Doing It Alone

[Bootleg]

Hi everybody! My husband and I have both smoked for at least 16 years, and we have been up to 2 PAD for the majority of those years. A few months ago, my husband started talking about quitting, and I agreed that we should give it a go and recently, I picked up a few e cig starter kits. At first he was pretty stoked about me quitting, although he wanted to try quitting cold turkey, and has refused to give e cigs a shot. But as the days have passed, his support has waned. I think he is upset that I have asked him to smoke outside, but if he doesn't I am very likely to go back to smoking analogs again. And I also think he is jealous because his attempts to quit have not been as sucessful as mine. In fact, his smoking is worse than it ever has been. He claims that e cigs are just another vice, and that I haven't really accomplished anything because I'm constantly vaping. I am so frustrated, and have been tempted to give up. Has anyone else experienced this? Do you have any tips that will help me avoid the temptation to return to analogs while under so much stress....aside from sending my hubby packing.

 

[chaos-7]

Keep the faith and keep on vaping! Your husband needs to learn more about what this is all about.

 

[Tiny]

I was like your husband, I thought it was just another gimmick to pull money out of the pockets of desperate smokers. I couldn't have been more wrong. vaping is working really well for me and I would encourage him to read articles in this forum. Remind him that knowledge is power. Best of luck to you.

 

[Dana A]

NO you don't smoke anymore and yes you traded one addiction for another but a healthier one. So whats the problem with that? What if you sit down with him and tell him how much you need his support? Also maybe he would be interested in a big chrome mod with a tank???? I think some men feel macho smoking but feel silly with a little fake cigg in hand. My husband has never smoked but is a member of the good ol boys club and I know if he did smoke it would take a big manly looking chrome mod to get him to try it. I feel for you and your husband. I bet he feels like you are just another non smoker sending him outside like everyone else. Smoking is a social thing and a very personal thing as well so now he may feel threatened and shown up as well. So sorry 4 you. Keep your head up

 

[subversive]

I don't know if smoking gave you a chronic cough or other issues, but after a little while, your hubby will have to notice that you're breathing easier. He probably won't notice how much better the house and you smell, though, since he is still smoking. You can lead a horse to water, but..you know the saying. He needs more info. Maybe you can get him to look at this site and see how many people have made the switch and are feeling better for it.

It's not fair for him to belittle your choice. You may still be getting nicotine, but you aren't doing the harm to yourself anymore. Don't give up. Try not to be too pushy with your hubby, since it's a two-way street. The more you push, the more he will dismiss electronic cigarettes. Not everyone out there can just quit cold-turkey and we deserve to have this option. Most smokers don't quit. If ecigs are a vice, it's a vice that most of us here on ECF like having and it's helped a lot of us. No more smoker's cough, no more dirty ashtrays, no more carcinogens...etc,etc,etc.

Did you guys always smoke in the house before? It's obviously a good thing to smoke outside, but I can understand why he might feel like he is suddenly being shoved out the door. Maybe you could step out with him and use your PV to keep him company?

 

[Vchick]

Welcome & congrats!

I don't think I'd have the willpower to quit with another in the house still 'moking, so kudos to you!

I've found since I quit 'moking that trying to convert someone who has any hesitation or questions the validity of switching to vaping probably isn't likely to hop on board until they're ready. Stick (gently) to your guns, with time hopefully he'll come over to your side. There's plenty of support here, stay with it and in time he'll see that it wasn't just a passing fad and maybe, just maybe you'll catch him sneaking a vape off your gear.......

What part of Ohio are you from?

 

[Damper]

My sister was in a similar situation with her husband (except they never smoked analogs in the house). They were both smoking, but he did not want to try vaping. He went on about how my sister had not really quit smoking, I think he was frustrated to see how easy she could switch to vaping while he was struggeling to quit without any help. He was constantly talking about how bad/ unhealthy this 'vaping-thing' must be for her and her surroundings, as if the vapor were more of a health risk than second hand cigarette smoke.
This problem resolved it self when some vapers with more experience came together one night at their house. I think seeing that many people had succsessfully quit analogs this way was a very good thing. The joined expertice of the group could also bring an answer to a lot of the questions/ unsecurity he had on this matter. He is still not vaping, but he totally approve of her desicion, and he rarely smoke anymore.
If you know any other vapers in your area, invite them over and let him see that there is many of us! If there are no others, you could maybe get some of your smoking friends to try vaping. And show them this forum! Please think about your own health, don't give up! Good luck to both of you

 

[wv2win]

The starter kits you got may be the big problem for him. If you got one that looks like the real thing, they generally are very weak substitutes. I hope you have looked at better "beginner" models such as the E-Power 510, Kgo 510 or Riva with manual batteries. If he has a model that is less hassle and provides warmer vapor and better throat hit, he may try again. If that isn't enough, then look at a good 5 volt model like the GLV2 or a good variable watt model.

GLV-2 Electronic Cigarette [GLV-2] - $120.00 : Electronic Cigarettes and E-Liquid - Great Lakes Vapor

Electronic Cigarette - Starter Kits - EGO E-Power

EVO Kit

KGO

 

[nansc]

I am in the same situation it is hard because he leaves them still lit in the ashtray.He just does not want to quit and you really can't do too much about it.You have to be strong and I am most of the time.Good luck.

 

[Bootleg]

Welcome & congrats!
What part of Ohio are you from?

Coshocton. Where do you hail from?

 

[dlsw]

Hi and my husband quit smoking in October going cold turkey. I quit in February by vaping. He is still acting like I still smoke, but in a healthier way... It is annoying, but I told him that if he made me feel anxious, I was likely to buy a bunch of vaping supplies. He shut up. (I still bought the stuff) I think that you are on the other side of the state from me. I am in Findlay, south of Toledo.

 

[Bootleg]

Thanks for the words of encouragement and the great advice, everybody. I do go outside with him when he smokes sometimes, and he doesn't get as irritated about going outside if I go with him. Since we are having such nice weather, it has been a treat to sit out on the porch and chat away, especially since my allergies have stopped flaring since I quit smoking regularly. I tried to put myself in his place and imagine what it must be like to be all of the sudden pushed out the door every time you want to light one up. And I guess I would be pretty upset too.

I've been telling him the wonderful things I've experienced thus far (breathing, tasting, smelling etc...) But I think I'll try a subtler approach when it comes to trying to convert him by just letting him come to it on his own. I'm pretty sure he'll eventually get there. He'll probably run out of cigs one day and have no other choice but to puff on it. Or at least, that will be his excuse.

I am looking forward to buying a heavier model. Something with LOTS of battery life. I was thinking of a device along the lines of an EGo T type B, but I have a few weeks to research and decide.