New vaper, need help w. Hubbs

[MommyDragon]

Hi, I'm new to ECF. I've been a smoker for over 10 years. I've "taken breaks" from smoking for 1year stints a few times. More recently I was in a cycle of smoking & hating it, & having my husband make known his disgust with my nasty habit; then "quitting" & being super moody, all the while gnawing on nic gum until my jaw & teeth hurt.

A few days ago I decided to buy a pack of cigarettes as I was super stressed. Instead I picked up a greensmartliving e-cig. And I FELL IN LOVE!! It's everything that I love about smoking & nothing that I hate! I've been doing a ton of research on PV's & I'm thinking of investing in the KR8 model.
***what's the difference between vc (vertical coil) & hc (horizontal coil) cartomizers?***

The only problem I have with vaping is my husband... When I shared my elation at finding a less hazardous, non stinky, super cool alternative to smoking he told me he was disappointed & that vaping is disgusting.
When I explained that it's just flavored vapor (with optional nicotine) he suggested that I chew nic gum while hyperventilating in the shower :/ Lol

Has anyone else met this kind of resistance from a loved one??

Any kr8 users care to share their experience & advice??

Thanks

 

[LouEyez]

surprisingly my wife was completely for it...she even lets me vape in the house since it's only vapor and actualy smells good.
The bottom line is that your hubby wants you to quit, but if you just switch, I think he'll eventually come around...even though I don't know you or him
Sorry but I don't know anything about the kr8 but I'll go check it out now that you mentioned it.

Good Luck

 

[Caridwen]

A very informal poll of people who have quit smoking when they started vaping
http://www.e-cigarette-forum.com/forum/polls/6470-e-cig-success-rate.html

Gum and patches have about a 23% success rate, 15% after the first year.

Does he want you to stop smoking? Is he a betting man?

 

[MommyDragon]

Kr8 (pronounced "kreight") is the abbreviation for the KR808. It has many different brand names, depending on supplier...

he absolutly wants me to stop smoking!! haha.... I'm just so suprised at his reaction since vaping is NOT smoking, yet it meets the same needs as my analog cigarette addiction.

I guess for now I'll keep the vaping out of his face (literally & figuratively) & hope that he comes around.

Thanks for the responses!

 

[Ken_A]

Tell him that if he wants you to quit smoking, he is going to have to accept that the best way for you to do so is to address one problem at a time. First get rid of the Toxic part of Smoking. Then reduce the addictive component until you do not need it. Then decide for yourself if you want to keep vaping.

 

[Caridwen]

There are quite a few very popular KR808's on the market- Volt, V4L, Bloog, Halo to name just a few.

You can try ordering some with prefilled cartomizers to figure out the type of flavor and nicotine concentration you want, but I'm sure you'll eventually want to purchase empty cartomizers and fill them yourself.

 

[Renolizzie]

Tell him you are quitting the stinkies and that you are in such a good mood instead of being a B. I know Hubby actually appreciates that I am not in a tearful puddle alternating with anger spikes. And, it does smell so much better than cigs.

 

[gavind4]

Yes! I am on day 166 vaping and my wife still thinks i'm smoking! I think she still has a boyfriend. Do what you know is best for you. Kiss him often to prove it's not the same as cigs. Best wishes.

 

[cags]

............... super cool alternative to smoking he told me he was disappointed & that vaping is disgusting.

I'd tell him I was disappointed in his lack of support in my effort to quit smoking! my husband also hated that I smoked......and I always wondered why on earth he would marry a smoker! (he never said a word about my smoking before we got married)

 

[jacktyme]

I'm looking for some juice

 

[Racehorse]

The bottom line is that your hubby wants you to quit, but if you just switch, I think he'll eventually come around...

I agree. Once you no longer smell like an ashtray, he will love it.

also find out what smells he likes.......and try out some vapes like that. He likes apple pie, or apple cider, or peppermint, he might not find vaping "disgusting" since a lot of people around me always tell me what a nice smell my ejuice has !

 

[serenity21899]

My husband really does not mind that his car or house smells like raspberry now. He was the one that got me started in fact.

 

[MommyDragon]

Thanks to all

I ordered a volt kit & some juice samplers (woo hoo! Time to watch the mail, lol) I'll continue with the GSL until that gets here...
I fully intend on filling & refilling once I figure out my preferences.

