If you do it then you need to remember to get the ZERO NICOTINE (or 0mg Nicotine) juice and carts! No need to start a fresh addiction!!
Good luck!
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Good luck!
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My husband thinks I'm being stupid
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wow, great topic.
I've been analog free for 18yrs. and roughly 3yrs. ago was feeling very stressed out. For the record, I am a friend of Bill's and was close to testing the waters again
I decided to start chewing nicorette and still do now. I recently ordered the chuck w/510 atty's and anxiously waiting my first vape. I really enjoy nicotine and I'm just trying heathier ways to get it. I believe I have an addictive personality and find nicotine a wonderful pacifier. I value the less harmful delivery system of gum and vapor because I regularly go to the gym and play full court basketball. This stuff saves my lungs and I'm thankful.
I've been analog free for 18yrs. and roughly 3yrs. ago was feeling very stressed out. For the record, I am a friend of Bill's and was close to testing the waters again
I decided to start chewing nicorette and still do now. I recently ordered the chuck w/510 atty's and anxiously waiting my first vape. I really enjoy nicotine and I'm just trying heathier ways to get it. I believe I have an addictive personality and find nicotine a wonderful pacifier. I value the less harmful delivery system of gum and vapor because I regularly go to the gym and play full court basketball. This stuff saves my lungs and I'm thankful.
Tell your husband he's being stupid. Also tell him he's not as handsome as he used to be.
It looks like once you have smoked cigarettes and became addicted to the habit it never completely goes away. You said you went 16 years without smoking but you still want to smoke. This was what I was afraid of when thinking about quitting. I thought I would never completely get over it so why even try. My brother had quit 10 years and he told me he wants a cigarette everyday and has to fight the urge. I didn't think I was strong enough to go through this. Now with ecigs I satisfy this urge and no longer smoke cigarettes and don't even want to.
Is this the same with everybody that has quit for any length of time or is this an isolated case.
Is this the same with everybody that has quit for any length of time or is this an isolated case.
I quit for a year and a half ... and each and every day of that , I was miserable .. I WANTED a cigarette ! Most of the time I felt like a volcano, looking for a place to explode ..... Finally I just said forget this ( well, something that amounts to that) .. and went back to smoking. Using the theory, "we all die of something", might as well be happy on my way out .... It will be year ago on Jan 2. that a friend I on line game with turned me on to e-cigs ... it was love at first sight. The first time I tried one, I was sold .. I know ,for me, it's the nicotine I'm after .. and if I can get it in a more pleasant, "healthier" way ... bring it on ! I kinda like "having my cake, and eating it too"
) .. and went back to smoking. Using the theory, "we all die of something", might as well be happy on my way out .... It will be year ago on Jan 2. that a friend I on line game with turned me on to e-cigs ... it was love at first sight. The first time I tried one, I was sold .. I know ,for me, it's the nicotine I'm after .. and if I can get it in a more pleasant, "healthier" way ... bring it on ! I kinda like "having my cake, and eating it too" 
I was thinking the same thing, kase! lololol
Strawberry - don't worry about what other people think - - do what you like!
TC
I've heard many stories about strong cravings after years of being tobacco free. Vaping seems to be the only (and first) invention that has such a high success rate.
The pile of data supporting it's safety is growing almost daily, and continues to amass.
Keep it up; be proud of the 16 year accomplishment; be happy and thankful for the simple, elegant solution we have all found in PVs.
The pile of data supporting it's safety is growing almost daily, and continues to amass.
Keep it up; be proud of the 16 year accomplishment; be happy and thankful for the simple, elegant solution we have all found in PVs.
There has been quite an interesting development. My husband has admitted to me that watching me vape is a turn on to him! You know how most men have there favorite body part (legs, ...., boobs...) well my husband has always been fascinated with my mouth and watching me with my PV it seams is just too much for him. He's been chasing me all over the house! I don't think I'm going to be getting much flack from him about using it any more. Maw haha! 
and watching me with my PV it seams is just too much for him. He's been chasing me all over the house! I don't think I'm going to be getting much flack from him about using it any more. Maw haha! 
Super super story and best of luck to you Strawbs.
Someone in this thread also said something which immediately put a lighbulb over my head - they LOVE smoking but actually HATE cigarettes! That's IT - that's just SO it!
