My husband hates my VP, gives NO support

[alsmom]

I guess I am the odd man out. It seems everyone else on the forum gets positive feedback from family/friends for giving up cigarettes. Not my husband, who happens to be one of those "reformed" smokers. He quit 5 or 6 years ago and his comment is JUST don't smoke. My son thinks the VP is great for me, but not Dad! I hate his comments

 

[LisaLisa]

Don't let him discourage you! If you can't "just not smoke", like he did, and you need or choose to vape, then explain to him that this is your own personal choice and it's really none of his business and to keep his negative comments to himself.

I would be upset too, but I would make it very clear that it's my business not his. If he can't deal with it for whatever reason, he's being closed minded, judgmental and selfish to believe that everyone else in the world should be just like him.......and to mind his own business.

 

[geeker]

I had a similar situation. My family thinks it looks stupid, and "smells like burned toast". Thankfully, the only time I really .... heads with the buttheads is while driving in the same car, which is rare.

 

[wezzie]

You have plenty of support here! Keep up the good work.

We all take different paths to achieve our goals. He did it the hard way...you (we) have been given the opportunity to quit smoking through vaping.

So smile and be happy you are vaping and not smoking.

 

[Twisted]

Yeah, I got some of the same responses... My wife gave me a hard time as well. But after a month of no smoking and the benefits that come with it she stopped.
I think we are all bombarded with fads and stupid items its kinda hard to believe there is something out there that that can actually help save a life.

 

[RacoonSpirit]

Don't sweat the petty stuff ... my wife is a smoker and has provided no support for me either in the time I have been vaping (almost a year now). She goes as far as making sarcastic remarks when I am explaining it to other folks who inquire when we are out. I merely respond commenting that insults are the last resort to an exhausted mind and continue with the conversation ... so my advice / words of encouragement are to not sweat the petty stuff - just pet the sweaty stuff and life is much happier!

 

[martha1014]

I am totally opposite my husband actually bought my first ecig and gave it to me. He quit smoking about 10 years ago and could not understand why I could not just quit. He knew I was a dedicated smoker and would never quit. He loves the fact that I no longer cough and gasp for breath or take breathing treatment. He thinks this is best invention that was ever made. Although he will occasionally say he hopes there is nothing bad in these.

He and other family members are so happy for me. My son laughs about the one that is hooked to my computer. My daughter-in-law says my house smells so much better.

Good luck with you husband. Maybe when he sees the improvement in health he will be more supportive.

 

[AngusATAT]

My wife teased me for a while, but I pretty much told her that I didn't want to hear her smartass comments anymore. I quit smoking for her and the kids, so it was either e-cigs or smoking, and told her to take her pick.

Yeah, it was kinda harsh, but I didn't need the aggravation, and it was getting to the point of thinking about smoking again just to get her to stop.

 

[RenaissancePuffer]

My boy doesn't like the smell of it, everyone else is really happy that I quit smoking. He likes to tease me and say that I'm fogging up the house, or that it stinks like pipe smoke. I know neither of this is true, and he's just trying to get a rise out of me. I always look him in the eye and say, alright, so you think it stinks? Hmm, perhaps I should get one of Mom's analogs and light it up eh? We'll see what REALLY stinks!!

Needless to say, that is a conversation ender

 

[gotthelife4u]

I feel for you. My girlfriend is the same way. She has no idea how hard it is to quit smoking at all. My brother is a reformed smoker but he thinks PVs are kinda neat, I get no objections from him what so ever. He likes when I vape coffee flavors at the office because it makes the front smell faintly of a coffee shop.

 

[Luma]

I dont put up with peoples crap. They all know this. My family will support me in any way.

If they dont like it they can go f.... themselves for lack of better terms. The attitude has gotten me an Aston Martin Vantage at age 26.

People love to have something to complain about. If you are going to complain it better be justified.

I SUPPORT YOU! Keep vaping if that means you stay of the cancer sticks!!!

 

[Michelle M]

This is one of the reasons I don't have a husband.

Just kidding. (Or am I? )

Tell him to pi$$ off.



Keep on doing what you're doing.

 

[Sun Vaporer]

I agree with Michelle---tell him to go take a hike---that is an outrage. I have read a lot of experiances here on the Forum and this one takes the cake.


Sun

 

[The Wiz]

I have always noticed that it is the husband who is the complianer!! Quit cooking and cleaning for a month or two....if he is a typical "Caveman" husband he will break down!!The Wiz!

 

[plantlvr]

This is one of the reasons I don't have a husband.

Just kidding. (Or am I? )

Tell him to pi$$ off.



Keep on doing what you're doing.

Me too! But I'm NOT kidding

 

[Snarkyone]

I just had a similar experience with my dad with my mother using one that I gave her. He made a comment when I mentioned something about taking it your own pace how one should just be able to quit like he did.

I ripped him a new one! First off you smoked as a teenager when you came back from Nam and you quit after a couple of years of it. That is not a "Smoker" in my book. I laughed at him, you smoked cigarettes to be cool or whatever, you didn't have an addiction to the nicotine. She has smoked for 50 yrs and me for 32 so there is no comparison. Tell the husband to take a hike that not everyone is so godlike in their abiliity to quit cold turkey. Only people without a clue of what hell smokers go through when they try to quit would be so insensitive. Quitting smoking cigarettes is right up there with quitting ...... for a junkie, one of the hardest things one can do in life. I think of my E-Cig as a teammate of mine, you can't win the SuperBowl with just a QB, he needs help, the E-Cig is my star receiver in a sense.

 

[cliff5550]

"Reformed" anythings are the worse! You have to do what works for you and he needs to recognize and appreciate your efforts. Would he rather have you keep smoking those other things? Like you've read, there's tons of support for you here.
I lucked out. Wife and I both went to vaping together and quit the stinkies the first day. Hang in there!

 

[alsmom]

Thanks for all the support guys! He always takes the cake, he is one hard dude to live with, but that's for another forum, LOL! Let me just get off analogs first!

 

[Snarkyone]

Sounds like someone needs some attitude adjustment training to me. I feel for the poor ....... now but he brought it on himself.

 

[jj2]

My sister was that way. We usually get together once a month and since I started vaping, I buy her dinner with the money I save. After about the fourth time, she stopped complaining.