I'm agreeing with you. The OP faded away.
I hope that you understand that I wasn't trying to be argumentative.
I remember when I finally, after months of lurking, found the courage to join ECF and ask my first question in V4L subforum--about Steve's famous menthol flavor.

I was checking my monitor every 5 minutes hoping someone would notice me and say hello and maybe even answer my question.

In those days the forum was small, as you remember, and we didn't have to go
through the NM first. You just had to open an account and you could post anywhere... I'm feeling awfully nostalgic today. And sad.