thank you so much everyone i fell im not going mad i have got the sport i need right here its more than a forum its a family of vapers looking out for each other shes never going to change it a long line of things we lost are son 5 years ago he was born asleep it was my hubbys sisters wedding not long after we could not go as was still in pain she was nasty to my hubby so i told her what i though that it was a place we did not need to be with what we had gone though she said we should put are felling aside for the wedding what can i say ....h i never cared for her after that and never will thank again everyone
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Wow, that is the longest run on sentence I have ever seen lol.
Anyways, I would not worry about what your mother in law thinks of you, that is her problem not your, I would just switch off and not even listen to her.
Sorry to here about your son *sniff* Hope things get better for you.
Anyways, I would not worry about what your mother in law thinks of you, that is her problem not your, I would just switch off and not even listen to her.
Sorry to here about your son *sniff* Hope things get better for you.
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Just ask her if she would rather ride in a horse and buggy vs. a car; type a letter on a typewriter without making a mistake or use a computer; Send a telegraph instead of picking up the phone (landline or cell); or live by candle light instead of turning on the lights..... Progress is progress and this is new technology which is always a safer, easier and more efficient way to do things...
If that doesn't work, call her a dinosaur and be done with her. If your momma's boy hubby protests then call him her puppy. Either way, vape away and live a healthier analog free life.
If that doesn't work, call her a dinosaur and be done with her. If your momma's boy hubby protests then call him her puppy. Either way, vape away and live a healthier analog free life.
sounds like you have a hubby problem, not a mom in-law problem. just remember what Eleanor Roosevelt said: "nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent" vape on!
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You suffered a horrible loss, and the pain from losing a baby is the worst ever. Her total lack of compassion for that loss is unimaginable. It showed you then what kind of person this nasty woman is, and it must be hard to not be bitter.
My mother-in-law did not want my husband to be with me from the start. She wanted him to marry his high school sweetheart, and she made that clear from the first time I met her. Over the years, she put on a good act, but there was always this underlying hostility for me. It changed after the birth of my two children, and she has been an excellent grandmother.
Do we ever forget the past? I don't know if that is completely possible. I do know that right now my FIL is dying of colon cancer, and my MIL has been diagnosed with Alzheimers. I shudder and come close to panic when I think of what will happen in the near future. Who will take care of her? I don't believe that I am capable of doing that, and one reason is those years when she shunned me as an "inappropriate" choice of a wife for her son. Unspoken resentments and unresolved issues do not get better over the years. They just lie beneath the surface seething. You would do yourself a favor if you solved these issues right now.
I say don't waste your time talking to her about it or getting yourself upset about it. The woman has it in for you and yes it stinks that your husband is not backing you up, but you are stuck.
You quit smoking for you, not only to save money but for the sake of your health also. When she starts to rant and rave about it just ignore her. If you can, make an excuse and walk away. Don't stand there out of politeness and let her yell at you!
When she starts to complain about it just change the topic and say something like, do you think it's going to rain or I hear the price of mango's has gone up.
You quit smoking for you, not only to save money but for the sake of your health also. When she starts to rant and rave about it just ignore her. If you can, make an excuse and walk away. Don't stand there out of politeness and let her yell at you!
When she starts to complain about it just change the topic and say something like, do you think it's going to rain or I hear the price of mango's has gone up.
Sit on her. Blow analog in her face for 10 minutes. Blow vape in her face for 10 minutes. Let her choose, you know, for next time you sit on her. This is probably bad advice.
If you are old enough to be married and have kids you are old enough to tell them to stuff it. I have done so many times in my life and never regretted it in the end.
The first thing I noticed in your original post was your non-conformity in writing. It was hard to read. I came close to backing out of the thread before I finished your post. I think the day of not using capital letters and periods at the end of sentences, making all the words run together is long past. I don't mean to scold (or do I?), I just think the effort to make one's writing readable shows respect for one's readers.
