New to the Woman's Room!

[Mingolvr]

New here! Hi all!!

I found out my e-cig addiction has caused me to become a total social outcast...I spend most of my free time HERE reading EVERYTHING!!!..lol...kidding..I just now got to the "Women's Room" though. Think I'll sit and vape a spell.

I am new to vaping. Just under a month. I bought 6 cartons of analogs the last day of June just before the price went up $10 a carton. I figured I'd get my e-cig by the time they ran out and be ready to make the "big switch"...um, so far a no-go, but I am trying very hard. I will NOT buy anymore cartons. I've only bought a few packs since the cartons ran out. Yes, I was a heavy 2-3 pack a day smoker, more on nights I couldn't sleep...like tonight.

I am a widow. My husband and I owned an 18 wheeler, and he was killed last year in Tampa, FL. He broke down and as he got out of his truck, another 18 wheeler stuck and killed him instantly. We had just moved back to Ft Lauderdale 2 months before after our 2 sons we both in the Army. Time for "us"...nope. 2 months. All we got. 26 1/2yrs came to a screeching halt. I was 45.

Since then, my (now) 20yr old son got a divorce and full custody of his (now) 2yr old daughter, and was deployed to Iraq last December. I'm playing full time grandma to her while he's away. My mother lives with me and we both care for her. My other son has left the Army and is now married and expecting his first child in Feb. Grandma x2!!!

I have moved on a bit. I have met a wonderful man. I wasn't looking to meet someone and neither was he. Guess what? 5 months of BLISS! I feel my husband put him in front of me that day in the grocery store. I KNOW he did. This guy is a total opposite of my husband, but treats me like a queen, just like he did. Divine intervention? He's a personal chef and boy can he cook!!!...I love the weekends!

I started looking at e-cigs a few months ago. I finally bought a 510 Titan from Totally Wicked, simply because I could't wait for an order to get here from China! Now I also own a 901. Love both for different reasons.

Favorite flavors so far are Loran's Apple and Raspberry. I also got some Capella flavors. Mixed Vanilla and coffee bean for a Latte...good. Banana and Chocolate are ok, but I want more sweet from that..I'm thinking I'll get some marshmallow or something to throw in. I have a few more flavors yet to try.

Well, enough about me...lol...started as an intro, turned into a book...be warned I do that!

Take care,
Lori

 

[SudokuGal]

Welcome to the Women's Room, Ming.

I live near Tampa and remember hearing about your husband's tragic death - how awful that must have been for you. I do believe that those who have crossed over can accomplish things on this side for us, such as putting the new person in your life. What a truly loving thing he did for you.

Regarding, getting off analogs...don't stress out about it...for some of us, I think it just takes a little time. I, too, was a heavy smoker for many, many years. Now, I have 1 to 3 a day...unless I'm doing yard work and then I may have more. But I'm not worried about it, giving how many I'm NOT smoking.

I think you'll like this group, and, again, WELCOME.

 

[Jennee26]

Welcome to the women's room, Ming!

 

[slykchyk]

Hi all, I am also pretty new to the e-cigs and first time in the women's room. I just read Ming's story and I can really feel for you. I lost mine at 45 also, married 25 years. He had a heart atttack and would not go to the hospital for about 36 hours, was gone the day after. "Nothing wrong with me!"

I started on the E-cigs shortly before getting on the forum and I have probably had 2 packs since then. Hoping to quit analogs pretty shortly, if things don't get messed up today.

Hi to all, glad to meet ya.
Live east of Fort Myers, Florida; on Matlacha, just before Pine Island.

Terri

 

[SudokuGal]

Hi Terri...welcome. Oh, MaryKay is going to be so happy with more new members!

 

[rejoice]

Good to meet you ming. Welcome to the woman's room. Sorry to hear of your loss in the past. Seems to me you are a heavy smoker,like me. I had to get the high volt e-cigs to be satisfied. There are many now to pick from. MaryKay is the member that is head of the woman's group. She just lost her mother yesterday and will be real busy for a few days. Any questions the rest of us can help. Just ask on..

 

[Jennee26]

Hi Terri...welcome. Oh, MaryKay is going to be so happy with more new members!

Sudoku - Marykay probably set the traps to get them here.

