Bonnie: I can't go into too much detail because of a confidentiality clause signed when I worked as a medical transcriptionist for a major teaching hospital but I transcribed many reports over the years that verify exactly what you are saying here. There are many many many lung cancer patients who 1) never smoked and 2) were never around smokers so nobody can claim smoking or second-hand smoke as the cause of these patients dying from lung cancer and/or fighting to survive it were among the smoking class.
Like you, I am sick of being treated like a second-class citizen too.
My second husband has finally stopped sniping about my smoking in the house since using the e-cigs. He hated the analog cigarettes in the house. He swears up and down it caused the walls to discolor, which is a crock because they are the same color they were the day I painted them - a yellowish shade of linen to almost beige but he and I have spent many evenings and nights arguing over my smoking despite the fact he knew I smoked before we were dating, while we dated, when we married, and for the 20+ years we have been married.
I started smoking at around 12-13 years old and began drinking about the same time. I was a child of an abusive alcoholic who thought his children and wife were better at being his personal punching bags than a family. My mother was an enabler because she refused to leave him and stay away from him. I left home, married the wrong man who walked out when our child was 10 months old. I got pregnant on our first anniversary so we were married less than 2 years when he walked. I stopped smoking for two years for the pregnancy but the night he walked, I started smoking again and haven't stopped since; however, I do not drink except socially and even that is only a few times a year. Every now and again my second husband of 20+ years will drink a couple of glasses of wine with dinner or drink a couple of beers when the kids are with his mother or spending the night with a friend. I have a hydrotherapy spa in a wet room built onto the house to help combat joint disease resulting from the bones fractured and broken throughout my childhood, severe osteoporosis, and the effects of lupus (SLE) and Sjogren's disease. We spent some quality husband and wife wind-down time in the spa, drink a few beers, and listen to good music. We don't get the opportunity often or rather we didn't used to do anyhow. Our oldest (the 10-month-old from my first marriage is now my 2nd husband's daughter and has been since we got married) is now 21 years old, out on her own, and a college student less than a year from graduating with her undergraduate degree. Our little one is still at home though.
I hope the government leave our e-cigs alone. It's nice not to have to fight and argue constantly with my husband over my smoking especially now that I'm vaping and the vape doesn't smell like cigarette (analog) smoke. It's a quiet evening when he comes home and I don't hear his usual first words of the night as he walks in the door (I smell the smoke!) Ugh... It was all I could do not to knock those words back down his throat. Thankfully I gained better control of my temper after intense psychiatric therapy to deal with an alcoholic abusive father an enabling mother not to mention my own problem with alcohol, which was on the verge of making me an alcoholic too but I had not yet crossed that bridge. I was close but not there yet... I was lucky. ALCOA meetings helped too.
E-cigs have brought some harmony that was missing from my marriage for several years now back to me. I don't want to lose that to some bureaucrat with a hair up his .... and some personal agenda to use as a stepping stool to a better position in the government so he can make a name for himself/herself. I am not a child and the government isn't my parents. I believe I can make choices for myself without needing a guardian looking over my shoulders. Big brother needs to go back under some rock and stay there until such a time as WE THE PEOPLE call him out.
That's just my opinion. Your mileage may vary... Forgive my rant. I got started and just couldn't stop. It's the occupational hazard of a freelance writer. Since I can't work as an MT anymore thanks to damage to my ulnar nerve in my right arm, I freelance write articles and beta test products then write reviews, and I published my first novel a few years ago, it's hard to stop writing once I start.
Like you, I am sick of being treated like a second-class citizen too.
My second husband has finally stopped sniping about my smoking in the house since using the e-cigs. He hated the analog cigarettes in the house. He swears up and down it caused the walls to discolor, which is a crock because they are the same color they were the day I painted them - a yellowish shade of linen to almost beige but he and I have spent many evenings and nights arguing over my smoking despite the fact he knew I smoked before we were dating, while we dated, when we married, and for the 20+ years we have been married.
I started smoking at around 12-13 years old and began drinking about the same time. I was a child of an abusive alcoholic who thought his children and wife were better at being his personal punching bags than a family. My mother was an enabler because she refused to leave him and stay away from him. I left home, married the wrong man who walked out when our child was 10 months old. I got pregnant on our first anniversary so we were married less than 2 years when he walked. I stopped smoking for two years for the pregnancy but the night he walked, I started smoking again and haven't stopped since; however, I do not drink except socially and even that is only a few times a year. Every now and again my second husband of 20+ years will drink a couple of glasses of wine with dinner or drink a couple of beers when the kids are with his mother or spending the night with a friend. I have a hydrotherapy spa in a wet room built onto the house to help combat joint disease resulting from the bones fractured and broken throughout my childhood, severe osteoporosis, and the effects of lupus (SLE) and Sjogren's disease. We spent some quality husband and wife wind-down time in the spa, drink a few beers, and listen to good music. We don't get the opportunity often or rather we didn't used to do anyhow. Our oldest (the 10-month-old from my first marriage is now my 2nd husband's daughter and has been since we got married) is now 21 years old, out on her own, and a college student less than a year from graduating with her undergraduate degree. Our little one is still at home though.
I hope the government leave our e-cigs alone. It's nice not to have to fight and argue constantly with my husband over my smoking especially now that I'm vaping and the vape doesn't smell like cigarette (analog) smoke. It's a quiet evening when he comes home and I don't hear his usual first words of the night as he walks in the door (I smell the smoke!) Ugh... It was all I could do not to knock those words back down his throat. Thankfully I gained better control of my temper after intense psychiatric therapy to deal with an alcoholic abusive father an enabling mother not to mention my own problem with alcohol, which was on the verge of making me an alcoholic too but I had not yet crossed that bridge. I was close but not there yet... I was lucky. ALCOA meetings helped too.
E-cigs have brought some harmony that was missing from my marriage for several years now back to me. I don't want to lose that to some bureaucrat with a hair up his .... and some personal agenda to use as a stepping stool to a better position in the government so he can make a name for himself/herself. I am not a child and the government isn't my parents. I believe I can make choices for myself without needing a guardian looking over my shoulders. Big brother needs to go back under some rock and stay there until such a time as WE THE PEOPLE call him out.
That's just my opinion. Your mileage may vary... Forgive my rant. I got started and just couldn't stop. It's the occupational hazard of a freelance writer. Since I can't work as an MT anymore thanks to damage to my ulnar nerve in my right arm, I freelance write articles and beta test products then write reviews, and I published my first novel a few years ago, it's hard to stop writing once I start.
