Talking to significant others about vaping

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Gavel

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So, I started vaping on Monday and I am loving it. The only problem is that my girl isn't to keen on it. I had talked about quitting when semester was over for about 2 months before school got out. Well, last day of finals, I smoked my last (or what I believed to be my last) cig, and threw the remaining 1/2 pack out the window of my truck. Fast forward 6 weeks, some things happen and in my ...... off state, I pick up a pack of cigs. And then I couldn't stop again. I have been smoking all summer w/o her knowing (she has been in Germany since the end of June for school). She knows that I had planned on smoking while I drink, and when I mentioned in passing to her my ecig when we were skyping, she was completely against it, saying that I said I was gonna quit and I might as well just smoke a regular cig.

Anyone have any advice/experience dealing with someone like this? I would think she would like it more bc I wouldn't have all of the chemical from a normal cig, plus since she didn't grow up around cigs like I did, she is EXTREMELY sensitive to them. Like if I smoke 1 cig when she is standing by me she gets a head ache kind of sensitive.
 

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My wife has never smoked. She's never experimented with other things either. She puts down alcohol after half a glass. She never has trouble pushing away a plate of food once she's had enough.

Opposites attract.

When I presented her with my first crappy mall eCig she shrugged and said "Why don't you just not do it any more?"

Some people don't understand the nature of addiction. Try to explain it to your girl friend how you get anxious about going somewhere that smoking isn't allowed. How you unconsciously always make sure you won't run out. Or if you do run out it was an accident and you feel compelled to immediately go buy a pack.

Then, tell her all you've learned here about the differences between smoking and vaping. Invite her here to do her own research.

My wife accepts my vaping, even if she doesn't understand why I have to do it. Though, I do hide my mods! :oops:
 

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Yeah, echoing Solemn its important to have a face to face with her and talk about the differences and allow her to do some research on her own if she wishes to.

My wife wanted me to quit smoking so bad (I did too, I hate smelling like cigarettes and constantly out of breath), and this was my best option. I get the ritual and habitual use but without the stink, health hazards and cost.

Once she saw my new devices (asking for permission is harder than forgiveness ;) ), and showed her what it is, she fully supports it and my quest to be healthy.

She even has let loose the purse strings a bit and lets me splurge a little on my vaping, she wants me to stay on it and away from smoking for good.
 

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My wife is a non smoker. Talked to me about quitting but never pushed it. When I spoke to her about vaping she was very supportive and to this day is always asking if I need to buy this or that. New product comes out and she wants me to buy it. The reason she is so supportive is because she is well aware of the health related issues- chronic respiratory disease, Lung Cancer, etc. It might be a good idea to get an Xray of your lungs and show her the damage.

You could also show her this:

Harmful Chemicals In Cigarettes Chemical Description
Benzene
(petrol additive)

A colourless cyclic hydrocarbon obtained from coal and petroleum, used as a solvent in fuel and in chemical manufacture - and contained in cigarette smoke.
A It known carcinogen associated with leukaemia.

Formaldehyde
(embalming fluid)


A colourless liquid, highly poisonous, used to preserve dead bodies - also found in cigarette smoke.
Known to cause cancer, respiratory, skin and gastrointestinal problems.

Ammonia
(toilet cleaner)


Used as a flavouring, frees nicotine from tobacco turning it into a gas
Often found in dry cleaning fluids.

Acetone
(nail polish remover)


Fragrant volatile liquid ketone, used as a solvent, for example, nail polish remover
Found in cigarette smoke.

Tar

Particulate matter drawn into lungs when you inhale on a lighted cigarette. Once inhaled, smoke condenses and about 70 per cent of the tar in the smoke is deposited in the smoker's lungs.

Nicotine
(insecticide/addictive drug)


One of the most addictive substances known to man, a powerful and fast-acting medical and non-medical poison.
This is the chemical which causes addiction.

Carbon Monoxide (CO)
(car exhaust fumes)


An odourless, tasteless and poisonous gas, rapidly fatal in large amounts
The same gas that comes out of car exhausts
The main gas in cigarette smoke, formed when the cigarette is lit

Others
Arsenic (rat poison)
Hydrogen Cyanide (gas chamber poison)


Here's a more comprehensive list:
Cigarette Ingredients - Chemicals in Cigarettes

Best of Luck to You....realize that first and foremost you are doing this for yourself and all others that will be positively impacted by this life change come second.

So, I started vaping on Monday and I am loving it. The only problem is that my girl isn't to keen on it. I had talked about quitting when semester was over for about 2 months before school got out. Well, last day of finals, I smoked my last (or what I believed to be my last) cig, and threw the remaining 1/2 pack out the window of my truck. Fast forward 6 weeks, some things happen and in my ...... off state, I pick up a pack of cigs. And then I couldn't stop again. I have been smoking all summer w/o her knowing (she has been in Germany since the end of June for school). She knows that I had planned on smoking while I drink, and when I mentioned in passing to her my ecig when we were skyping, she was completely against it, saying that I said I was gonna quit and I might as well just smoke a regular cig.

Anyone have any advice/experience dealing with someone like this? I would think she would like it more bc I wouldn't have all of the chemical from a normal cig, plus since she didn't grow up around cigs like I did, she is EXTREMELY sensitive to them. Like if I smoke 1 cig when she is standing by me she gets a head ache kind of sensitive.
 

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My wife is the same way. I grew up around cigarettes all my life, she didn't.

However when I quit smoking and bought an e-cig she breathed a sigh of relief. She did her own research and it took a little convincing, but I vape around her regularly now and it isn't much of a problem.

She still doesn't quite understand why I still vape, she doesn't quite understand addiction at all actually. This is where I'm struggling. To me vaping was a way to quit smoking, in her eyes I should eventually quit vaping too---but I enjoy it to much. It's hard for her to understand why I ever enjoyed smoking, and now hard for her to understand why I enjoy vaping.
 

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I actually told this gal I've been on-and-off dating for over 5 years about it. She came back with "Don't ever complain about me getting more Hello Kitty memorabilia!" I told her there's a difference between vaping and paying 200 bucks for a limited-edition Hello Kitty backpack on eBay. Right at that moment, I was thinking about The Darwin and Zenesis I will eventually buy...and they're both north of 200USD. I suppose I should just let her buy more stuff
 
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