. My husband changed diapers, fed the boy, did whatever was necessary, or whatever I asked -- but I never needed another pair of hands to get my kid clean! Except maybe to point him at me and say "go see mommy!" while I hid the washcloth till he got there, then swooped in and mopped up his messy face/hands/whatever.
I'm also with whoever suggested that the mother may need some professional help; I suffered post-partum depression rather badly, and I understand that in severe cases, it can turn into psychosis, and I'd have to say that her demands and then reaction do seem extremely psychotic. Not sure I'd trust my child in the care of someone with such extreme mood swings.
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Yup.
Glad to know there are *real* parents out there, who agree w/me on this.
Your post is a testament to why you've been happily married for 20 years. You "get" it.
I wouldn't describe the actions as psychotic at all. There's no indications that she has hallucinations or delusions. Just anger at being told to F-off, which at worst I would say is a sign of young age.
While blowing up and throwing and breaking things does seem a bit extreme to someone of my age, I'm also aware that age has brought me wisdom and patience that I didn't have when I was much younger. If I were in my late teens to early 20s and someone told me to F-off when I was asking them for help, throwing a tank into the wall wouldn't have been out of the possible responses I would have had either. Especially if I was asking for help with my baby. When my daughter was a baby I was the primary caregiver. I not only changed and fed her on a regular basis, I was the one making trips to the pediatrician, getting up in the middle of the night to take care of her while my wife slept, missing work when my daughter was sick (And she had a REALLY rough stomach virus once where she was vomiting for 10 days straight, and couldn't even hold down a single teaspoon of liquid), etc... My wife was at a new job that required a lot of overtime and I took over the primary responsibility for caring for our daughter. My wife and I had been together for 7 years at that point, but I would have blown up at her if she had ever told me to F-off when I asked for help, no matter how trivial the help I needed was.
In many ways I can relate to the mother's side of the issue more than the fathers, despite being a male myself. Does it require two people to bathe a baby? No, it really doesn't. BUT... if she's already put in a full day of caring for the kid, plus possibly having her own job to deal with, plus the normal domestic issues that we all have, she should certainly be able to ask for a bit of help and have every expectation that he give it without complaint. It's just as much his baby as it is hers, and she's already doing most of the work. He can certainly give any care for that child that is asked of him, and he should without question or complaint.
And he needs to keep in mind that this is just the beginning and it gets harder as his child gets older. My daughter is coming up on her 14th birthday and it's not at all unusual for me to come home from work and only get 15-20 minutes to sit and rest before I spend the next 2-3 hours helping my daughter with her homework. I rarely get to do what I want until well after 8PM. But that's the responsibility I signed up for when I got married and had a child. She comes first, ALWAYS.
And I wouldn't have it any other way.
My advice to the OP would be to remember, there are no do-overs when it comes to parenting. Get it right the first time and the results will last a lifetime. Get it wrong and that too will last a lifetime.
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Your daughter is beautiful!I wouldn't describe the actions as psychotic at all. There's no indications that she has hallucinations or delusions. Just anger at being told to F-off, which at worst I would say is a sign of young age.
While blowing up and throwing and breaking things does seem a bit extreme to someone of my age, I'm also aware that age has brought me wisdom and patience that I didn't have when I was much younger. If I were in my late teens to early 20s and someone told me to F-off when I was asking them for help, throwing a tank into the wall wouldn't have been out of the possible responses I would have had either. Especially if I was asking for help with my baby. When my daughter was a baby I was the primary caregiver. I not only changed and fed her on a regular basis, I was the one making trips to the pediatrician, getting up in the middle of the night to take care of her while my wife slept, missing work when my daughter was sick (And she had a REALLY rough stomach virus once where she was vomiting for 10 days straight, and couldn't even hold down a single teaspoon of liquid), etc... My wife was at a new job that required a lot of overtime and I took over the primary responsibility for caring for our daughter. My wife and I had been together for 7 years at that point, but I would have blown up at her if she had ever told me to F-off when I asked for help, no matter how trivial the help I needed was.
In many ways I can relate to the mother's side of the issue more than the fathers, despite being a male myself. Does it require two people to bathe a baby? No, it really doesn't. BUT... if she's already put in a full day of caring for the kid, plus possibly having her own job to deal with, plus the normal domestic issues that we all have, she should certainly be able to ask for a bit of help and have every expectation that he give it without complaint. It's just as much his baby as it is hers, and she's already doing most of the work. He can certainly give any care for that child that is asked of him, and he should without question or complaint.
And he needs to keep in mind that this is just the beginning and it gets harder as his child gets older. My daughter is coming up on her 14th birthday and it's not at all unusual for me to come home from work and only get 15-20 minutes to sit and rest before I spend the next 2-3 hours helping my daughter with her homework. I rarely get to do what I want until well after 8PM. But that's the responsibility I signed up for when I got married and had a child. She comes first, ALWAYS.
