9 days down, forever to go (& bf steals my vape)

[ewieya]

I've tried to quit smoking using vape stuff many times over the last two years or so. I've made it two weeks twice and otherwise have not made it long enough to remember. I had a dream last night that I was vaping. When I woke up I got excited about that (that I wasn't smoking in the dream). I went back to bed and woke up this morning in the middle of a dream that I was smoking. Ahk!

I know that I cannot ever have another puff if I want this to work. There is a thread about how gross smoking tastes after vaping. It's true that for me, smoking is sort of gross and leaves a nasty taste in my mouth, but clearly I like it no matter how disgusting it is.

Around February, my boyfriend said he wanted to quit smoking in the spring. We quit on the same day (last Monday). He uses nicotine gum and I have my vaping. He enjoys taking a puff off my equipment. But a "puff" has turned into about as much as I use it. Last Saturday he said he only had one piece of nicotine gum because he vaped most of the time. I'm trying not to be annoyed, but it kind of irritates me a little. Mostly because I chain-vape and don't want him to take it from me. A few days ago, I noticed he kept adjusting the voltage and handing it back to me without changing it back to where I had it! I made sure he stopped doing that.

Last night he asked me what stuff I buy (the battery, clearomizers and liquid- sorry, I don't know the correct terminology for everything). He was reading up on vaping. I am hoping he's considering buying his own stuff.

I'm thrilled that he quit smoking and want to be supportive of him regardless of how he does it but I sort of want to say, "get your own!"

 

[Nikinic]

Welcome and I agree he needs to get his own I have no issue letting someone try mine, but it's mine and I want it nice and safe on my hand B-)

 

[Eekins]

Haha, my wife was the same way. It didn't irritate me so much. She liked vaping due to the flavour (she never smoked) so I just got her an ego t battery and a mini protank 3 and brought her to my local b&m to find an e juice she liked. She took to it and now we each have our own devices.. she might even have more gear than I do!! Maybe just get him his own little device and let him take hold of what he wants afterwards.

 

[AttyPops]

OK, first things first.....

CONGRATULATIONS on your 9 days! Woot!

Secondly, be patient as it sounds like he can get his own gear.

But thirdly...
I know it seems like "forever"! But really, it's "forever free". You don't really "get that" now. You know it, but you don't FEEL it yet.

The 'sad' part is that it took about 3 weeks for me to detox and to get past the worst of it. But think of it this way...it's only 3 weeks, not "forever". 3 weeks. Set your sights on 3 weeks, not "forever". It's a manageable number, particularly when using e-cigs.

After that three weeks, you'll "flip". Smoking will stink. Taste like crap. You won't want to go back. (all hopes for you...it may vary a bit by person). Your hair and your clothes and your house will smell better. You'll want to de-smoke it all!

The secret is you have to get through the withdrawal from all the OTHER stuff in cigs. It can take a bit. Don't give up. Don't be afraid of nic in the e-juice either.

Good luck to you!!!!!! Don't quit quitting. Three weeks is very manageable!

 

[BigCatDaddy]

Yup, he should get his own gear. You need to have that vape handy for whenever you need it. Keep it up and remember: It's OK if you have a smoke occasionally at first. What's important is how many you DON'T smoke that counts. One day you'll realize you haven't smoked any at all and then it's smooth sailing to quit.

 

[roxynoodle]

I would have no problem telling him to get his own

Its a process, so don't beat yourself up over struggling at first. I was a dual user for 2 months before I finally made it to just vaping.

I had dreams about smoking for months.

 

[Bookworm]

Congrats on the new start! It WILL get easier! The first couple weeks were rough for me, but everyday after that was easier and easier. My gf caught the vape bug when I first started, so I just bought her a cute mini ego and some 0mg juice. She vaped a little bit for a few weeks and then she was over it, haha. But buying her own battery kept her hands off of mine!

 

[ewieya]

Thanks for all the responses and encouragement!

Haha, my wife was the same way. It didn't irritate me so much. She liked vaping due to the flavour (she never smoked) so I just got her an ego t battery and a mini protank 3 and brought her to my local b&m to find an e juice she liked. She took to it and now we each have our own devices.. she might even have more gear than I do!! Maybe just get him his own little device and let him take hold of what he wants afterwards.

I think I know what I'm getting my boyfriend for his birthday!

OK, first things first.....
But thirdly...
I know it seems like "forever"! But really, it's "forever free". You don't really "get that" now. You know it, but you don't FEEL it yet.

The 'sad' part is that it took about 3 weeks for me to detox and to get past the worst of it. But think of it this way...it's only 3 weeks, not "forever". 3 weeks. Set your sights on 3 weeks, not "forever". It's a manageable number, particularly when using e-cigs.