I don't know how to quote, but the chick who's husband married her as a smoker:
Same story here!! I quit for fertility treatment but started back up a few months after the baby was born... & my husband was like, "..., I thought you quit?" I almost laughed at him... I'd been smoking since I was 13 & had "quit" more times than I could count! Haha

But I feel really good about vaping... I don't even think I'll need nicotine eventually. My analoge addiction was a major psychological addiction. (i crave the experience of smoking more than my body craves nicotine)

 

[Dana A]

Oh Mommy Dragon! This is going to be a journey for you. Let your hubbs know that you have tried to do as he asked and you just cannot do it. It's not that you want to let him down but you just can't help it. Ask him if it's so important to him to be superior that it's worth it to him to see you heart broken due to your own failure. Ask him to give up a favorite hobby or food of his or the thing husbands and wives do together (don't know if I can say the big S word on ECF without getting spanked)for the rest of his life to show him some what of what you face with cig smoking. If he is not a smoker he will not ever be able to feel your pain. Good luck with the volt. Let us know how it's going and don't be afraid to ask questions here. We are here to support you. It's what we do. My husband hated my smoking too. When I told him I was gonna vape he just said that's great. I know he was thinking I would never quit even with vaping but here we are a year later. Enuff said.

 

[Ast_Isis]

My husband researched and bought my first e-cig. After 12 years of watching me struggle with quitting and the repeated failures he figured I had nothing to lose by trying this method. Needless to say, I have not touched a cigarette in 3+ years and have absolutely no desire for them.

I still vape and have no intentions of quitting. Everyone is happy I no longer smoke including my doctor.

 

[USDMS13]

When I informed my wife of my plan to quit smoking via my e-go, I explained how the device works,estimated cost to pocket book and my heath( and hers). She was nothing short of ecstatic! The reaction you received is so far from what should be given. It doesn't make sense to me at all. Maybe you stay the course regardless. Why that string of words would be met with anything but praise is beyond me. I tried literally everything to quit and my wife knew it. She is so pleased to see me living without those nails in my mouth. So I am confused...

 

[Morticia Locke]

Some people have a vested interest in things staying the same. Dana's comment about your husband needing to feel superior sounded spot on to me. Good Luck

 

[Itsatushie]

Okay so I smoked and my hubby smoked. we were just a pair of smoking fools. all our actions as a couple were rewarded with smoking. sex, smoke, clean house together, smoke, make dinner and eat together... you get the idea. we smoked outside so we would cuddle up under a blanket in the "smoking chairs".

I switched first. I still dont feel comfortable saying quit because it was easy. I have an emotional melt down when i quit. I am a pretty stable person who has a lot of depression and bi polar in my family. I was the sane one... But not having nicotine makes me into an emotional wreck. Longest i had quit was 1 month in the past and i felt like i needed to be locked up so i smoked again and felt "normal" again. But I digress

Hubby always said he could quit at anytime and was a vape doubter .

Well he ended up switching too instead of quiting, so much for I only cant quit because you smoke. I always knew that was BS.

Anyway my mother in law who hates smoking, is an ex smoker of 20+ years and her never smoked before husband allow us to vape in the car with them and in their house. (it still feels weird though).

Not only are they and many others who care about us supportive, they are proud of us. I smoked 22 years almost to the day, hubby smoked 25ish years.
They understood it was an addiction... Well still is, we are addicted to nicotine, they also understood that while my husband had delusions of quitting cold turkey at any time I am a sensitive person, i worry, i stress and i over think. I am also a chronic insomniac and I had quit quitting. I was not ever going to put myself through that hell again, smoking is my way of coping. And frankly I did not want to give up my last vice. I quit many worse things i used to do in my long ago past I figure i kept the least destructive and the legal one.

It is a bummer that he is not supportive. My hubby was but thought it was silly till he tried it. And really I would have been fine if he had kept smoking, its his choice. I stand with the smokers during our breaks and I vape while they smoke. Smoking or vaping is a personal choice, i am glad i found this alternative but I do not begrudge anyone for doing ether one. (but i do tell all my smoking friends all about my AVP, and where to buy them).

I do believe you have found a supportive community here.

PS I "quit" for a year one time using gum and it really messed up my teeth.

 

[Namir]

Blegh~ You mentioned nic gum. Anyone who ever suggests it as a viable option has never tried it, I'll bet. I don't know how to describe how horrible it tastes, but it's somewhere between "I didn't know they designed a new torture for people who want to quit smoking" and "Wow! I didn't know Willy Wonka was making roadkill and burned tire gum! This is even better than the stuff that turns you into a blueberry!"

 

[Paulette]

Mommydragon -- I so sympathize with you because my hubby's response was a little similar. I was a pack-a-day smoker for 42 years. We've been married just coming on 20 years and I only quit for about 1 week 1 time before the vaping. I was devastated to hear his comments about vaping -- mostly he said it was still smoking and just snake-oil-salesmen mentality. I told him that I was disappointed with his thoughts, but thanked him for being truthful to me.

His attitude slowly changed when many of our friends (upon finding out that I had quit the stinkies) gave me all kinds of congrats and kudos for quitting. Some even would say to the hubby -- aren't you estatic and proud of her. I would then tell them what he thought about it. After about 3 months, he told me if I wanted to vape in the house it was a-okay with him.

Give the hubby a little time and he will probably come around! Good luck to you Mommydragon!