And I wouldn't have it any other way.
My advice to the OP would be to remember, there are no do-overs when it comes to parenting. Get it right the first time and the results will last a lifetime. Get it wrong and that too will last a lifetime.
Enough about the relationship stuffs a flippin KfV4 was shattered ! I'm sure the op don't need 5 pages of condolences about his relationship, this mans tank and ejuice was destroyed !! A moment of silence for the deceased ......
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Her actions really could indicate psychosis....I wouldn't describe the actions as psychotic at all. There's no indications that she has hallucinations or delusions. Just anger at being told to F-off, which at worst I would say is a sign of young age.
While blowing up and throwing and breaking things does seem a bit extreme to someone of my age, I'm also aware that age has brought me wisdom and patience that I didn't have when I was much younger. If I were in my late teens to early 20s and someone told me to F-off when I was asking them for help, throwing a tank into the wall wouldn't have been out of the possible responses I would have had either. Especially if I was asking for help with my baby. When my daughter was a baby I was the primary caregiver. I not only changed and fed her on a regular basis, I was the one making trips to the pediatrician, getting up in the middle of the night to take care of her while my wife slept, missing work when my daughter was sick (And she had a REALLY rough stomach virus once where she was vomiting for 10 days straight, and couldn't even hold down a single teaspoon of liquid), etc... My wife was at a new job that required a lot of overtime and I took over the primary responsibility for caring for our daughter. My wife and I had been together for 7 years at that point, but I would have blown up at her if she had ever told me to F-off when I asked for help, no matter how trivial the help I needed was.
In many ways I can relate to the mother's side of the issue more than the fathers, despite being a male myself. Does it require two people to bathe a baby? No, it really doesn't. BUT... if she's already put in a full day of caring for the kid, plus possibly having her own job to deal with, plus the normal domestic issues that we all have, she should certainly be able to ask for a bit of help and have every expectation that he give it without complaint. It's just as much his baby as it is hers, and she's already doing most of the work. He can certainly give any care for that child that is asked of him, and he should without question or complaint.
And he needs to keep in mind that this is just the beginning and it gets harder as his child gets older. My daughter is coming up on her 14th birthday and it's not at all unusual for me to come home from work and only get 15-20 minutes to sit and rest before I spend the next 2-3 hours helping my daughter with her homework. I rarely get to do what I want until well after 8PM. But that's the responsibility I signed up for when I got married and had a child. She comes first, ALWAYS.
And I wouldn't have it any other way.
My advice to the OP would be to remember, there are no do-overs when it comes to parenting. Get it right the first time and the results will last a lifetime. Get it wrong and that too will last a lifetime.
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It's not just hallucinating, schizophrenia etc....
Oh, and she hadn't "put in a full day" caring for the child.....it was early morning
Neither party did the "right" thing in that situation, but her response is worrying. They have a child, it's time to start responding to adversity like an adult and set good examples, not respond with petulance and tantrums.
Her first action of throwing the mod......not appropriate, but can be explained by anger and frustration. The rest of the tantrum, to me, indicates a deeper drive to "hurt" him in some way. Perhaps she feels hurt by him, and perhaps those are rational feelings, we don't know since all we have to go on is this one encounter. What we do know is that encounter is a big indicator of an unhealthy relationship that needs work.
I do find it surprising how often women get away with emotional bullying. Without further information, this is how the wife looks in this situation.
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the dangly parts doyes I am a male but I don't think that automatically makes me like all males?
I heard of this thing called post partum depression.... some odd hormonal imbalance after birth that makes girls "weird"....
kewlll another 3 letter thing to watch out for PPD
kewlll another 3 letter thing to watch out for PPD
OP hasn't been back since yesterday morning. I do hope he's OK.
Maybe she read what he wrote and kicked him
off the computer or out of the house
lol
yeah or maybe they are having some fun making up with each other
Hey, after reading all this I have to say - we do not know much of anything about how they deal with each other and their child - when children are involved there are at least 3 different sides to a story. Hopefully this is a 1 off and they can work through it. I can look back on a few things I did that did not show a good side to me.
Also any of you perfect people - feel free to cast the first stone. 
PS I was a SINGLE Mom and yes the child came first.
Hopefully this is a 1 off and they can work through it. I can look back on a few things I did that did not show a good side to me. Also any of you perfect people - feel free to cast the first stone. PS I was a SINGLE Mom and yes the child came first.
are you sure... I took a biology class and they said elsewiseHey, after reading all this I have to say - we do not know much of anything about how they deal with each other and their child - when children are involved there are at least 3 different sides to a story.
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