Some ex-smokers get angry when others aren't suffering as much as they are. Your mother-in-law may see your happiness with vaping and resent it because it wasn't there for her when she quit smoking. You're just not suffering enough. You might ask her if jealously might be the issue.
I do agree with the others that reminded you that you didn't marry your mother-in-law, and she simply doesn't have the right to take your joy away, although evidently she's got the power. Only you can take that power away from her, so try to do that. Just say to her, "Don't worry, be happy, like me!"
Some ex-smokers get angry when others aren't suffering as much as they are. Your mother-in-law may see your happiness with vaping and resent it because it wasn't there for her when she quit smoking. You're just not suffering enough. You might ask her if jealously might be the issue.
I do agree with the others that reminded you that you didn't marry your mother-in-law, and she simply doesn't have the right to take your joy away, although evidently she's got the power. Only you can take that power away from her, so try to do that. Just say to her, "Don't worry, be happy, like me!"
Her mother-in-law reminds me of a lady I met last week. She asked all these questions about the ecigs, and then said oh he's just gonna have to quit, I don't care he doesnt need to use that thing he will just QUIT. I just laughed and walked away, also she kept giving me dirty looks for the rest of the time I was around.
Tell your husband either your mother in law minds her own business or you kick her and him out. Life is too short to have such toxic people in your life.
i have dyslexia i try to constraint on spelling so people can understand me more then the format of the post (scold) please think be for you put this to people a lot of people with dyslexia don't Jone thinks like this because of people making them fell bad for what they cant help it hard to do a post cant think of ever think just try my best
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rhoobarb. I'm a bit dyslexic myself. Can't tell my right from my left.
Have you heard of the VaporCast? You can find it on iTunes. It's much easier to get and retain information by listening to it.
Have you heard of the VaporCast? You can find it on iTunes. It's much easier to get and retain information by listening to it.
rhoobarb -
Send her to me - got a woodchipper for her to look at from the inside.
Seriously, you've been given a lot of good advice. Here's my .02 worth.
As a retired mental health worker and someone who's been in situations like yours:
1. Realize that "they" aren't going to change because you want them to. You can't change them. You can't make your husband stand up for you, you can't make your mother-in-law understand.
2. Changes only happen when You change. When you change how you respond to them and how you interact with them, only then will you notice change.
3. You need to stand up for yourself. If you've already explained the e-cig to your mother in law and she still harps, then tell her the topic is not open for discussion anymore. If she continues, walk away. The more you stand up for yourself, the more you will see a change.
Hang in there rhoobarb - you've got a lot of people cheering you on!!!
Send her to me - got a woodchipper for her to look at from the inside.
Seriously, you've been given a lot of good advice. Here's my .02 worth.
As a retired mental health worker and someone who's been in situations like yours:
1. Realize that "they" aren't going to change because you want them to. You can't change them. You can't make your husband stand up for you, you can't make your mother-in-law understand.
2. Changes only happen when You change. When you change how you respond to them and how you interact with them, only then will you notice change.
3. You need to stand up for yourself. If you've already explained the e-cig to your mother in law and she still harps, then tell her the topic is not open for discussion anymore. If she continues, walk away. The more you stand up for yourself, the more you will see a change.
Hang in there rhoobarb - you've got a lot of people cheering you on!!!
It is ironic that in a post about a "scolding" woman, you then answer her with a scolding. I am an English teacher with a graduate degree in writing. A professor once said that criticizing other people's writing or speech problems was inexcusable arrogance. As you see from a later post, the OP is dyslexic. It is difficult enough to function in a writing environment like this forum as a dyslexic without the added insults of forum members who are supposed to show support.The first thing I noticed in your original post was your non-conformity in writing. It was hard to read. I came close to backing out of the thread before I finished your post. I think the day of not using capital letters and periods at the end of sentences, making all the words run together is long past. I don't mean to scold (or do I?), I just think the effort to make one's writing readable shows respect for one's readers.
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