Please help me!

[Lilly-Pad]

Hi Everybody,

I just signed up for this forum, and have been vaping for just over a week. I've been smoking (analogs) for over 35 years, and thought I was doing great on the e-cigs, but can't get over the GREAT smell of my husband's cigarettes. He does go in another room & close the door, open the window, etc., but I can smell it, it even wakes me up when I'm asleep. He thinks I'm a pain in the ... for complaining, I can't help smelling it and it's just about the only thing that makes me crave an analog cigarette. Maybe I don't have the right kind/type/strength of e-cig yet, but right now I need to know what to do to get over the smell of his cigarettes, where they won't drive me crazy. I went almost 5 whole days without an analog, but tonight I smoked 2 of them, about to light my third. I'm depressed that I did this. Trying not to kick myself in the ...., but I need some advice. I can't seem to find a thread that deals with others smoking in the household. That smell - which might be "stinky" to non-smokers, just makes me want to smoke a "real" cigarette so bad. I'll be glad for any advice, and thanks in advance.

 

[ctourtelot]

I really wish I had some advice for you. I was fortunate in that my bf and I started using ecigs together. My son was living with us for awhile and he was smoking, but outside only, and the smell about made me sick. It certainly didn't make me crave them.

I hope someone else on here has been in that situation and can help you out.

Welcome to the forum and congrats on switching. Don't beat yourself up if you have a cigarette now and then. The additional stress of feeling like a failure if you do will just cause you to crave it even more. It's the one's you don't smoke that matter.

Just stick with it and hopefully it'll pass.

 

[K-man]

You might need a higher nicotine level. I don't even like the taste or smell of analogs anymore. Try different flavours and nicotine strengths till you love vaping more than smoking. I wish I could be of more help but that's about all the advice I can offer right now. Good luck. Don't give up!

 

[dlsw]

Ohhh, that would be tough. The stale smell is gross, but freshly lit... Good luck, keep vaping, and keep checking in here for support. Make sure your nic. level is high enough.

 

[bushmasterar15]

Welcome to the ECF. Wish I could help but also new at this.

 

[Oban]

I too wish I had some solid advice concerning living with a smoker Lily-Pad, but unfortunately I don't.

This -

Don't beat yourself up if you have a cigarette now and then. The additional stress of feeling like a failure if you do will just cause you to crave it even more. It's the one's you don't smoke that matter.

Seems like a great way to approach your situation, my experience is that vapeing grows on you and the analog cravings disappear.

Good luck to you and Welcome to ECF.

 

[nanovapr]

Hi Lilly-pad, welcome to ECF. Yes, there is a lot here to read. I would suggest don't put yourself under too much pressure to NEVER SMOKE AGAIN NOW. There are many that do that when they start, some take a long time. Vaping is not a 'can't cross that line or you fail' situation. It's OK to smoke while you are learning the ropes.

I was the only smoker in my household, that would indeed make it harder to have a smoker there. I was an accidental quitter. I didn't smoke in my house, and the expense was getting me down. I wanted to vape to save some money, and be able to do it indoors. After a month, I realized I didn't want to smoke.

Stick with it, try different juices. I know it doesn't sound valid now, but after a while it won't smell good any more.

EDIT: wow, several others answered while I was typing this. I agree with Mrkay, start with a high nic level. Your husband may be deep down jealous for you being strong enough to try to kick a hard habit.

 

[Tokemiester]

While I didn't have an in house smoker when I started vaping (this must be difficult!) I still wanted a "real" smoke for at least a week. The craving faded thereafter.
You must have tried ecigs because you realize "real" smoke is harming your heath. Try to remember that.
I know, easier said than done.

 

[hairball]

Step up your nic level and ask hubby to kindly go outside. If he cares, he will. I know that sounds mean but I had to when I smoked because of my daughter's allergies. I love her and didn't want her in harms way. You might also check into Vapelicious | Whole Tobacco Alkaloid Liquid for Electronic Cigarettes for WTA...whole tobacco alkaloid juice. His apple juice is freaking awesome. I keep a big bottle for those highly stressful days. Too bad the stuff wasn't around when I quit smoking because I could have used it. You have to email your order in and he'll reply with his information to pay. He'll take a MO also. Just a thought.......

Once you steer clear of the smell for awhile and don't cave in anymore (don't beat yourself up because you did), the smell will be horrible to you. Hang in there and try to come to a resolution...like...please go outside...if you love me, you will...put him on a guilt trip.

