I have almost giving up using ss mesh but using a good torch made all the difference in the world. I torch mine thoroughly many times over and then juice it a few times and let it burn down holding or bracing in an upright position. I torch and ejuice the wire too. It all helps build oxidation and a smoother taste.
I was using a cheap torch (it took 10x"s longer) and I was always getting the burn harsh taste using 32 gauge kanthal.
Now like others, I pulse the wick with short burst until I get my 3/4 wrap glowing using 28gauge kanthal.
They say that you have to also cut your nic content down by as much as half because it vapes very pure and strong with no fillers to buffer it. Like a analog cig without the filter if you were used to using filtered cigs. I get a nicotine rush if I try to vape like I do with cartos or silica wicking. But it is smooth and clean tasting finally. I'm cutting my nic level down when I use ss mesh from now on. 24mg nic seems like double the amount using ss mesh. I have to put my gear down and take a break.
You may want to try this method.
I also used the cotton fiber strand method, wrapping the threads around the ss mesh. No hot spots and you get a dense buffered clean taste. Less break in period. I followed RippT's method and it did help me hang in there. You have to change the cotton thread wraps once a week but it's worth it if you don't want to go thru the break in period and a tank of ejuice with harsh hits.
The torch I just started using is the Iwatani $24/25,
Amazon.com: Iwatani Torch Burner Professional #Cb-tc-pro: Kitchen & Dining
This torch blows hard and fast like a pro touch.
I have fun torching everything. Great strudy control shut off knob w/ trigger igniter.
I also use Gasone butane fuel canisters. $2 a pop at my local Asian Market.
So,Hallelujah, I finally won the battle!
Hang in there, you can too!