you guys are awesome! I forgot to check back here for the solution because I was ranting and raving and my husband who doesn't smoke and doesn't vape knew it was just best to help me open it. Long story short though, I do have a rare bone disease in my wrist (kienbocks disease) yeah look that up if you bored! anyway my wrists are really weak I am 44 not 84 btw but I have a hard time asking for help... to cut a long story short the best tip you guys gave above where, not to make it so tight in the first place, and second tip that worked the best was use latex, or gloves to help with grip! Thanks guys!! I still hate that they are so hard to worth with lol but I love everything else about them.