 

[KaitLynnHt]

I hear you, I love the smell of other people smoking when I want a cig and can't have one. Luckily since I'm in a house full of non-smokers, I haven't come across your particular problem yet (though I'm sure I soon will). Don't give up, don't get depressed and don't kick yourself if you smoke an analog. As people have been telling me, it may happen, no big deal.

I'm not going to pretend I know what I'm talking about since I've only been vaping for maybe 24 hours now ... >.> ... but maybe when you smell your hubby's cig smoke, grab your PV and start vaping away. Make sure you have a freshly filled cart/carto with your favorite flavor, a full charge on your batt and whatever else you need to get the best vape possible and convince your brain that what you have in your hand is much better than that analog your hubby has, no matter how good it smells.

 

[spicyed]

I love the smell as well, and when I first switched it bothered me being around it. I just vaped through any cravings and tried to be strong being around smokers. After 3 months I had a cigarette and the taste and smoke production were seriously lacking. I'd say it gets better, did for me anyway!

 

[mekks]

I know how you feel I've asked my hubby to go outside, and can tell every time he tried to sneak one in the house and it woke me out of a dead sleep to. Its like I have a built in radar for the smell now, and the residual smell can be quite unpleasant and overwhelming. I would never have guessed that as a smoker, and it kinda surprised me. He probably doesn't realize it cause he is still in the realm of if i sneak one no one will be the wiser, and when I smoked I know I use to think like that as well.

I just tell my hubby that I don't want to blame him if i fail, which for him translates to if i don't help make it easier i'm never going hear the end of this..lol. Worth a shot it might work for you

 

[Iusedtoanalog]

Its not the fact that you smoked one,two or three.... Its that fact that you still came back to your PV, You came here to seek advice, you are willing to consider upping your nicotine or maybe even changing your device.... those things you should congratulate yourself for. Don't be worried by the fact you are having cravings. I began vaping while EVERYONE at work smoked. I remember the rough days when everyone was puffing away. I kept going, you can too. There is no absolute way to be sure you won't have cravings, but theres no good that can come of you being distraught by them either. There are those times now when I ask myself "How did you not realize just how aweful that was when you where doing it?" I guess its just easier to recognize from Out Here , a place I hope one day you find..... Good Luck. Happy Vaping.

 

[36tinybells]

Welcome, Lily-pad. I am sorry you are having a rough start, but the advice everyone has given is sound. I smoked for 30 plus years too. When I started vaping I didn't even think it would work(I was just desperate). I had two little 510 kits and it wasn't enough. But I had just gone through losing a love to cancer, so I was willing to keep on trying. I bought an ego kit, bigger batteries and lower resistance cartomizers changed everything for me! I had the heat I needed and using a 24mg juice that actually tasted good was the answer. I didn't even want to smoke. The last time I smoked was the day I got the ego in the mail. I have mostly moved on since then to mods, but the ego is a great back up in my arsenal! Also, after 2 months smoke free, I hated the smell of cigarettes. That smell is just dirty to me now (though I love a tobacco vape!).
Just keep on, smoke what you need to until you find a combo that works for you. Do NOT give up. We all have a different sweet spot with vaping, you will find yours if you keep trying and then you will be switched forever!

 

[mekks]

I'm not so sure in this situation up'ing the nic is the best unless you started on a low nic. I started on a 24 and downed it to a 18, but if I was confined in my house unable to get away from the smell of a fresh ciggie burning i'm not so sure I would have made it this long.

Even if he complains now, it will become less as he realizes this isn't a fad for you.

 

[sha49]

My hubby still smokes and it was really hard at first but got so I just went cold turkey into the ecig only route and thought well at least I can now sit on my couch (I have kids so he has to go to garage or outside) and he can't!! It'll get better! You will get to the point, or at least I did, where the other just STINK!

 

[Unkempt]

Hi Lily-pad and welcome. Im still pretty fresh but i currently live with two analog smokers, my first week I still smoked analogs, not often just when needed but once my 24mg juice came in it really changed for me, i think i might of smoked 2 or 4 more cigarettes till i got the feeling for when to pick up the PV b4 the craving got too strong. From what i have read when you Vape nicotine it takes longer for your body to fully absorb the nicotine vs smoking a analog (some1 please correct me if im wrong lol im still learning!) So anyways after a week i really saw my triggers and was training myself to preemptively vape b4 they came. Plus i had to learn the two analog smokers habits a little better so the second hand smell wouldn't trigger me as bad such as, ide vape right up to dinner so ide be full of nicotine once dinner was done and they were smoking, or maybe they would smoke right b4 the shower they took at say 9pm so ide vape at 8:30... Anyways thats how i dealt with smokers in the house. Now that its been 20 full days of not picking up a single analog i dont even really notice them smoking anymore nor do i feel the need to smoke one with them anymore. Hope this helps you!