Revelation moment there for me, glad I read the thread
Someone in this thread also said something which immediately put a lighbulb over my head - they LOVE smoking but actually HATE cigarettes! That's IT - that's just SO it!
Revelation moment there for me, glad I read the thread
Thanks - almost spewed a sip of coffee! Great story, glad to hear things are working out better than ever.
Since you are a former smoker, rather than try to talk you out of eCigs, I will just try to tell you my story of how I handled negotiating using eCigs with my wife.
Here is my experience. I quit analogs for over a year but really missed smoking, the actual physical activity of it. I got a eCig starter kit to play with, just to try out, with my wife's knowledge and understanding that I was just going to experiment/play with it and see what it was like. It might be lowest cost though to just get a disposable one to experiment with initially. I actually recently saw disposables on sale at a public quick mart, but you can get them online from a variety of sources, probably less expensively.
After I got the kit and tried vaping for a while, I decided that it fulfilled my desire to smoke sufficiently to ward off smoking an analog. Then, over supper one evening, I discussed it with my wife who is very anti smoking. I explained how hard it had been for me and that I was concerned that I might start smoking again (I had already lapsed a few times with a smoke here and there). I explained how important this was to me. I started negotiating with her about it, touching on points I knew were of concern to her.
I said I would only do it sort of "in the closet", not in front of her or people we knew. She was not happy about it initially, but said it was preferable to the possibility of my starting smoking again.
I told her that it would not produce any bad smell like analogs do, and I think that was important to her. I told her it did not have the quantity of carcinogens analogs have, and that nothing was actually burning-that it was just a vapor, not smoke, and I think that influenced her. I told her we didn't have to discuss the topic anymore if it made her uncomfortable, I just wanted to make sure we were agreed about it. I think that made it easier for her.
Finally, (and this might be too strong or overkill for some people) I also said I had decided to try this, that I was an adult making my own decision, and I was not asking for permission, I was letting her know about what I was going to do.
I apologized for being so adamant, but said that I had made the decision because I thought it was in my best interest to do so because I wanted to avoid smoking analogs.
So I have stuck to my agreement and compromises, and it has worked out fine for both of us. She is now used to and comfortable with my vaping. We do discuss it occasionally when she wants to, and she has even tried a puff or two of some of the flavored eLiquids I have gotten like Cherry to see what they are like. I feel lucky my spouse worked with me to come to a mutually agreeable solution. And after a few weeks using eCigs I stopped having any desire for an analog. There are just so many pluses to eCigs compared to analogs that when I have that urge, I'd rather go vape than smoke.
I do want to mention that I would prefer to go 0 nic myself, but have found I just can't reproduce the feel of smoking sufficiently (the throat hit) without a medium (say 14 to 18 mg) level of nicotine. However, not having smoked for so long, you may get a throat hit just from zero nic that is sufficient. I would certainly try that and alternatives like 0 nic Menthol (I hear Totally Wicked's is good; I make my own Menthol ejuice) before going with an eJuice with nicotine. I hope this helps.
Here is my experience. I quit analogs for over a year but really missed smoking, the actual physical activity of it. I got a eCig starter kit to play with, just to try out, with my wife's knowledge and understanding that I was just going to experiment/play with it and see what it was like. It might be lowest cost though to just get a disposable one to experiment with initially. I actually recently saw disposables on sale at a public quick mart, but you can get them online from a variety of sources, probably less expensively.
After I got the kit and tried vaping for a while, I decided that it fulfilled my desire to smoke sufficiently to ward off smoking an analog. Then, over supper one evening, I discussed it with my wife who is very anti smoking. I explained how hard it had been for me and that I was concerned that I might start smoking again (I had already lapsed a few times with a smoke here and there). I explained how important this was to me. I started negotiating with her about it, touching on points I knew were of concern to her.
I said I would only do it sort of "in the closet", not in front of her or people we knew. She was not happy about it initially, but said it was preferable to the possibility of my starting smoking again.
I told her that it would not produce any bad smell like analogs do, and I think that was important to her. I told her it did not have the quantity of carcinogens analogs have, and that nothing was actually burning-that it was just a vapor, not smoke, and I think that influenced her. I told her we didn't have to discuss the topic anymore if it made her uncomfortable, I just wanted to make sure we were agreed about it. I think that made it easier for her.
