I have one friend who is very negative about me vaping. She says that I'm just "continuing the addiction" and that I "don't really know what's in those" and that "just because it might be better than smoking doesn't mean it's good" and that "just because it's less bad doesn't mean it's not dangerous", etc. etc.
But really... she just wants me to do it HER way, which is to quit altogether. She thinks it's "like" smoking therefore it's bad, and therefore I'm bad for being weak and not really "giving it up". In other words... she's using whatever she can to judge me as not good enough.
Of course, she's like that about all things. She's one of those people who thinks their life is perfect and they're doing it right, so they have the authority to pass judgment on everyone else. She judges my relationships and whether I should be dating (I'm long divorced). She judges me for being open about the fact that I have no intention of ever being married again (because to her "marriage" is the ultimate goal and the only acceptable state for a couple in her view). She actually had the nerve to ask me recently (after my SO moved out and we broke up) whether our living together "contributed to the demise of the relationship". Suggesting that if we hadn't lived together, the relationship might have survived because then we would have been doing it "right". *Sigh*
This is a woman who has NO idea what it's like to be cheated on and left by your husband for someone your daughter's age. No idea what it means to have an ex-husband whose biggest joy in life is to see you suffer, who has done everything in his power to take everything you love away from you. No idea what it's like to lose custody of your kids to such a sick twisted person, simply because you wanted to move on in my life and he wouldn't allow it. No idea what it's like to have to pay absurd amounts child support to him and his ridiculous girlfriend who was a part in breaking up your family. And all the while, having them tell your kids that you're insane, that you lie to them, that the truth really isn't the truth. No idea what it's like to have your kids be afraid to show that they love you because it angers their dad.
And now she wants to pass judgment on me because I quit smoking the "wrong" way. Tell me that I don't know the things I know about what's in the e-cigs I use. Tell me that just because it might be better, doesn't mean it's good enough and I should quit entirely.
I've just about had it with people like that, I really have.
But really... she just wants me to do it HER way, which is to quit altogether. She thinks it's "like" smoking therefore it's bad, and therefore I'm bad for being weak and not really "giving it up". In other words... she's using whatever she can to judge me as not good enough.
Of course, she's like that about all things. She's one of those people who thinks their life is perfect and they're doing it right, so they have the authority to pass judgment on everyone else. She judges my relationships and whether I should be dating (I'm long divorced). She judges me for being open about the fact that I have no intention of ever being married again (because to her "marriage" is the ultimate goal and the only acceptable state for a couple in her view). She actually had the nerve to ask me recently (after my SO moved out and we broke up) whether our living together "contributed to the demise of the relationship". Suggesting that if we hadn't lived together, the relationship might have survived because then we would have been doing it "right". *Sigh*
This is a woman who has NO idea what it's like to be cheated on and left by your husband for someone your daughter's age. No idea what it means to have an ex-husband whose biggest joy in life is to see you suffer, who has done everything in his power to take everything you love away from you. No idea what it's like to lose custody of your kids to such a sick twisted person, simply because you wanted to move on in my life and he wouldn't allow it. No idea what it's like to have to pay absurd amounts child support to him and his ridiculous girlfriend who was a part in breaking up your family. And all the while, having them tell your kids that you're insane, that you lie to them, that the truth really isn't the truth. No idea what it's like to have your kids be afraid to show that they love you because it angers their dad.
And now she wants to pass judgment on me because I quit smoking the "wrong" way. Tell me that I don't know the things I know about what's in the e-cigs I use. Tell me that just because it might be better, doesn't mean it's good enough and I should quit entirely.
I've just about had it with people like that, I really have.