Edit: also i started with a NJOY within a week of it i ordered a E-Power and a week after that i now have a lavatube, ide like to think the Mods helped alot too lol

 

[CrystalClaire]

Maybe you should try some heavy duty air fresheners or incense so you don't smell it as much. It might help.

 

[NeoLythic]

I've been vaping for about two months now and I still get the craving when I smell someone spark up.

I'll echo the suggestion to up the nic level in your favorite juice and use that when the craving hits.

I think asking your hubby to step outside to light up isn't unreasonable. But I wouldn't make a big stinkbof it if he forgets now and then (pun intended.)

And again, I'll repeat what others have said about not beating yourself up if you fall back once in a while. This habit is a bear to break even without another smoker in the household.

Hang in there! You can beat this! This forum is an awesome place for support so feel free to cry out for help as needed. Lord knows I have.

 

[waynebrady]

Whatever the flavor, whatever the smell, whatever the taste of your husbands cigaratte, there is already a better smelling and tasting version of that in ejuice form. If it's menthol, go get some menthol ejuice from a good vendor. If it's tobacoo, go get some tobacco flavored ejuice.

As a married couple, I imagine that you guys had your routines. Don't break your routines. Keep the same smoking routines you had before but replace the cigarette with the deliciously more flavorful smelling/tasting vape. This, so that you wont feel like you're missing out on anything special. You're not missing out, you're upgrading and you're still in the action through the entire upgrading process.

Keep moving forward, I say. So what if you smoked a few cigarettes? As long as you keep moving forward, cigarettes will immediately become more and more disgusting and unappealing to you. Imagine walking through your house and hating the smell of cigarettes? Imagine that warm and inviting scent of vaped tobacco flavor in the air massaging your lungs.

Picture yourself as a cigarette smoker. Visualize a bubble (like a soap bubble) with a little video of you smoking in it playing over and over again. See that bubble as a real big bubble floating in the air towards the left in front of you. The video is big right now. But now imagine another bubble playing a little video of you vaping and of all the positive things that come with vaping. This bubble is small right now and to the right of you.

Now imagine, for a moment, that cigarette bubble turning a dark dark color and shrinking and sinking towards the floor. At the same time, watch yourself and your expressions of enjoyment in the vaping bubble to the right. See that bubble getting larger and larger.

Watch as the cigarette bubble shrinks and shrinks until it finally pops. Now what's left is the vaping bubble and it's huge. It's you vaping and enjoying all the delicious benefits.

I think quitting works kind of like that. It's a process that you go through. Don't get down on yourself during the process. Just enjoy the ride to vape-land. Yes you might have smoked a cigarette, but no you are not a smoker anymore. You are in a process and are doing a great job.

As far as your husband goes, don't worry about him smoking. It wont effect you. One thing I noticed when I started vaping is how bad I feel for everyone who still smokes. So many people either don't know about vaping or carry a lot of misinformation about vaping that keeps them from joining the delicious clouds of awesome on this side of the fence. Their side of the fence is so life threatening and can really destroy a person. I know when I used to smoke I used to think about how I was killing myself a little more with every cigarette. I'm sure a lot of smokers share that feeling and try to suppress it as best they can, and especially to others (smokers with an ego). I try to keep a sympathetic and understanding mindset for them, but the last thing I'd want to do is join them in their death march.

Rest assured, you're going the right direction!

Enjoy your little taste of heaven. Vape in places where you couldn't smoke! Vape while you're huddling with your smoker buddies who have to smoke in their little designated areas! Observe how much more awesome your clouds of glory are than theirs. Observe the moral that you're able to keep high while they shrink a little with each puff of a cigarette. Vape around them where they can not smoke! Smell the dirty and tarnished scent of old cigarette on their clothes and recognize the upgraded perfume of vaping. Compare, contrast, notice the differences.

Gradually, your senses will come back and stinky things will smell stinky once more, and good things will smell even better. And as that happens you'll notice the differences even more. Tastes will return, etc etc.