Snails - Response on Threads

[tiburonfirst]

Ideally, if someone does something for the sake of doing the right thing, then doesn't it stand regardless of the responses (or lack thereof) from others?

ideally? yes ..................

 

[tiburonfirst]

i'm sorry, frannie (((hugs))) i wanted your thread to be special .....................

 

[Dusty_D]

Ideally yes.. but you tend to take note of these things when there's issues outstanding that need resolution. I play nice, you play nice. You don't play nice, I don't need to play nice either.

You draw a line, and then don't cross it. Moderators on here are spiteful and in the wrong when we bring something up, yet we are supposed to let the snide comments etc just go?! What the hell kind of fair game is that?!

Being nice is a two way street and if you choose not to be nice, then with all due respect don't moan and groan when reality comes and bites you in the backside.

 

[SilverBear]

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[CES]

There is a huge amount of hurt and anger on all sides of the equation. I don't know how to resolve that.

For myself, I know that if i react from the place of hurt and anger, it goes less well than than if i don't react. I know that when i play who-did-what-to-who my feelings escalate, rather than resolve. I know that when trust is broken it takes a long time to rebuild. And I know that healing takes time, and can't occur during an escalation.

These are my answers. They may not be the same as those of others, and i may not be perfectly consistent at using what i know. But these are things i try to stay with and get back to.

ETA: and sometimes that is harder than other times.

 

[Mac]

I am learning how not to spaz out and flame people when they piss me off. It's an uphill battle but I think I am getting better at it!

By the way I'm getting married on saturday. Does that get me some fireworks or what?

 

[JerryRM]

Hi Mac and congratulations.

 

[Dusty_D]

Sigh! When is this madness going to end? Every time we have a flare up we lose another veteran.

I am going to bow out of any further celebrations/parties for the foreseeable future. My intent was not to have this blow up with this disastrous result, but I know it will be interpreted as such.

I am at a loss about how to resolve this situation and bring things back to an even keel.

 

[CES]

I am learning how not to spaz out and flame people when they piss me off. It's an uphill battle but I think I am getting better at it!

By the way I'm getting married on saturday. Does that get me some fireworks or what?

Oh YES!!!!!!

 

[CES]

it gets you a wedding cake too

 

[CES]

Good morning Jerry.


Dusty, I don't have too many answers for others. I only know what works better for me.

 

[JerryRM]

Sigh! When is this madness going to end? Every time we have a flare up we lose another veteran.

I am going to bow out of any further celebrations/parties for the foreseeable future. My intent was not to have this blow up with this disastrous result, but I know it will be interpreted as such.

I am at a loss about how to resolve this situation and bring things back to an even keel.

It's not your fault, Dusty. Some people just don't know when to be quiet.

 

[JerryRM]

Good morning, Chris.

 

[JerryRM]

Fireworks for Mac and his bride to be !!!!!

 

[tiburonfirst]

There is a huge amount of hurt and anger on all sides of the equation. I don't know how to resolve that.

For myself, I know that if i react from the place of hurt and anger, it goes less well than than if i don't react. I know that when i play who-did-what-to-who my feelings escalate, rather than resolve. I know that when trust is broken it takes a long time to rebuild. And I know that healing takes time, and can't occur during an escalation.

These are my answers. They may not be the same as those of others, and i may not be perfectly consistent at using what i know. But these are things i try to stay with and get back to.

ETA: and sometimes that is harder than other times.

omg! ces!!!!! this definitely needs to be ''whom''

 

[tiburonfirst]

Sigh! When is this madness going to end? Every time we have a flare up we lose another veteran.

I am going to bow out of any further celebrations/parties for the foreseeable future. My intent was not to have this blow up with this disastrous result, but I know it will be interpreted as such.

I am at a loss about how to resolve this situation and bring things back to an even keel.

you had the chance this morning ............

 

[tiburonfirst]

I am learning how not to spaz out and flame people when they piss me off. It's an uphill battle but I think I am getting better at it!

By the way I'm getting married on saturday. Does that get me some fireworks or what?

woohoo, mac!

another prospect taken out of the field ........................ sigh

 

[CES]

Sorry Tibs, grammer is not one of those things that works well for me.

Time for me to go back to work.

 

[tiburonfirst]

It's not your fault, Dusty. Some people just don't know when to be quiet.

so true ......................


morning, jerry

 

[tiburonfirst]

Sorry Tibs, grammer is not one of those things that works well for me.

Time for me to go back to work.

you're forgiven!