Hi Kelly,
First, please know that it is not my intention to be argumentative. I am commenting on the way I see things.
Do I think those people are hypocrites? Well that's crux of the question.... does my judgement make them hypocrites or is it their own heart? I don't believe a Christian is a hypocrite just because they believe in abortion. If a Christian believes that life doesn't begin until late term or at birth... then they are not going against their beliefs in Christ to support abortion. Or if a young woman is so afraid of her future that she truly believes that abortion is her only option... or at least the option that will make her fear stop... then she is to be pitied and helped, not judged as a hypocrite. (granted, she may be trading her fear for guilt and remorse, but she doesn't know that at the time.)
As to your other examples that are "simply not Christian"... they may be "not Christian" by some people's standards and even by my standards... but they are not hypocrisy if the person believes one way and has struggled and/or fallen. It is not hypocrisy for one to even convince themselves that they are somehow correct in their actions. It is only hypocricy when a person professes something about themselves knowing full well that they aren't living it.
You see... hypocrisy is about whether or not I'm true to what I believe. If I believe that being a Christian included allowing snakes to bite me and I subject myself to such rituals, as mis-guided as that may seem to me, it's not hypocrisy.
In my opinion, It is not even hypocrisy for someone to be in an adulterous relationship and profess that Jesus is the Christ and that Christ is the answer or that one should follow Christ. I can be living one way and know that Jesus is the way and say so. That isn't hypocrisy. What is hypocrisy is when I make a statement about my righteousness and how you should be living like me, knowing that either I don't believe it or am not walking in it. I don't see that very often. I do see people accuse Christians of doing it, but in reality that is more about their own judgments and perceptions than it is about the intentions of the Christian they are accusing.
For me to judge that someone is a hypocrite, is to presume that I know the intentions of their heart. Fear, denial, ignorance... is not hypocricy.
Does that make sense?
Makes alot of sense to me, I thought that was an excellent post!