To the OP, im a mother and have 2 sons. I think when it comes down to everything, YOU have to make the decision based on what YOU honestly feel is right. Obviously coming here and asking us what we think ( now I could be wrong so I apologize if Im wrong) shows that you are very worried about what people think. Wrong or right, you cant constantly let that attitude sway you.
No matter how much we study what makes good parenting, all the good intentions might end up backfiring on us. Kids do what they will do, most turn out fine but some end up bad no matter how much we try to set good examples. But, as long as you go with what YOU feel is right, there will be no regrets or thinking that you should or not have listened to other peoples advise.
Go with your own morals.