Converting the most difficult Smoker of them ALL!

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stols001

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I know! I'm hoping he's just insane from the transition. LOL.

He is coughing like CRAZY in the mornings though. I think he is either not smoking at all, or very little.

ALSO crazy, he won't tell me. He seems to genuinely think being all cryptic about it is going to help, or something? I didn't "hide" my dual use cigarettes as I was transitioning, in fact I would say stuff like "It's 5 p.m., this is my first cigarette of the day!"

Oh well, when he got sober his nickname other than "Whiner-First name" was "Mr. Cryptic." No one could comprehend a word he said . I'm going to assume this is similar and once he emerges from the "vaping hole" as it were, he may become more rational!!! Maybe:lol::lol::lol:

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Optimistic is FINE, I just prefer not to "hear all about it." LOL.

Doing my best not to micromanage, this mostly (now) involves NOT asking questions that I don't want to hear the answers to, although to be fair, he threw that tidbit into a conversation about my TRYING to give him a P3. LOL. I think I though I was doing something nice??

But what do I know, apparently,. LOL.

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LOL. I think I though I was doing something nice??
He's in the midst of quitting smoking. I gather he doesn't/didn't really want to? Under the circumstances, do not be surprised if he acts like grumpy, ungrateful SOB at times. ;)
 

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Hi Anna
When trying to break a habit we all have different strategies.
Some love to tell anyone who'll listen every gory detail of their inner turmoil .
Some like me and I expect your significant other choose to carry our burdens alone.
A shrink would probably think the former better than the latter .
I'm happier letting others know when I feel I have successfully conquered my deamon , not give running commentary on the battle.
I'm guessing he would value space over a P3 till he has beaten his Dragon.
 

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Well, the husband informed me (yesterday) that he had his first tobacco free day (he was using a pipe, I guess, that's like the only thing left. I promptly said, "That's great, and you should go to bed early with me, so that you don't puff on that pipe tonight."

Oddly enough, yesterday was his most drama free day yet, and he was actually productive. I guess dual use does not agree with him.

So, I guess he's been "cagy" about his dual use, although I had not been asking. He did make it to 7 p.m, yesterday and I am guessing his "demeanor" this morning (and whether he heads outside directly with coffee or not) may give me some clues.

IDK. He started vaping in January, but he's been complaining about "quitting" for a long time. I would duct tape his mouth at this point, but thanks to me, he knows all about nasal vaping/smoking, LOL, so I probably won't do that.

He dual used longer than I did, but man, I think he's having a harder time. Sometimes a looming health crisis makes it easier I guess, although I must say, it will be nice to NOT have an 8 year old running through the house with various war cries, LOL.

I was 18 when I started smoking, so far more mature about it. I'm sorta convinced that it is actually harder for him, even though I was the one who smoked 3 ppd. That, or he's just very emotive while in pain I guess.

This is probably "practice:" for me from when he gets his neck fusion fixed. I just know he's gonna want to do it without opiates which may or may not be possible, but I know (either way) he is going to be The Husband that I Love to Hate for a while.... :)

Thanks for asking. Things are getting better though, I think he's still determined to quit, and possibly this decade. Heh.

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Sounds like he's moving in the right direction .
My wife was on at me to quit for years before I finally did.
Took a nasty case of bronchitis to get me across the line.
Just completed my first winter in years without a cold or man flu.
It's a powerful addiction and no mistake.
Lord knows I've had my share and then some.
Hang in there.
 
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