 

[SueandCootie]

Welcome! I'm beginning to feel I live too far north for this, you guys can all laugh at me when I go to shovel snow..that White Christmas thing only goes so far! (kidding, I like it here) Of course, you guys are getting those tropical swirly rainy things now..

Ming, don't worry about a slow change to ecigs, I jumped in immediately, stopped smoking cold turkey when I got my ecig, but my unhappy thyroid had an issue with that. Should have gone slow...taking it easy can be best!

 

[slykchyk]

Oh, I love Soduko. When ever I get five free minutes that is what I do. I also do them when I go to bed at night. Hello to every one and thank you for your kind greetings.

Terri

 

[slykchyk]

Oops, Sudoko. Can't believe I do transcription for a living. Where's the spellchecker. Never mind, I found it.

Terri

 

[Kelly79]

New here! Hi all!!

Well, enough about me...lol...started as an intro, turned into a book...be warned I do that!

Take care,
Lori

Hi all, I am also pretty new to the e-cigs and first time in the women's room.
Hi to all, glad to meet ya.
Live east of Fort Myers, Florida; on Matlacha, just before Pine Island.

Terri

Welcome! I'm beginning to feel I live too far north for this, you guys can all laugh at me when I go to shovel snow..that White Christmas thing only goes so far! (kidding, I like it here) Of course, you guys are getting those tropical swirly rainy things now..

Ming, don't worry about a slow change to ecigs, I jumped in immediately, stopped smoking cold turkey when I got my ecig, but my unhappy thyroid had an issue with that. Should have gone slow...taking it easy can be best!

Ming, Terri welcome to the Women's room.

Oh please Sue, your not very far north at all, my family lives in Alaska, and next year so will I. San Diego to Alaska there's a shock to the system for ya, at least this time it won't be in the dead of winter like it was when my momma first moved us there, 70> above to -40 below zero in the span of a day, and no winter clothing. To top off the freezing misery my grandps's heat was out in his truck, can you say brrrrrr. I don't look forward to shoveling snow next winter, I don't care how good it'll be for my figure, where's mr.freezy smiley lol.

 

[Jennee26]

Of course, you guys are getting those tropical swirly rainy things now..
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@ tropical swirly rainy things. Yes we are and they suck.

 

[Mary Kay]

Lori and terri, Welcome to the Women's Room! As you can see we have a good hearted bunch in here! Feel free you post anywhere you please. We have 7 or maybe now it's 8 pages of topics to choose from!

A few weeks back one of the guys asked how my little sewing group was doing! I told him we were getting close to 200..hello little sewing group! We have since passed 200 and are headed for 250! I love it!

I am sorry to hear about both of your husbands, I don't know what I would do without the pill I am married to! He keeps me both crazy and sane. The road back must have been long and hard. It's good you found someone Lori..and a prince to boot! What about you Terri?

I am from Tampa, but I live in St. Cloud near Orlando now. I would like to invite both of you to join the Florida Vapor's Club. We are still small but growing fast! 80 something members so far. Ivisi does a good job modding it.
Florida Vapors Club

Rejoice, That was kind of you to help out with the welcoming and keeping up the forum for me. It's nice to know things are well in hand.

There is nothing to do right now. Mom's wish was to be creamated and buried in Tampa with her family. The wheels turn slowly in Florida if you are to be cremated, i can't even get her ashes for about 10 to 12 days and then I have to wait for the headstone. I want it in place when my family gathers at the grave. Plus it takes two weeks to get the death certificate, I need to present that so they know who is being buried where.
This place is my happy place ..I grieved for the last 3 months, it wasn't a shock, but a Blessing when she fell asleep for the last time.

No I didn't trap them! They fell down the shute to our Room all on their own! Drat..how did I miss them...must get a bigger lure!

 

[Mingolvr]

Thank you all for the welcome.

SudokuGal, I can't believe you were so close and remember that. I saw the article in the Tampa paper, and they emailed me asking for a story about him, but I just couldn't do that at the time. It was awful, the sob that hit him swore my husband "jumped" in front of him. That statement alone made the last year a nightmare. It's all cleared up now, except for the legal ends. Those will take years I'm sure. The fact that the sob and I share the same birthday will ALWAYS serve as a reminder of the worst day of my life. One day he'll get a birthday card from me.