After that three weeks, you'll "flip". Smoking will stink. Taste like crap. You won't want to go back. (all hopes for you...it may vary a bit by person). Your hair and your clothes and your house will smell better. You'll want to de-smoke it all!

I hope you're right that I will "flip" and no longer like the idea of having a cigarette soon.

I am on vacation now in Florida. The four hour trip including two flights was frustrating. I wish we were allowed to vape in airports! I took some of my boyfriend's nicotine gum and chewed that on one of the flights. Couldn't wait to vape in my friend's car when she picked me up at the airport!

 

[Shigura]

Thanks for all the responses and encouragement!



I think I know what I'm getting my boyfriend for his birthday!



I hope you're right that I will "flip" and no longer like the idea of having a cigarette soon.

I am on vacation now in Florida. The four hour trip including two flights was frustrating. I wish we were allowed to vape in airports! I took some of my boyfriend's nicotine gum and chewed that on one of the flights. Couldn't wait to vape in my friend's car when she picked me up at the airport!

Just keep at it you'll get there in no time it's been 4 months since I completely kicked the habit as I also had issues getting away from them.

 

[Jode]

Take it one day at a time or even one hour if need be. Quitting the cigs is really tough. I was a 38year 2 pad smoker and put down the cigs the day I got my first vape (simple spinner/ clearo to start). It was not easy but I kept asking myself to try to vape through the urges to smoke and before I knew it I had gone one week doing that, then another, that turned into a month and now it has been 8 months. I still dream of smoking now and again but it doesn't get to me anymore.

Try not to be annoyed with the BF. Just keep saying things like,..... "You know these ecigs are not terribly expensive and if you had your own you could customize it as you see fit." hahaha. I helped my husband, adult daughter, her fiancé and multiple friends get into vaping and they all still steal (borrow) my vapes, juice, and accessories now and again but I just give them a look that says "Come On!!!". Mostly I am just glad they are not smoking. Then again I do have multiple vapes and a large supply of juice.

Good luck, Welcome here and remember to give yourself a pat on the back with each cig not smoked. Don't look too far ahead. You will get there.

 

[nvadasz]

You go girl!! My last stinkie was Dec 11, 2014. I remember it clearly. Finding the right flavored juice was my toughest part. You need something that's going to replace your smokes. You smoked one flavor all day, now you have to find a juice for your ADV (all day vape). My juice doesn't even have a tobacco flavor...it's just menthol. I can tell you it was a battle to find the right menthol. Good luck to you and yours...and ya, a birthday, anniversary, or 'cause it's Friday, is a good enough excuse to give the gift of life!

 

[DingerCPA]

Welcome and congratulations!

If you really want to get rid of the smokes, just keep reaching for your vape instead I "dual-used" for a few weeks before I finally told myself I wasn't going to buy another pack of cigarettes.

Fourteen months later, I still haven't bought a pack, nor have I bummed one to burn!

Get the BF his own setup, and have him sign in here. We're glad to help BOTH of you!

Vape on!

 

[LeftofCenter]

Congrats on quitting the smokes!

I agree with the others, gift your BF a beginner set up so that you both have access to your vape whenever you need/want it.

Mine was practically glued to my lips when I first started, I can't imagine someone taking it all the time!

 

[ScandaLeX]

Last night he asked me what stuff I buy (the battery, clearomizers and liquid- sorry, I don't know the correct terminology for everything). He was reading up on vaping. I am hoping he's considering buying his own stuff.

I'm thrilled that he quit smoking and want to be supportive of him regardless of how he does it but I sort of want to say, "get your own!"

First CONGRATS to you both!

Vaping gear {IMO} is personal. I don't care who you are in my life you need to have your own stuff even if it means I have to buy your first setup!

I'll be the first to admit it ~ I'm selfish when it comes to what's MINE and you should be too!

If he's able to purchase the gum, a couple more dollars will get him a decent setup. Since he likes adjusting your settings I'd point him in the direction of the Kanger KBOX w/ Aspire Atlantis. I bet he wouldn't grab your stuff any more!

Here's wishing you both the best & success!

 

[Pjump]

Well done on making the switch, yeah get the BF a starter kit, then just sit back and wait lol,

My SO did that with me now i know more about vaping than her and guide her purchases and get the right stuff lol

either way if it keeps you off stinkies then its all good!

 

[HauntedMyst]

Excellent job on quitting! And an even better job of finding this forum so I can save your relationship. In these modern, crazy times one of the things I find in my travels is that when men and women have a conflict, it's usually because the woman isn't doing something right. Are you giving your man enough backrubs? Are you getting him enough beers? When he gets home from work, do you turn on the game for him and promise to give him 60 minutes of uninterrupted silence while you run out and get him KFC? You'd be surprised at how a hot, warm bucket of extra crispy really helps relationships.