Off to court tomorrow :(

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Wicked84

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Hey guys!

Going to court tomorrow to get a divorce started. I need all the help I can get to keep my kids with me. I've never been much of a God fearing man but if any of you out there are please say some kind words for me tonight. Just tell God that Dave needs some help tomorrow. :)

The short, and not so sweet: Last year in April my wife stopped taking a strong anti-depressant that she had been taking for the past 15 years. sense that day my world has fallen apart. I have accepted the fact that she wants to leave and I've come to terms with that. However, I was recently presented with a custody arrangement that would only allow me to see my kids every other weekend and on Tuesdays (she works overnight on that day). My kids have been my world for the last 10 years of my life. When I wake up in the morning they are usually already laying with me. When I come home from work we're practically attached at the hips (one on each side). On the weekends we're inseparable. I have a 10 year old daughter and a 6 year old son.

Living in North Carolina, the mother of the family already gets bonus points in the eyes of the law. I would never want to keep my kids from their mom but in the same sentence I would never want my kids away from me.

Sorry for the sob story. I'm up late and chain vaping to try to get rid of this anxiety. I'm always lurking these pages so I figured I would share my current predicament and try to let some of this stress flow out of my fingertips and into the keyboard.


Moderators: I apologize this has absolutely nothing to do with vaping, other than the fact that I'm quitting the cigarettes for my kids. Maybe that's good enough to keep my post up long enough to try to catch some good vibes for tomorrow.
 

DetraMental

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Prayers sent. My son just recently went through pretty much the same exact thing. I did alot of praying and believe it or not things did work out! Stay positive no matter how bad you feel, keep reaching for positive thoughts. Congrats on quitting the cigarettes and being able to vape your way through this. God bless!
 

Bolivar

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Dave-
I'll ask The Man to help you along when I tell him thank you tonight. Divorce often is a very turbulent time...been there, done that and she got the T-shirt. Stay strong, stand up for what is rightfully yours and know that there will be better days ahead. I hope tomorrow turns out well for you, but ( personal opinion here) men often get the dirty end of the stick in Family Court.

Vape hard and don't give in to the stink sticks. Hit your PV like a kid with a new drum set....often and hard. Best of luck to you and your kids.




Sent from the north 40 via messenger cow.
 

Wicked84

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I knew this day was coming for the past three months but I never, not even for a second, through that anything other than 50/50 custody was anything she would consider. Two days ago I found out that she wanted me to only have visitation every other weekend. Saying I was blown away doesn't even come close to the feeling that I have been experiencing sense finding out.
 

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Sending good vibes your way and also toward your children. I'm sure this is a tough spot to be in and it sounds like everyone involved will need strength to make it through. My heart goes out to you.

Glad you decided to vape and type rather than choose some less skillful options. Tonight you've made some good choices and that bodes well for you tomorrow. I hope you are able to get a reasonable night's sleep.

May you be happy, peaceful, light in body and spirit.
May you be safe and free from harm.
May you be free from anger, resentment, fear, doubt and anxiety.
May you feel connected to something larger than you are, accepting that we don't always know the big picture, especially when we feel we are in the middle of it.
Be well and peace.
Namaste.
 

Racehorse

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Aw Wicked, I will pray for "best outcome for all involved".

This is never easy, it's traumatic, one of those big bumps in life's road. but somebody once told me that any and all decisions can be the right one if carried out with zest and style and thoughtfulness, and I think going forward everyone will settle in to the changes.

It sounds like you reallly love your kids and because they know that, everything will be okay cuz that's all that matters.

I hope the judge gives you a little more time with your kids for sure
 
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