MK, I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of your mother, but I know that "relief" feeling. Lost my father after a short but hard illness..often that last sleep is the best for all. As for the Floria red tape, tell ME about it! I wanted to say goodbye to my husband, he'd left the night before and loaded in the morning, by lunch it was over. The ME held his body for 3 days (24hrs longer than the "non-embalmed viewing" rules allow). The funeral director said I couldn't see him unless I had him embalmed and in a casket. My sons both flew in on emergency leave and wanted to see him too. My lawyer had to get in on this and told the lady, go ahead do what you need to do--this family NEEDS to say goodbye. When the director said that would be another $4,000 and he said "just do it" she relented and said we could have 5 minutes. In the end it was all ok, we got nearly an hour with him and he wasn't as bad as you would expect someone hit by and 18 wheeler doing 75mph might look. I only got to see his face, but that was enough. Sorry, I still tend to recall and say far more than necessary.

Terry, I'm glad to hear I am not alone. My friends didn't know how to treat me. Too young to be a widow (yeah, really?), not divorced, SINGLE (OMG I'm out to steal everyone's husbands!!..) it was horrible. I've done relatively well, considering most of those friends just stopped calling and talking to me. I've got new friends now. It does take time and I still have days that I just lose it, or Pete is on my mind. It hurts more than I can say, even though I have a wonderful man in my life now.

I already joined the Florida Vapors board. Nice people there. I'm hoping to join everyone one day at a meet and vape gathering. Driving doesn't bother me one bit! I have to go to Tampa soon and actually can't wait, just so I can make the drive.

I really enjoy the vaping, and hope the anti-smoking gangs leave us all alone to do what we can to kick the smelly habit and at least be better off than before.

 

[SudokuGal]

Sorry, I still tend to recall and say far more than necessary.

Terry, I'm glad to hear I am not alone. My friends didn't know how to treat me. Too young to be a widow (yeah, really?), not divorced, SINGLE (OMG I'm out to steal everyone's husbands!!..) it was horrible. I've done relatively well, considering most of those friends just stopped calling and talking to me. I've got new friends now. It does take time and I still have days that I just lose it, or Pete is on my mind. It hurts more than I can say, even though I have a wonderful man in my life now.

Oh, never worry about saying more than necessary in this group. I believe you can only heal what you can express.

Wow, I'm amazed by your former friends; glad to hear that you've made new ones 'cause you certainly don't need people like the old ones in your life.

 

[Jennee26]

We are a multi faceted (sp?) forum here. Jokes, Support Group, Venting, Just about anything goes here except insulting others in the forum and intentionally making them feel uncomfortable. I love it here. And the new friends made from Vaping. I wish I could meet everybody! Ming, you sound like a strong woman and if they were going to stop calling you after all that, then imo they weren't real friends to begin with.

 

[Mary Kay]

You get an AMEN! to that Jennee.
I believe friends are like growing things..flowers to be tended and weeds to be uprooted and tossed.
You just need to learn which is witch!
here's a handy little artical.
http://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Poisonous-Friends

 

[slykchyk]

Hello, and thank you all for the warm welcome. I think I am really going to like it in here, it not all about the e-cig for a change, that is behind the other door.

Oh, heavens Ming, you are not alone. Once the husband is gone the attractive young widow become a threat. Been there, done that. I also had someone at my side when I took my husband to the hospital finally. He and his wife were close friends of my husband and me. He got a divorce 6 months before this happened, and 12 years later he is still here. He stuck to me like velcro. HAHAHa. That raised a few eyebrows. Life is good, and like you it is totally different second time around.

Thanks again everyone.

Terri

 

[slykchyk]

I know it hurts for quite a while but being able to talk about it helps and it will fade to black and white with time. One day you will just walk out into the early morning sun and think about something silly that he did and just giggle. That is the turning point. You'll get there.

If you ever need to talk just get a hold of me, I am here all the time

Terri

 

[slykchyk]

Hey Ming, you like birds, check out my album, I have three of them. My little grey loves to sing with Merle Haggard and is quite a snappy dancer.

Terri