vaping at the in-laws
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Yeah, my MIL is like that. coughs her head off when we vape, cuz she SAYS she's sensitive to smells, but has a stupid ...dog that smells like the city sewer and is dumb as a bag of hammers. UGH. I feel for ya. Good luck
How they feel about you?
Woah man, sounds like there are deeper issues than whether or not you happen to vape, (or even smoke).
Anyway...
If I were you, I'd just bring a mint juice and stealth vape in a clearo on something pocketable. Keep it simple so you don't have to fiddle with anything. Have mints on you and explain it with those if they smell anything, (which is unlikely if you do it right).
If you're just going to the in-laws' house for a handful of hours on Thanksgiving Day, then personally I think you should either go without or step outside occasionally to vape. If you're planning to stay overnight or over the weekend, maybe consider a hotel instead.
All of the above assumes, of course, that your in-laws really are so vehemently opposed to vaping that there's no possibility they'd knowingly allow it in their house. I don't believe you should sneak around or violate that rule, personally. If the relationship is sour, then the two worst things you can do, IMO, are to hide who you are or to stoop to pettiness. Obey the letter of their rules, whether they're unreasonable or not, and you can engage the in-laws with a clear conscience, self-secure.
Like it or not, they're family now. They're gonna have to learn to tolerate you and vice-versa. The sooner y'all come to grips with that, the better.
All of the above assumes, of course, that your in-laws really are so vehemently opposed to vaping that there's no possibility they'd knowingly allow it in their house. I don't believe you should sneak around or violate that rule, personally. If the relationship is sour, then the two worst things you can do, IMO, are to hide who you are or to stoop to pettiness. Obey the letter of their rules, whether they're unreasonable or not, and you can engage the in-laws with a clear conscience, self-secure.
Like it or not, they're family now. They're gonna have to learn to tolerate you and vice-versa. The sooner y'all come to grips with that, the better.
Do you really think your wife hasn't TOLD them about your smoking and now vaping already?
If you are that concerned, perhaps you could leave it at home and make everyone else happy. If you want to vape more than that, vape away and tell them it is just what you do. In the end, it is what you choose to do that is what you will have to live with. I know this sounds like a jerk's answer, but it is the truth. You have to weigh your actions, make a decision and live with the consequences. No softer way to say it. Sorry. Good luck and have fun!
i say get a small set up and go to the restroom. I do it at work and no one knows the diffrence. It works well. Not like they can smell it.
How they feel about you?
Woah man, sounds like there are deeper issues than whether or not you happen to vape, (or even smoke).
Anyway...
If I were you, I'd just bring a mint juice and stealth vape in a clearo on something pocketable. Keep it simple so you don't have to fiddle with anything. Have mints on you and explain it with those if they smell anything, (which is unlikely if you do it right).
they see me as a massive looser. I dropped out of high school to go to college and never finished. about two years ago I left a job that I excelled at and really liked for higher position and got fired, I've had trouble finding work ever since. to them this translates to high school dropout who can't hold down a job. It also doesn't help that my religious and political beliefs are the polar opposite of theirs. talking about vaping would give them one more thing to look down on me for.
My first response is to man the .... up, get your balls out of your wifes purse, realize that you're not perfect(no one is), and go to the in laws and vape outside whenever you need to. Don't say anything to them, just go outside and do it. If they ask, tell them you used to smoke, and now you vape. Don't make a big deal out of it, and don't be sucked into any long discussions.
My second response, since you don't smoke anymore...your addiction is nicotine. Buy the gum, and chew the .... out of it!
My last, and possibly best response...don't go. That's right, just don't go. Personally, I'd hate to be around people all day that I couldn't be myself around...so I just wouldn't go. Not going may cause you to get a divorce, fyi...and if that's the case, you can thank me later.
My second response, since you don't smoke anymore...your addiction is nicotine. Buy the gum, and chew the .... out of it!
My last, and possibly best response...don't go. That's right, just don't go. Personally, I'd hate to be around people all day that I couldn't be myself around...so I just wouldn't go. Not going may cause you to get a divorce, fyi...and if that's the case, you can thank me later.
