What kind of gear are you using? That can make a difference in the throat hit, too. Personally, I like strong flavor, but not strong throat hit. One thing that may work for you, if you haven't tried it already, is a bottom coil clearo, like a Kanger T3, Evod, or Protank. I think the slightly cooler hit from the bottom feeder makes a "softer" hit.
edit: Oops, I must have missed the part where you said what gear you were using...