Finally, (and this might be too strong or overkill for some people) I also said I had decided to try this, that I was an adult making my own decision, and I was not asking for permission, I was letting her know about what I was going to do.
I apologized for being so adamant, but said that I had made the decision because I thought it was in my best interest to do so because I wanted to avoid smoking analogs.
So I have stuck to my agreement and compromises, and it has worked out fine for both of us. She is now used to and comfortable with my vaping. We do discuss it occasionally when she wants to, and she has even tried a puff or two of some of the flavored eLiquids I have gotten like Cherry to see what they are like. I feel lucky my spouse worked with me to come to a mutually agreeable solution. And after a few weeks using eCigs I stopped having any desire for an analog. There are just so many pluses to eCigs compared to analogs that when I have that urge, I'd rather go vape than smoke.
I do want to mention that I would prefer to go 0 nic myself, but have found I just can't reproduce the feel of smoking sufficiently (the throat hit) without a medium (say 14 to 18 mg) level of nicotine. However, not having smoked for so long, you may get a throat hit just from zero nic that is sufficient. I would certainly try that and alternatives like 0 nic Menthol (I hear Totally Wicked's is good; I make my own Menthol ejuice) before going with an eJuice with nicotine. I hope this helps.
Overkill? No.
I've been reading a lot of stories posted about people who basically seek and/or negotiate permission to vape from their spouses/partners. I don't understand that mentality at all.
I didn't *ask* my husband (a former smoker) if he minded that I smoked. I am an adult and I don't think it's any of his business, to be honest. I also didn't *ask* him if he minds that I vape - but he volunteered that he loves that I vape now instead of smoking. I'm glad, but even if he did not give me his blessing, I'd do it anyway.
I'm sure that he'd faint dead away from the shock if I ever asked him for permission to do something. I'm willing to compromise on many issues - we wouldn't have survived 30 years of marriage otherwise - but not in matters pertaining to smoking or vaping. Those are personal rights and decisions.
It seems really odd to me that some couples function that way - but I guess it works for them. To each his own, right?
Strawberry,
Loved reading your story. I'm a non-smoker who just joined this forum. My I joined because I ordered an e-cig for my wife who has smoked for most of her life. We've been married for 25 years and I've seen her try to quit several times. Her longest non-smoking period was about 6 months but she told me the cravings never went away. When she's really stressed, the first thing she reaches for is a cigarette.
Even though I've never smoked in my life, I do understand why smokers enjoy not just the nicotine but the whole physical act. I'm a coffee drinker (although my doctor has me on decaf) but I love the whole ritual of making coffee and that first cup in the morning. Even though I'm not getting caffine, the physical act is still very satisfying.
I'm happy to read so many positive experiences with e-cigs (even how it has sparked your love life!). My wife is still reluctant to try one but I think she'll come around in time.
Loved reading your story. I'm a non-smoker who just joined this forum. My I joined because I ordered an e-cig for my wife who has smoked for most of her life. We've been married for 25 years and I've seen her try to quit several times. Her longest non-smoking period was about 6 months but she told me the cravings never went away. When she's really stressed, the first thing she reaches for is a cigarette.
Even though I've never smoked in my life, I do understand why smokers enjoy not just the nicotine but the whole physical act. I'm a coffee drinker (although my doctor has me on decaf) but I love the whole ritual of making coffee and that first cup in the morning. Even though I'm not getting caffine, the physical act is still very satisfying.
I'm happy to read so many positive experiences with e-cigs (even how it has sparked your love life!). My wife is still reluctant to try one but I think she'll come around in time.
...My husband has admitted to me that watching me vape is a turn on to him! ... He's been chasing me all over the house! I don't think I'm going to be getting much flack from him about using it any more. Maw haha!
Now that's some quality funny, right there!
From a former ex-smoker. I feel your pain. I quit smoking long before I found vaping for about a year. As a previous poster said, the nicotine was long gone, however the DESIRE was not. Thinking I was smarter than the addiction, my return to the deadly stick started one cigarette at a time. I would bum one off a friend when hanging out. I would walk out to the smoker's tent at work at breaktime with friends and think 'Oh well, Its just one." Pretty soon I found myself back at the place that everyone knew my name, the corner convenience store, the faces were different but the routine was the same. "I'll just buy one pack then quit again." Needless to say I was up to 2+ packs a day in short order.
