Off to court tomorrow :(

[stylemaster2001]

LOL, good luck with the "work" to help clear your head.....you are in a "personal" situation and I'd take bets that you wont be able to concentrate too well at work. (for now) But that too will clear and become easier, I promise. One other piece of advice (not that you are asking for it, but it is a passionate thing for me having lived thru it) Don't sweat the little things...don't piss over stuff that in a year or 5 years wont matter a damn either way. I remember after the ruling, SHE broke into my house and took half the silverware, cookware, etc...(half for 1 person, half for 1 and 2 kids...fair right?) About two weeks later I went to make spaghetti for me and the kids and reached for the colander to drain the noodles......yup, she TOOK IT!!!!! And she never cooks. I let that EAT me inside/out for a long time, cussing at the walls, calling my folks and .....ing about a $1 colander. So, when you find the blood pressure rising, ask yourself, will this affect the kids today, or will it matter to me in 5 years.....if the answer is no....let it go.

Oh, and if she's gonna keep the computer and not leave you with one....go buy a memory stick so you can copy everything you need off the computer....pics, misc. stuff.....

 

[motoman883]

i went trough the same thing about 14 yrs ago the judge wouldn't go for that every weekend thing she wanted so we went with a 2 day 3 day and weekend deal she had them mon,tues,wed then i had them thurs,fri and the weekend then sunday was the switch day i would get mon-wed. that week and she would get Thurs-Sun.When they got in their teens we just kinda let them make their own schedule, my oldest lived with me for the most part then my middle son as he got older pretty much stayed with me also ,my daughter which is 18 now stayed with her mom more often , when their teen they dont really want to stay with either lol. Be strong brother it sucks and will suck for a little while but it WILL get better and the chaos will pass before you know it, and your kids will be alright they will adjust with a little help from you and their mom.Stay cool and keep calm around them....I bit my tongue many many times in the last 14 yrs.

 

[stylemaster2001]

Motoman, I quickly realized that is the beauty of at least trying to keep civil with the ex.....once you are out of court, if you both agree to an arrangement, you can do it...just cause its written as whatever doesn't mean it has to stay that way as long as both parties agree. We were suppose to alternate the holidays....one year xmas day, next year xmas eve, etc.....we found it easier for both families to keep a more set schedule, so my family always did our thing xmas eve, then hers did theirs xmas day. we never rotated, hey, it worked. (we still do that schedule to this day and both mine are married now)