This is entry #1
This will be a holiday story that I hope others find as heartwarming as it was for us. This is a true and current story, it may be a little long, I hope you all read it though as it made my Thanksgiving wonderful.
A little bit of pre story must be told for it to be fully understood and appreciated though. About 21 years ago I married my first wife, she, as was I, were from close families. Holidays were always spent with our entire families getting together and we would have to shuffle back and forth every holiday to spend time with both our families, but we wouldn't have it any other way. One of the really close people in my wife's life is her sister, they were close to the same age and stayed very close growing up and into adulthood. My wife's sister became pregnant and had an amazing daughter about 17 years ago, I will not go into the details but my niece would never know who her father was, this was something that the family tried to rectify but could not. But, my niece had the most loving family anyone could ever ask for so we all knew it would be ok.
Less than 2 years later my wife and I had our daughter after several tries, we had gotten to the point we thought we would not be able to have children, so to say our daughter was a blessing and miracle would not be an overstatement. From the time they were babies it seemed our daughter and niece were destined to be best friends as well as cousins. My wife, her sister, and our daughters almost seemed destined to be amazingly close for all time. They either talked, or were together almost every day one way or another. It was something amazing to be a part of.
My wife and I got married when we were young, and ended up separating about 12 years ago, it was amicable and we stayed close and still are to this day, splitting even time with our daughter and going to dinner and even visiting each other for dinners and games often. A few years after we split my then ex wife called me in tears, her sister had passed away unexpectedly. Once again I will not go into the details but it was nothing no one could have seen coming all the way up until her last hour of life. This was an amazingly hard time for everyone, especially my niece and ex wife and my daughter who saw her aunt as almost a second mother, and loved her as much.
My niece would go to live with her grandparents since the father was forever MIA. That was something we knew was good though as my ex wife's parents are amazingly loving people. That year my niece came to my house for Thanksgiving to spend the holiday with myself and my daughter and current wife who my niece had also become close to. Somehow it instantly turned into a tradition that my ex wife nor my ex wife's parents ever interfered with, in fact every year the entire family makes sure my niece is here for Thanksgiving, and every year we would sit at the dinner table for hours just talking and laughing and even sometimes crying as a family.
This year, everything seemed to start changing, my daughter and niece both started getting in trouble, small stuff but still enough to worry us. They both seemed to start distancing themselves from their families a bit, I mean in the way teenagers do, no more kisses and everything, it's all about friends, boyfriends, cars, and the newest fads and clothes, and also bits of trouble to throw in. A few weeks ago the two of them got into trouble together again (skipping school) and they were both grounded. I had not talked to my niece much this year anyway which I understand I mean she is 17, I know how it is to be 17. And I knew there was the fact she was in trouble, and grounded, and the family was frustrated with her and my daughter getting into trouble several times this year. My current wife and I believed there was no chance we would see my niece this year.
Earlier this afternoon while my wife and I were cooking we got to talking about not having my niece with us this year, it was more painful than I thought it would be, we all felt something was missing and it really felt like this Thanksgiving was not going to be the best one. We have our Thanksgiving meal the same time every year, and 1 hour before eating time my phone rang, I answered it, and the meekest most apologetic voice I have ever heard said one question, "Uncle Mike, am I still allowed to come over for Thanksgiving?" I looked at my wife and smiled and had a tear in my eye, my wife knew who it was instantly on the phone. "Of course you are" I responded. Her grandma and grandpa brought her right over. With the trouble she has been in this is the one year I honestly thought her grandparents would not let her over due to the way her and my daughter were getting in trouble together. ( Please do not misunderstand, they do not get in big trouble, just skipping a day of school here and there and talking back and the like, but they have always been very good girls so this is all a big shock to us this year)
We ate together, then sat at the table all as a family and talked for several hours about lots of things, including all the issues of this year and I think found some of the causes of those issues even. As it came time to leave my niece got up gave my wife and I a giant hug and a kiss and told us, "No matter how old I am or where we all are Thanksgiving is something we will always do together, all of us, I promise. I love you guys" Then my daughter starting hugging and giving kisses to everyone and so did my son. We all had a few tears of happiness.
I started out today feeling like it was going to be a bit of a sad Thanksgiving, I started wondering what it would be like for my daughter's and son and niece to start growing away from me, and then how it would be spending Thanksgiving's without my niece even, these were thoughts I did not enjoy, my family ( and that includes my niece ) are the most important thing in my life. Then to not only have my niece still show up, but to give us hugs and kisses like she always did, and let us know how much she loves us and just how important this tradition was for her also? Today ended up being my families best Thanksgiving ever and we are already looking forward to next Thanksgiving. We are having a very hard year, for a lot of reasons, but tonight reminded us that in a lot of ways, we are still blessed.
Thank you all for reading and I hope you all had an amazing day also.