Don't give up katz....your issues were all needle related. When you get your new needles simply apply a light amount of pressure and the needle will go into the bottle and provide a leak proof seal. So if your needle tip can't reach the liquid simply turn the bottle upside down, adjust the needle so it is in liquid and pull the plunger back. After you have the amount you need, turn the bottle right side up and pull out the needle.
When you get the right needle it will all go much smoother for you. It's like riding a bike, you don't want to quit because the very first time you tried riding it, you fell.
Now I am going to leave you with 2 links, forum members can decide which of these 2 methods is easier, quicker, and more efficient for them.
YouTube - Refilling Vapor4Life Cartomizers
YouTube - Refill for e-cig condom method!
For the record I use a syringe at home, drip method when away, and would never recommend the Condom Method. That being said, the best way is always what works for the individual.
yeppers i use Snows drip fill method and it works great for me !