DH - Dear Hubby sighs

[Linda Marie]

I have been vaping for 6 weeks - down to one or two analogs a day.
Tonight I was refilling cartridges and of course locked the cat out of the room I was using - not the house the room. Check the avatar the cat is half ferel and will eat anything>>> and I believe that he would eat the paper towels before I could snatch them away from him if he was in the room and they had any hint of nic on them.

I have tried to quit - patches - precp. medications - actupuncture - etc - all of it.
My DH quit cold turkey about 18 months ago.
So to make a long story short - he was rolling his eyes while I told him what I was doing.

Now he has kind of made me mad - -- I will say to myself - You Go Girl.
I think I need a pat on the back about now and support.

 

[jj2]

Hand is reaching for your back right now....Pat Pat---way to go girl!!!

And remember, some things in life just have to be tolerated....to a point anyway. If he doesn't get over it soon, well, Thanksgiving is coming, maybe frozen turkey on a platter is called for.

 

[foggy1]

Hey, your doing Great.. YOU KNOW THAT.. just becuase he quit cold turkey, does not mean you have to go thru that pain. Just keep it up and be a happy vapor

 

[DawnH]

Good for you Linda! I too was smoking while vaping and down to a couple a day. Then I was just totally analog free and had a setback today. I too, have tried everything you tried and none worked. I am sooooooooooo thankful for ecigs to help me out and I honestly do NOT want to quit, I love the taste of smoking. My DH quit cold turkey too, of all the people I never thought would quit, he amazed me. But I refuse to let him have that "superior attitude", because of all people, THEY should know how hard it is! Just keep doing what you're doing, because it works for YOU and that's all that matters right now. Here's a pat on the back and YOU GO GIRL!!!!!!!!!!

 

[Automaton]

Addiction is different for all of us. For some it is easier, for some it is harder, for some it is very specific, and for some it is multi-dimensional.

I can't quit cold turkey. It's not because I don't have the will power. It's because I become dysfunctional. And I can't continue to live my life while I'm withdrawaing, which can take weeks or months. I don't have weeks or months. I need to pay the rent.

If someone wants to roll their eyes at me because I'm taking the "easy way"... I can tell them where to shove it.

And if this is what you need to do to quit cigarettes, then he should be supporting you. Tell him as much.

So.

You go girl!

 

[emsmom]

You Go Girl!!! You are doing great!! Glad he was able to quit cold turkey, but for some of us, that simply isn't a possibility. Mine did the same, but no way could I.
Tried all the things you listed too, all didn't work! The ecig is the only thing that ever worked for me! So you just keep doing it your way, it is obviously working!

 

[Windpray]

You Go Girl, just ignore DH, some men are like that. Mine quit about 30 years ago, he use to chew on a cigar all day and said he smoked but he really never did just chewed on the thing, well he has been after me to stop and I just ignored him and a couple of years ago I saw something about e-cigs, slow learner it took me a long time to decide to do this, now he wants to know when I am going to stop the e-cigs, I tell him it is my new hobby and I am having fun ordering things on the internet just like he does with his little toys LOL

 

[Satharra]

I quit cold turkey once. It lasted 2 years and then I decided one day that I needed a cigarette. It was just one! Yeah, you all know how that turned out.

There was no way on God's green earth I was going through all that again. I had too many attention issues, was angry all the time, and I didn't want to put my spouse through me going that route. (In fact, I told him that if he decided to try it, to do so when I was out of town for a minimum of 3 days.)

Suffice it say, this is far, far easier to switch to than any other method. I've started stepping my nicotine down too - from 24 to 18 and 12. If I eventually stop using nicotine, great! If not, so what? I've still taken steps to improving my health and my life.

A rather nasty incline on a hiking trail proved the last one to me. I was barely breathing heavy at the top but my husband had to sit down and rest for 5 minutes before we could resume. Yeah, that was nice.

 

[Avid]

Maybe he's just jealous because he quit the hard way

But you came to the right place for support! YOU GO, GIRL!!!

 

[Linda Marie]

I just cut and pasted this post into an email and sent it to myself -- if he sighs and rolls his eyes again I will forward it to him.
I love him - have since the day I first saw him - but I cannot just stop cold turkey.

 

[Laddsy]

Why cant people just be happy we are off the smokes?

My mum is proud of me, but the other day she said I should see a hypnotist to get off the ecigz lol

 

[CaptJay]

Tell them you love them and then add 'you brought me up to be/married me/chose me as a partner partly because I am an intelligent independant person capable of making my own decisions. It makes me happy to know that you will support and encourage me and are there for advice should I ever need to ask you for it. I am here for you too'
I can't see how they can nag you after that - as it would negate everything you just said lol.
They mean well and most probably think they are helping you with their unsolicited advice - they just need to .... out, but you can't put it that way as its a little blunt

 

[tplaisance]

Wow, I think you've done amazingly well! Way to go and keep it up!!

 

[FireHorse]

Way to go girl!!! Don't let anyone (even your hubby) stand in the way of what's working for you!

 

[Cyia]

Every person is different. Just cause one person can do something doesn't mean the other will. And you shouldn't feel bad about that. You are doing a fantastic job! And you do get a pat on the back even if DH is doing the eye rolling. Don't get discouraged. And tell him that even though you may not have done what he did, you still need that support he got for doing something you probably never thought you could do up until you found PVs

 

[Sgt.Taz]

Sometimes I think we all just find a way to do something to annoy our mate...... Chalk it off to one of those times and don't let it discourage you. Your doing your best and it's a good thing. BTW "Pat - Pat" on the back....

Now if he keeps it up give him a swat up side the head....always wakes me up when the wife gives me a good hit and reminds me that I'm acting non-supportive.

 

[Auntbeast]

Any port in a storm!

I would bet he doesn't mean to be unsupportive, unless you have *that* kind of marriage. Perhaps using humor to show him that he is being insensitive. A rolled up newspaper next to your pv sounds about right. Even if he did it better/faster/longer than you, you aren't him, which is probably why he married you.

I've found that the difference between me and my spouse says more about what we wish we had in ourselves that I ever thought. I live in shades of grey, he lives in black and white. Viva la difference!

Oh, and good job! Keep it up!

 

[Serpentine]

WTG! And your kitty is cute, also! I have two myself and when I was filling carts I would go in the bathroom and shut the door, too. Those little buggers are way too curious and I definitely don't want them around the juice since it is so poisonous to them. You are a good kitteh mom...heh.

 

[humarock]

MINE TOO! BUT he is struggling trying to do cold turkey and not succeeding at ALL....and I've been two weeks analog free...wish I could get him to try it...BUT...I'm giving you an ATTA GIRL! You go, we gotta do what is right for ourselves and know your getting healthy and having some fun with it too...just got a new Ego kit in the mail today, so needless to say he wasn't thrilled about THAT either, but TOUGH NOOGY! I'm NOT going back! And neither should YOU! Keep up the good work! VAPE ON SISTER!

 

[Darkwitless]

Remind your hubby that you know what it takes to put up with someone who has quit cold turkey 8-o - and you know he doesn't have it in him! YOU had the patience of a saint...he has a saint for a wife who luvs him enough to spare him the inner 6itch who would appear without her vapor! lol