Secret Smoker ---> Secret Vaper

[The Yeti]

I have a confession to make....

My wife quit smoking about 2 years ago, and believed that I did as well...I did not, and have been a "Secret Smoker" for the last 2 years. I have kept this dirty little secret from her as best I can, but am sure that she suspected me still smoking.

About a month ago, I tried my first e-cig. About a week ago, I had my last analog and am fairly certain it will be my LAST EVER. However, I am now a "Secret Vaper". How would I explain to my wife that I am now vaping, having "quit" smoking more than 2 years ago?

Anyone else in this situation? What was your solution?? I know the obvious...just tell the truth. I just haven't got the balls to do that quite yet.

 

[beckah54]

Yeti,

Unless your wife is unable to smell, I'm fairly sure she knew you were smoking. After you quit smoking, the smell of other smokers is very pronounced.

I would advice just telling her the truth and owning up to it. Secrets are not good in a marriage.

JMHO

 

[silkyblue]

I would advice just telling her the truth and owning up to it. Secrets are not good in a marriage.

JMHO

Besides, who's to say she's not secretly smoking and your soul baring will turn her on to something good.

 

[AnnaCoop]

I totally agree beckah54. I was in the same situation your wife was in. 5 years ago when I got pregnant, my husband and I decided to quit smoking. I quit, and he pretended to quit. I smelled it on him all the time. Even though he told me he wasn't smoking, and that it was the people around him, I knew he hadn't quit. I mean, it doesn't take a genius to figure out that when you're breath reeks of smoke...it probably means you're smoking. She already knows OP. Come clean and tell her that you just couldn't quit, but now you really have quit, with help from you're ecig. Just tell her the truth.

 

[xaiver56]

Yeti, I know exactly where you are at. I quit smoking about a year and half ago for six months and I thought I was thru with it. My wife is a nurse so she was of course very pleased. But then I started a new job and stress got to me and I started smoking at work. And I could keep that hidden for a while. I would go the whole weekend without a cigarette and I was fine. But then it got worse. I was sneaking cigarettes on the weekend too. The situation that made me realize it had gone too far was that I was leading a double life, wife and I would be hanging out but I was thinking about smoking and when I could sneak away on an "errand." I felt like I was cheating on my wife with Parliment Light 100's. 8-o
So I just came clean and she was of course upset but understood that addiction is tough. She became my biggest cheerleader to quit smoking analogues. I started taking Zyban and while searching for quitting smoking online I came across e-cigs. She said she thought it was worth a shot and to her it sounded way better than smoking analogues and that was all she wrote. Got my e-cig and quit smoking, was really simple for me. However now she is convinced I have "enough" (whatever that means) e-cig supplies.

 

[krowten]

I can sympathize. It's hard to quit and even harder for two people to successfully quit at the same time. Also very hard to hide the fact that you smoke from a non-smoker. All I can say is that I think it's better to admit you weren't successful in quitting, than to say you've quit when the cig odor says you haven't. Could make your spouse wonder what else you're not being truthful about.

 

[Khaos]

Marriage consists of Four things: Honesty, trust, friendship, and love.
Tell her the truth because you love her, she'll be mad, but at least she'll be revealed that you came clean, and that you've changed to vaping.
Good luck.

 

[Luv2CUSmile]

Yeti,
Do tell her because more than anything, you will need support...
She may be upset at first, (or as silkyblue said, she may need this too)- At least she will be there for you AND not start questioning where $100 a month is going... (your e-cig supplies and liquid)
BTW, how have you been hiding that?
My stuff is taking up a large portion of area! Can't imagine that being easy to hide... and the smells- does she think you've picked up a lot of candy?