IDK crazy sometimes don't like crazy, or so I hear. I very much doubt I would love a diehard smoker who was gonna flip over vape equipment from her own child.
I'm sorry your niece was angelic and died but perhaps she hated it here. Who knows.
I will say this, if you raise your kids RIGHT, you don't got to worry AS MUCH about that stuff. NOT in the sense of like.... Your kids will/will not screw up they absolutely will.
I could see my ex baby daddy's defiance to the Law streak and it was a mile wide. I mean, I did "bad things" but nothing to the extent...l did EVERYTHING within my power to prevent, treat, assist and all else. I know it may not always come off that way, but everyone who knows me says I am an incredible mom. It's because I would die for the little monster, I knew my place (I ALWAYS did what the therapist said and the best one I hired gave me an A minus, I was honored. He also told me if my kid EVER put his hands on me, to do WHATEVER needed including sell my house to put him in military school.) I would have.
But, he did not, and he had his brush with the law, it was terrifying, awful, and scary. But, the law did not win.
I think it's also because I have no issues admitting my own mistakes. To the kid. I tell him all the time we are ALL human we ALL screw up and we ALL make mistakes. As long as we are all upright, and sometimes not even then, we can get through.
It is called a "dab stick" by the way, in case your son needs to know the correct terminology. I don't think anyone's gonna do vitamin E anytime soon too rapidly fatal but yeah, actually, getting a clean nic vape is probably easier than a THC one.
This is one time in our children's youth I wish we could just go back to good old Mexican (censored) weed, seeds and all. You couldn't get high enough to go into paroxysms and provided you knew what oregano smelled like, you' d be gold.
However, I'd be unlikely to blame my dad's (non existent) vaping on my son's now (non existent) vaping. I blamed myself entirely, as it was I the three ppd smoker whom I am sure he needed very much better cigarette protection from.
That's what I mean by "run in families" it's not JUST genetics, it's environmental. It takes a LOT of effort and learning to step outside your programming and say, "This may be messed UP, I better go pay someone who does what I do to find OUT." My favorite thing about my therapist is not she is better, smarter, well probably but she has a brain not attached to MY issues. Perspective is great.
In any case, I wish your grandson all the personality growth good and bad, your grandson is probably approaching and I will pray like I do every night that every kiddo on this earth engaging in risky, scary behaviors is granted the grace (and cunning) to live and grow another day.
Because, as my therapist promised, I am indeed the happier the older I get. I was like, "Lady you wack." She just laughed and said, "Anna, you have dealt with many of the adult things many adults don't even THINK about. Also, you did bipolar so congrats. I think you will find that things may not always be EASY, but you will survive and thrive." My spiritual mommy is such a sweetheart. And, I actually called my REAL mommy to wish her a happy Valentine's day and upon observation she had done far better than either my dad or my stepdad both of whom.. Well, my mom loved me more. She was very touched, actually, It was an odd moment,. I may cry at the funeral after all.
Anna
