Hi Cowboy,
Ouch....
My needless
Neither is your fault since you had no idea that these things would happen in that way...
You are human and opening yourself up to love and can always lead to a broken heart.. I mean look at the divorce rates... It's ok to be mad and/or mourn and don't avoid your feelings.. Assess the situation and go from there so that later you will be able to compartmentalize the experience in your memory.. But always remember, healing will take time, and even if you "think" you are over it you'll probably experience waves of sadness, guilt, anger and all that...
I'd suggest watching many comedies listen to music, and socializing as much as you can
I've been in the nasty relationship situation a few times with 2 of the guys I lived with.. Luckily I refused to get married for a couple of reasons...
With your job loss.. Another ouch.... That is something I have no idea about.. With the economy and the jobless situation through the country all gone to hell, there's really no answer or suggestions since so many people are in the same boat.. I'm not even going to get into the politics of it through these years, or I'd probably be kicked off the forum since I'd surely piss someone off *LOL*
All you can do is try your best...
Life sucks, then ya' die...
i never said either was my fault, the problem is that somewhere along the way b4 i met her it became a part of my identity that i was going to be the guy who would only get married 1ce in his life and that marriage would end in death. she knew this, i even made sure and got nervous asking her if she had any reservations because of this i wanted to make sure there were no issues before we started our life together, because before her i turned down marrying a good few that were close but for various reasons i didn't think we'd last the long haul (and we didn't) w/ her i gave my complete trust to. she knew assured me things would be right - so we said "i do" on sept. 12, 2009.
then it takes a few mos to get my visa to go be w/ her in the UK but finally was able to get there in mid december (in time for xmas) so things go nice like things always do for couples who have been apart for a tiny bit. then out of the blue 1 morning she told me she woke up w/ a sinking feeling like she made a mistake, but she couldn't give me any reasoning behind it, so i suggest it's pry jitters or whatnot. She apparently decided to brood about it - souring her attitude. xmas, and then new yrs all but go bust. and no matter how hard i try i can't seem to get her to break her mood. meanwhile her daughter who didn't like the idea of me used this opportunity to act up and and try to drive a wedge between us. then i don't know what she said to her friends and family but they started acting coldly to me. all the while i'm going so far as trying to walk on eggshells to make her happy and get this sorted so it could work.
so after a long drawn out issue of it - we separated just after valentine's. she told me, i think the weekend before that she thought she was sure that she didn't want to be w/ me and that pretty much nothing i said or thought mattered. i told her happy valentines and gave her the sweets i got her early. then i came back here to the states at the end of febuary and have been fighting a vicious downward spiral since.
all this and i have a lack of motivation because i've always been the co-dependent type so serial monogamy suited me well, but now still being married (though separated) makes it hard to fathom moving on (though it is starting to cross my mind these days) and things not going well on the logistical front (money, car, own place) make it impossible to even think of looking for some1 new to care about (protect, do things for, etc.)
welp that's the gist of the tail end of the long story i've been alluding to since i got here (minus certain things going on now that i don't want to publicly disclose,) come what may.
No, I Just threw that in there.
Best I can do! It's a 2 for 1. 