That sucks - sorry d00d. I always seem to have problems with inlaws.
like lots have said - duck into the bathroom occasionally. Vape unflavored if you're worried about the smell.
Personally - I'm so proud of quitting that I talk about it constantly - everywhere - especially on FB where I'm finding that people had NO IDEA I ever smoked in the first place.
Slightly off topic - (but slightly on topic, too)
I haven't smelled anything we vaped since my GF and I started vaping. Last night, she was hitting some Dragon's Crown (ECBlends) in the bedroom and I smelled it and it smelled DELICIOUS!
I vape secretly in my office with the door closed. I've been vaping a butter rum flavor lately, and I've had two people ask me if I had anymore candy when they came in my office. So I wonder if you could start a hard candy habit for your visit and secretly vape a matching flavor. If your in-laws see you with candy and then notice that you and the bathroom smell like that, it probably wouldn't phase anyone.
The best revenge is success.
Just quietly, calmly, and patiently keep plodding along and do your best in your life in all factors and maintain a smile on your face, never worrying about what they think of you because they'll see in the end. If they don't, well, you married HER and not them. Make sure she knows you love her very much and value her every day.
My son had issues with horrific in-laws...of course, their daughter was a horrific shrew, as well, and he's well rid of them. It didn't matter what he did, how many jobs he worked, or how well he took care of the family...it was never going to be good enough. It's just too bad they can't look past their own selfishness to care about the needs of my two grandsons from that union who love their father dearly. Those poor boys are growing up with trauma issues.
Just quietly, calmly, and patiently keep plodding along and do your best in your life in all factors and maintain a smile on your face, never worrying about what they think of you because they'll see in the end. If they don't, well, you married HER and not them. Make sure she knows you love her very much and value her every day.
My son had issues with horrific in-laws...of course, their daughter was a horrific shrew, as well, and he's well rid of them. It didn't matter what he did, how many jobs he worked, or how well he took care of the family...it was never going to be good enough. It's just too bad they can't look past their own selfishness to care about the needs of my two grandsons from that union who love their father dearly. Those poor boys are growing up with trauma issues.
You're already married to their daughter.... who cares what they say.... lolol Seriously though... just tell them and if they make you, go outside to do it.
The holidays always seem to put family 'stuff' front and center, don't they?
Very few of us have Norman Rockwell situations.
I'm sorry your in-laws have a low opinion of you. No fair.
Since you are already in this situation I would ask myself what action would make me true to my own integrity? Is it important to do what is right for YOU? Is it more important that you keep peace in your nuclear family? Let your mind, integrity and priorities guide you.
Have a wonderful holiday, no matter what.
Hugs, dear.
Pat
Very few of us have Norman Rockwell situations.
I'm sorry your in-laws have a low opinion of you. No fair.
Since you are already in this situation I would ask myself what action would make me true to my own integrity? Is it important to do what is right for YOU? Is it more important that you keep peace in your nuclear family? Let your mind, integrity and priorities guide you.
Have a wonderful holiday, no matter what.
Hugs, dear.
Pat
Sorry to hear that you're more concerned about what your in-laws think of you than what you think of yourself. Cold? Yes! But that's the way I perceive your situation.
The kind folk here have presented you with many viable options. All you have to do is select one...
Good luck!
The kind folk here have presented you with many viable options. All you have to do is select one...
Good luck!
I used to have in-laws like that- judgy, superior, critical buttheads. I used to run around trying to hide my smoking from them because I didn't want them to look down on me.
I'm divorced now, and I would NEVER let anyone tell me what to do or how to do it ever again. You don't like me for me? Don't invite me. You don't like what I do in my own house? There's the door.
I'm not changing who I am for anyone.
I'm divorced now, and I would NEVER let anyone tell me what to do or how to do it ever again. You don't like me for me? Don't invite me. You don't like what I do in my own house? There's the door.
I'm not changing who I am for anyone.
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