That being said, I wish I had known about 0 nic ecigs or that they had even been around way back when. I believe for me it was the social aspect of smoking that I missed. My cigarette had been my friend at the time for almost 20 years, it was almost 30 before I found ecigs.
By no means, grab an ecig and puff like there's no tomorrow. If you must, do it like the old "Emergency Cigarette novelty items", you know the ones "Break glass in case of emergency". I would rather see a former smoker sucking on flavored glycerine than putting a cancer stick back into their mouths and starting the cycle all over again.
That being said, I wish I had known about 0 nic ecigs or that they had even been around way back when. I believe for me it was the social aspect of smoking that I missed. My cigarette had been my friend at the time for almost 20 years, it was almost 30 before I found ecigs.
By no means, grab an ecig and puff like there's no tomorrow. If you must, do it like the old "Emergency Cigarette novelty items", you know the ones "Break glass in case of emergency". I would rather see a former smoker sucking on flavored glycerine than putting a cancer stick back into their mouths and starting the cycle all over again.
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I totally can feel and understand where you are coming from! I also loved everything about smoking, and did not by any means want to quit. I was at my last straw with the high prices, taxing and especially the complaining and worrying by my bf ( who by the way promised to never be a pain about it) But mostly through the years I worried for my family history and mother being over concerned. I thought maybe e-cig would be the solution for my obsession. I was skeptic the past two years and kept paying the price to hack. Now Since! So far since receiving my e-cig I have tried to puff off a camel menthol and about threw up. The smell, the taste, the ashes, how cold it was outside. I also love that I don't have to worry about my bf's young son smelling it our getting burned. Everytime I go outside, he wants to go outside. He thinks the cherry is like some kinda of magic fire or whatever. They say second hand smoke is the worst and I feel so good smoking my e-cig and knowing I am not hurting anyone! Not to mention one of my pet peeves was the stink on my hands and in my hair. No more of that stink! My skin on my face is less oily as well. I don't know if e-cigs are for you hun. I can say I feel their a blessings for me and I wish I had only found them years ago. I am also on the hunt for a seriously strong menthol like a Newport. I want that menthol kick off these e-cigs and I know it has to be out there Waiting on some new e's and juices. My boyfriend think's I am nuts for smoking anything, because he has never smoked in his life. So you know he tried my e-cig out of being curious. He was like whateva. He is almost jealous of it. I think he is jealous of my e-cig. I hold it and take it everywhere and am so careful it doesn't get hurt LOL Hoping you Hubby supports you! What else is a mate for Good luck to you!!
Since! So far since receiving my e-cig I have tried to puff off a camel menthol and about threw up. The smell, the taste, the ashes, how cold it was outside. I also love that I don't have to worry about my bf's young son smelling it our getting burned. Everytime I go outside, he wants to go outside. He thinks the cherry is like some kinda of magic fire or whatever. They say second hand smoke is the worst and I feel so good smoking my e-cig and knowing I am not hurting anyone! Not to mention one of my pet peeves was the stink on my hands and in my hair. No more of that stink! My skin on my face is less oily as well. I don't know if e-cigs are for you hun. I can say I feel their a blessings for me and I wish I had only found them years ago. I am also on the hunt for a seriously strong menthol like a Newport. I want that menthol kick off these e-cigs and I know it has to be out there Waiting on some new e's and juices. My boyfriend think's I am nuts for smoking anything, because he has never smoked in his life. So you know he tried my e-cig out of being curious. He was like whateva. He is almost jealous of it. I think he is jealous of my e-cig. I hold it and take it everywhere and am so careful it doesn't get hurt LOL Hoping you Hubby supports you! What else is a mate for Good luck to you!!Yes, as you say, every couple is different. It wasn't overkill for me, I just recognize it would be for some couples. My wife and I do ask one another's permission and negotiate in certain areas, subject and context dependent, depending on how important the subject is to both of us. It is just the way our relationship has evolved over the years to try to communicate better.
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